We moved 1800 miles away when DH retired, from NYC to Austin TX, where DH did his Ph.D. 30 years ago. I am still w*rking, hoping that changes soon. DH moved down here 2 days after he retired. I miss the ability to walk everywhere as one can in NYC and miss my circle of friends/acquaintances which I haven't yet been able to recreate because - still w*rking and have little time to pursue interests which would put me in touch with others. Few family left in the Northeast with parents, aunts and uncles all gone so no close family there. DH has gotten himself involved in the neighborhood association and a retired persons' organization at the local mega state university. It's not what he envisioned but it's all good.
Can't go home again - way too expensive and too much cold and snow. The killing we made selling our condo apartment has given us a big after-tax cushion even after purchasing our current house for cash. Moving to a place where the COL and taxes were lower than where we came from made it possible to live and save on my salary and bank/invest DH's SS and now RMDs. In addition I will be able to REarlier by 4-5 years than I originally thought would be feasible.
It's true that lots of "friends" are there only when you are physically present so staying in touch has faded away. But it's ok. I have hundreds of Facebook friends.
What I've found after being a lifelong New Yorker is that I am singularly unattached to a place, a house, my belongings. I really don't care. My only son (no grandkids) is in Los Angeles. Maybe I'll move there one day? I have lots of other acquaintances there. A big question mark.
As we get older though we have to think about mobility, being in a more walking-friendly and public transportation environment with less dependence on acuity of vision and brisk reflexes for lots of driving. Maine, while beautiful, isn't somewhere I'd want to live in my 80's with those harsh winters, making it hard to get around. It is such a personal decision. Good luck!
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