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Old 06-23-2014, 12:46 PM   #21
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We're considering retiring to a favorite vacation location that's several hundred miles from where we live now. For those of you who've done such a move, what was your experience?
Like others have said, rent there for 6 months (during the worst season) to see what it's like to live there. And vacation is very different than permanent residence as others have also noted.

Adapting to relocation is not universal, so the experiences of others may not provide any insight. DW and I moved all our lives, so we know we adapt easily, we welcome change (where we are now has gotten stale, someplace new has a lot lf appeal to us - but we'll rent first for 6-12 months). Folks who've lived their lives in one (or few) locations may not adapt easily.
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I think it might depend on your background. We moved when we retired about eight years ago. It was about 120 miles from where we lived, and same distant from DD and family.

However, for us it was no big thing. We spent 20 years in the military. We moved 11 times in the first 13 years, we had moved I think about 19 times during the total 47 years we have been married. Big moves, like Florida to Germany, or Germany to Hawaii. Therefore, moving was not a big deal. In all those moves we had developed an pretty good idea what we were looking for, and found the ideal spot for us.

Another word on 'close to family'. While DD and family remain a couple of hours away, we don't see them as much as we would like, but here again they have thought of moving five or six hundred miles away for new jobs. DS, on the other hand is a Marine, and he is from one coast to the other. I guess my point is there is no guarantee you will live close to family, unless you plan on following them around in their careers.
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Old 06-23-2014, 01:18 PM   #23
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We heard we should rent first, but we did not. We followed our gut feelings. We left Chicago for the upstate of South Carolina. Built a home we always wanted to build. We have found, by chance, pure dumb luck, or fate, the place of our dreams. We have discovered so many new and exciting opportunities to keep us over busy. We have now have the best friends we have ever had in our married life. I realize this may be atypical, but we have no regrets, zero!

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We moved almost 5000 miles, so I think we do have a perspective on the question. After 7 years, our regrets are few if any. It's true that there are downsides to any move (especially of a significant distance.) Our biggest downside was the distance from old friends. The kids have scattered and we have relatively few other relatives. We figure "the planes go both directions", so no one has an excuse (unless economic) for "missing" us too much. We DO spend a long time (2 to 3 months) each year "back home."

You do need to "know" yourself. Also, don't count on a move to dramatically "improve" your life. YOU are still YOU no matter where you are. But, moving to a location with lower crime, better weather, more to do or quieter life style - whatever is your "thing" - can be very rewarding. Most of the significant downsides of your move should be KNOWABLE before you move. There will be a few surprises, but no big ones if you do your homework. Of course, YMMV.
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We moved within six weeks of retirement but only moved ~60 miles, from the Washington, DC area to the WV eastern panhandle. No regrets, and every time we have to go back there we're reminded why we left - having to plan our daily lives around that traffic.

We are rethinking the importance of being close to family though. One of the major issues in moving to WV instead of one of the Carolinas was proximity to family. During that time one of my sisters moved to Delaware, the other followed and then there were three there (one is a half-sister). Visiting them now requires an overnight trip since it's a four-hour drive. Then my younger sister moved from DE to just outside Atlanta, GA. All of them had been in the same location for 10 to 40 years.

The lesson learned is don't plan your location on what you think others will do.
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One more thing. After moving to SC, both of our kids and families moved to within 30 minutes of our new location. Go figure, they apparently like us.
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Adapting to relocation is not universal, so the experiences of others may not provide any insight. DW and I moved all our lives, so we know we adapt easily, we welcome change (where we are now has gotten stale, someplace new has a lot lf appeal to us - but we'll rent first for 6-12 months). Folks who've lived their lives in one (or few) locations may not adapt easily.
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I think this is important. We've lived in many different homes in different areas so a relo would be no big deal. For someone who spent his or her whole life in one city, that may be a more difficult adjustment.

One other thing to keep in mind - you can always move back. We were torturing ourselves about where the perfect spot might be only to realize that we should just give it a try and look for another spot if it isn't the right place. They say you can't go home again...sure you can...that's the freedom FIRE gives you.

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We plan to move (maybe) in 3+ years, when I retire. DH is concerned about making new friends, as I'm a bit of an introvert. So, out of curiosity, for those of you who have wonderful new friends, how'd you unearth them? Neighbors? Church? Clubs? Activities?
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We plan to move (maybe) in 3+ years, when I retire. DH is concerned about making new friends, as I'm a bit of an introvert. So, out of curiosity, for those of you who have wonderful new friends, how'd you unearth them? Neighbors? Church? Clubs? Activities?
Is there a newcomers group, or meetup, in your area?

