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Old 02-15-2012, 01:17 PM   #81
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It got way easier when I got old, although in a tricky morph, society has recalibarated its idea of when one is old enough to retire, so people still make the default asumption that I am working at a job.

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Old 02-15-2012, 01:20 PM   #82
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I went to the dentist the other day and had a new hygienist clean my teeth. She asked me what I did for a living. I paused, not sure how to respond and not quite yet willing to refer to myself as retired. I just told her that I was between jobs and taking some time off. Perhaps I'll get more comfortable with referring to myself as retired, particularly with strangers, as time goes on.

I guess it is the potential obvious connection with being retired at my age (56) and being "wealthy" (or more the public perception of being wealthy) that bothers me. I've always had wealth in the closet as a LBYMer, but to be retired at this age makes it more obvious, and uncomfortably so.

Any others with this "hang up"?
I used to be less comfortable about revealing my ER status to acquaintances such the hygienist you described. But that soon wore off and now I answer it proudly, even though I am only 48 and have ERed for 3 years. If they ask me how I did it, I tell them.

I hope it wears off for you, too.
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A while back I had an ER friend answer "property manager" to The Question. When asked which properties, she smiled and said "mine".
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A while back I had an ER friend answer "property manager" to The Question. When asked which properties, she smiled and said "mine".
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Yeah, I am considering investment manager or personal financial planner until I get comfortable with "retired".
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I can't wait until I'm fully ER'd. I think being retired will be easier to explain than what my friends refer to as my "arrangement". Some people don't understand part time work any more than early retirement. So when people call or email me asking what I'm doing, I always answer "working".
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Old 02-18-2012, 11:57 AM   #87
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Finally after 3 years of not working and fielding numerous questions from friends, family, total strangers about when I was going to be getting a job they seem to have stopped. I figure they have just decided that I am lazy and are not going to bother asking any more.
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I figure they have just decided that I am lazy and are not going to bother asking any more.
They've decided that your unemployment benefits have run out, and they're afraid that you're going to start asking them for money.

Or so I've read about similar situations...
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They've decided that your unemployment benefits have run out, and they're afraid that you're going to start asking them for money.

Or so I've read about similar situations...
Now THAT is an image I would be happy to encourage. The other way around elicits two reactions when people know I'm retiring this year; either jealousy for something I do not deserve, (guess they know me better than I thought, ha!) or holding their hand out since I obviously have more money than I know what to do with if I can afford to quit working.
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Finally after 3 years of not working and fielding numerous questions from friends, family, total strangers about when I was going to be getting a job they seem to have stopped. I figure they have just decided that I am lazy and are not going to bother asking any more.
This describes my situation exactly, though I'm only two years in.
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In the UK there is no early retirement age, you have to reach 65, although a timeline is now in place to increase this to 67 between 2034 and 2036.
The law has only recently changed. It used to be that women could retire at 60 but men had to wait until 65. Not sure if this was just for government workers, but my older sister was born in the last year that this applied, and retired at 60 on a full government pension just a few years ago.
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The law has only recently changed. It used to be that women could retire at 60 but men had to wait until 65. Not sure if this was just for government workers, but my older sister was born in the last year that this applied, and retired at 60 on a full government pension just a few years ago.
That's correct. I didn't want to complicate the post with the differences between men and women, which the law is now in the process of equalizing.
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I'm assuming this is a type-o, but it is a damn good one. Brings forth quite the image.
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I guess I'm just a show off, because I enjoy it when people ask what I do and I say I'm retired. I like to see the surprise on their faces. I enjoy the "but you're too young..." and "Whadya do all day?"

I worked hard for it, and I'm proud of it.
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I guess I'm just a show off, because I enjoy it when people ask what I do and I say I'm retired. I like to see the surprise on their faces. I enjoy the "but you're too young..." and "Whadya do all day?"

I worked hard for it, and I'm proud of it.
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I'm a consultant.

Who do you work for?
I'm an independent, self-employed consultant, so I work from home.

What kind of consulting do you do?
It's a very specialized field, but it involves financial transactions. How about you? What kind of w*rk do you do?

The subject has now been shifted, and is unlikely to circle back.
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I guess I'm just a show off, because I enjoy it when people ask what I do and I say I'm retired. I like to see the surprise on their faces. I enjoy the "but you're too young..." and "Whadya do all day?"

I worked hard for it, and I'm proud of it.
+1 I started working at 14 with a paper route and held a j*b until age 54. I, too, am unashamed of my own success.
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I guess I'm just a show off, because I enjoy it when people ask what I do and I say I'm retired. I like to see the surprise on their faces. I enjoy the "but you're too young..." and "Whadya do all day?"

I worked hard for it, and I'm proud of it.
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I'm a consultant.
Who do you work for?
I'm an independent, self-employed consultant, so I work from home.
What kind of consulting do you do?
It's a very specialized field, but it involves financial transactions. How about you? What kind of w*rk do you do?
The subject has now been shifted, and is unlikely to circle back.
Unless the next question is:
"Hey, cool, man, my usual source hasn't made bail yet, so do you think you could sell me a dime baggie to tide me over?"
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