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Old 11-03-2008, 08:01 AM   #41
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, I believe that I dread retirement for the reasons I tried to describe in my first post in this thread. I feel that retirement is sort of the "beginning of the end" and no matter how I try I can't readjust that feeling.

That 's an interesting feeling . I have felt younger since I retired and am not weighed down with the stress of my job. A good friend of mine will not retire because so much of her identity is tied up in her work . It's sad because the stress is physically coming out in various ailments.
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Old 11-03-2008, 11:39 AM   #42
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i'm right with ya, moemg.
approx 5 months after i FIREd, i saw my doctor while visiting a friend's dad in the local hospital. he was covering rounds for his doctor wife.
the man stopped right in his tracks, looked at me, and said "is that really you, Freebird?". he may have been busting my chops, but he said he hadn't ever seen me look this good since he knew me (over 15 years). he also said it was the BEST DECISION i had ever made, albeit he would have talked me out of it if i had told him my plans to FIRE. heeeheeeheee - i got away with that one.
a female friend asked me if i'd had a facelift. she wasn't kidding. "you look 10 years younger" were her exact words.
lesson to take away - the stress, as meomg sez, will wear you down over time.
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Sounds like you ladies made the right choices for yourselves; that's great. I guess I'm going to stick to the job for another 6 months or so and see how things start to shake out after the new president takes office.
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Sounds like you ladies made the right choices for yourselves; that's great. I guess I'm going to stick to the job for another 6 months or so and see how things start to shake out after the new president takes office. :eek:
Hey, you either love work and relish the prospect of breaking down in a new president, or else you're trying to decide which seems more "eek" scary-- work vs ER.

Why not try both options? Try a sabbatical or some sort of unpaid leave for 6-12 weeks. Relax, see what sort of lifestyle develops, and decide how you feel about it. Don't try to travel to 30 states or write the Great American Novel or completely renovate the house. Just take it easy, get caught up on your sleep, start exercising the way you want to (instead of the way you've had to), talk things over with your spouse & friends, and figure out what you want to do with your time.

"What would I DO all day?!?" is probably every Young Dreamer's biggest concern, right after dealing with healthcare expenses and inflation. But 6-12 months after they've retired, most ERs wonder what the heck they were worrying about.

Many of the ERs who were able to "try before buy" quickly realized that they weren't goin' back to the office with a smile on their faces...
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Sounds like you ladies made the right choices for yourselves; that's great. I guess I'm going to stick to the job for another 6 months or so and see how things start to shake out after the new president takes office.
YES - you hit the target..."the right choices for yourselves"
how is your PRO (quit) and CON (don't quit) list coming along?
or you may have a PRO (don't quit) and CON (quit) list going?
either way, this is YOUR bus to steer.
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YES - you hit the target..."the right choices for yourselves"
how is your PRO (quit) and CON (don't quit) list coming along?
or you may have a PRO (don't quit) and CON (quit) list going?
either way, this is YOUR bus to steer.
Always the final decision must be one's own.
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a female friend asked me if i'd had a facelift. she wasn't kidding. "you look 10 years younger" were her exact words.
lesson to take away - the stress, as meomg sez, will wear you down over time.

My SO's ex wife asked me if I had a mini facelift or if I was using some miracle cream she could buy .
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My SO's ex wife asked me if I had a mini facelift or if I was using some miracle cream she could buy .
can we bottle it? we'll call it "Eau de FIRE" lotion.
you can operate the FL store, and i'll get it into Manhattan stores. we'll make a killing!
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can we bottle it? we'll call it "Eau de FIRE" lotion.
you can operate the FL store, and i'll get it into Manhattan stores. we'll make a killing!

Sounds like a plan !
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That and a dab of perfume "Turkey Roasting in the Oven", behind the ears and you gals will have us guys totally disarmed!
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My SO's ex wife asked me if I had a mini facelift or if I was using some miracle cream she could buy .
Given the source, that is a real compliment!

We should remember that for the most part the people who are posting here do fine financially and emotionally with retirement. Others are sometimes different. I know a few women who had to retire because of downsizing, or maybe health issues like back- who are fantastically active mainly as a way to get away from too much time with their husbands. One married woman I know stays home and paints or putters, then when hubby gets home from work she heads out. She isn't looking for love or sex; just respite from him. I told her if I were her husband I would kick her out no matter how much it cost me. She says he wouldn't, since he is not a saver and he doesn't want to give up half his pension.