I am a strong introvert. I joined a newcomers group, which has about 25 different activities. It's been wonderful. I now have a large circle of friends and the time to get together with them. I am now making friends one step removed from that group as well.
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It can be a lot of changes all at once. Was in our case anyway.
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We're considering retiring to a favorite vacation location that's several hundred miles from where we live now. For those of you who've done such a move, what was your experience?
A friend of mine retired from Midwest to Cape Cod after many years of owning a home there and vacationing. They moved back to Midwest after a few months. Wife was very unhappy, trapped on the peninsula, and dreading the cabin fever of winter that was approaching.

In our case we moved to Florida for seven months, but we still miss the family and friends back home, so nice to be here in the summers. You should consider a backup plan if all does not go well.
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For years my parents discussed moving from a cold northern suburb for years. When my DF passed away after 20 years of RE, my DM moved into an active retirement community.

She says how much she wishes they had made that move while DF was still alive to enjoy it.
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We'd like to move, just don't know where. We have no family in the area, just some friends. We moved to this area 36 years ago for economic reasons; great plan now what? So the whole world is open.

House hunting for 4 years, we still can't agree on location. I'm going with my Sister's advice, in retirement you can vacation as long as you like where you want, given enough funding.
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and I think the two major threats, burglary and hurricanes, are sufficiently remote on a daily basis that they are not big motivators to move...
Definitely true. I was living in Venice during the 1971 San Fernando Quake. Even way down at the beach where I was, it shook things plenty hard. But those who left were often out in the Valley, closer to epicenter, and they mostly took off right away. Once the aftershocks had died down, people's motivation to go was wavering. Another factor that may have played a part was the aerospace recession starting, and losing a job will move people right now.

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For years my parents discussed moving from a cold northern suburb for years. When my DF passed away after 20 years of RE, my DM moved into an active retirement community.

She says how much she wishes they had made that move while DF was still alive to enjoy it.
I think your key word there is "active". My wife and I are very active, but outside of our four walls, there is little interaction. We are not in a retirement community. If the area is not socially conducive, it may be an issue. My wife is very social, so the lack of social activities is a problem.
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and I think the two major threats, burglary and hurricanes, are sufficiently remote on a daily basis that they are not big motivators to move...
And both you can mitigate your risk somewhat as well.
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Ms G. and I had finished 7 moves in 11 years when we bought our first retirement home. We weren't retired yet (8 years later), but we bought a big house on a lake in one of the East Valleys(Phoenix) boomtowns. It really had everything Starbucks and Sprouts we could walk to, beautiful tropical location, party boat to cruise the lake. I may have over done it, but the Hay Capitol of the nation turned into the bedroom community of the nation. We were out of Dodge in 6 months bought some acreage in the cooler mountains, in a birders hamlet. We both became involved in the community, I helped build the new firehouse, and became a firefighter, Ms G became the town advocate for animals, and short term shelter for cats and dogs, and we hooked up with the 30 year old thursday hiking club. Now after 9 summers(only summers count in AZ), we are a part of a small community of neighborly, loving folks, just down the road from Paradise.

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And both you can mitigate your risk somewhat as well.


I think that not ever moving before is a powerful obstacle too. We had moved all over and learned the drill about making new friends and acquaintances several times.

In W2Rs case, she has moved around (Hawaii, SF, NO - all great places!) whereas Frank has strong roots in NO. She might be fine in Springfield and Frank might have regrets.

We were 2000 miles from family during the kids formative 8 years and we overcame that by inviting them out for a month each year. After the month, the kids considered them extended family, and the grandparents had a much better relationship with the kids than any amount of Sunday dinners could achieve.

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While there still might be burglaries in Springfield, we think/hope that they would be less frequent. From what we can tell, burglars up there seldom murder and are just after stuff (which I can afford to lose).
@W2R - Are you talking about Springfield, MO? I can't imagine moving from NOLA to Springfield, LA (pop. 242) unless you like to watch bumpers rust!

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@W2R - Are you talking about Springfield, MO? I can't imagine moving from NOLA to Springfield, LA (pop. 242) unless you like to watch bumpers rust!

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from NOLA! Yes, good guess! There are Springfields in a lot of states and I am really not interested in Springfield, LA. We'll probably stay put.
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