"And it was fun fun fun till her Daddy took the T-Bird away..."

My mother did everything she could to avoid retiring, but when she had to because of age it was the beginning of the end. She and Dad were like oil and water, which can be negotiated when you only occasionally see one another, but gets tight after retirement.

If you are married or living with someone, it takes a truly successful deal to withstand retirement. And there seem to many such successes represented here. Congratulations people.

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Given the source, that is a real compliment!

We should remember that for the most part the people who are posting here do fine financially and emotionally with retirement. Others are sometimes different. I know a few women who had to retire because of downsizing, or maybe health issues like back- who are fantastically active mainly as a way to get away from too much time with their husbands. One married woman I know stays home and paints or putters, then when hubby gets home from work she heads out. She isn't looking for love or sex; just respite from him. I told her if I were her husband I would kick her out no matter how much it cost me. She says he wouldn't, since he is not a saver and he doesn't want to give up half his pension.

"And it was fun fun fun till her Daddy took the T-Bird away..."

My mother did everything she could to avoid retiring, but when she had to because of age it was the beginning of the end. She and Dad were like oil and water, which can be negotiated when you only occasionally see one another, but gets tight after retirement.

If you are married or living with someone, it takes a truly successful deal to withstand retirement. And there seem to many such successes represented here. Congratulations people.

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I was pretty much impossible to live with when I was employed. I don't know about now.

I can see how all the changes one can go through after retirement could strain a relationship.

I can only congratulate those who have maintained relationships through the years.
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Given the source, that is a real compliment!

If you are married or living with someone, it takes a truly successful deal to withstand retirement. And there seem to many such successes represented here. Congratulations people.

Ha
I must have that scraggly stray dog look - cause I get adopted a lot.

I do draw the line at my computer room - I happen to like a little dirt, clutter and stuff strewn about - the old chemistry prof look(in contrast to a right and tight en ga neer).

A neat clean house, clean underwear, and well balanced meals/ full frig vs three day old pizza I can sorta tolerate since it comes with a women attached but:

I do dog it on yard work once in a while and have to motivate myself.

heh heh heh - I was canned/layed off in 93. Hindsight makes me appreciate the flying fickle finger of fate more and more as time passes. I gots that doing nothing in particular down fairly good by now.
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If you are married or living with someone, it takes a truly successful deal to withstand retirement.

My mother never worked outside the home and I recall how she dreaded my Dad's retirement. Him being home all day seriously interfered with her routine!
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If you are married or living with someone, it takes a truly successful deal to withstand retirement. And there seem to many such successes represented here. Congratulations people.

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That part has worked out very well for us. We got closer after retirement, not having the distractions of having to earn a living. Although I'm working again now, and she plans to get a job after graduation, we both know that we don't have to work if we don't want to.

That makes all the difference in the world.
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how is your PRO (quit) and CON (don't quit) list coming along?
or you may have a PRO (don't quit) and CON (quit) list going?
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So far, the "Don't Quits" have it.
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If you are married or living with someone, it takes a truly successful deal to withstand retirement. And there seem to many such successes represented here. Congratulations people.

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Thanks Ha , I have to say I'm usually pretty easygoing but I can be a pain sometimes but after my husband died I thought about some of the petty things I bugged him about and decided life is to short to let those things stand in the way of a nice relationship .
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DH and I retired 6 years ago - this year he turned 50 and we celebrated at lunch - the waitress was shocked at his age and said (and I quote), "you don't even look 40"!

Needless to say, he was impossible to live with for the next few days!
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So far, the "Don't Quits" have it.
The problem a lot of people have when retireing is what to do, Some have so much to do there arent enough hours in the day,others have varying amounts of stuff to do and can be happy on those times when there is not much going on,still others have absolutely nothing to do as in no friends,no social life,maybe not healthy enough to go out and interact with the majority of the outside world,for the latter the job maybe all they have between a somewhat active and social life or an otherwise totally boring existence.
I've been retired for a year now and although i can usually keep somewhat busy in the summer i'm dreading the winter where most of what i do is housework,lots of naps,way too much TV,and my wife keeps telling me i'm getting too fat and drinking too muchDo i regret retiring?? no,but had the job been something enjoyable i doubt i woulld have retired,went out for breakfast this past weekend with my old boss and he was telling me how every Friday he is short staffed by up tp 20 guys,i offered to return to work part time (Fridays only),he's going to see what he can do.
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