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Old 11-17-2008, 08:05 AM   #61
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I've been retired for a year now and although i can usually keep somewhat busy in the summer i'm dreading the winter where most of what i do is housework,lots of naps,way too much TV,and my wife keeps telling me i'm getting too fat and drinking too muchDo i regret retiring?? no,but had the job been something enjoyable i doubt i woulld have retired...
I think a crucial difference is whether one seeks activities/entertainment from within or from others. The problem is that each side (me included) finds it very hard to understand why the other is different or can't at least learn to cope.

I wouldn't mind spending a few hours a week with shipmates. I don't mind showing up for a few volunteer hours. However if I had an assignment to accomplish, workplace attire, deadlines, commutes, and maybe even a meeting... then it wouldn't be social anymore. And if I had to do it every week then I don't know if I could find the internal commitment.

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... went out for breakfast this past weekend with my old boss and he was telling me how every Friday he is short staffed by up tp 20 guys,i offered to return to work part time (Fridays only),he's going to see what he can do.
Was the breakfast your idea? Or did the boss invite you and, say, about 19 other guys?
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I think a crucial difference is whether one seeks activities/entertainment from within or from others. The problem is that each side (me included) finds it very hard to understand why the other is different or can't at least learn to cope.
I didn't socialize very much at all while working; after interacting with all those people all day, I just wanted dark and quiet and solitude.

After several years, I now tolerate (and even seek out) interaction.

But I am still quite happy to not speak to anyone for several days.

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I wouldn't mind spending a few hours a week with shipmates. I don't mind showing up for a few volunteer hours. However if I had an assignment to accomplish, workplace attire, deadlines, commutes, and maybe even a meeting... then it wouldn't be social anymore. And if I had to do it every week then I don't know if I could find the internal commitment.
Absolutely.

I have been doing some volunteer work. After it was made clear that I will not make calls or organize events or attend meetings, we agreed that I will do data entry (which can be done at home on my schedule).
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The problem a lot of people have when retireing is what to do, Some have so much to do there arent enough hours in the day,others have varying amounts of stuff to do and can be happy on those times when there is not much going on,still others have absolutely nothing to do as in no friends,no social life,maybe not healthy enough to go out and interact with the majority of the outside world,for the latter the job maybe all they have between a somewhat active and social life or an otherwise totally boring existence.
I've been retired for a year now and although i can usually keep somewhat busy in the summer i'm dreading the winter where most of what i do is housework,lots of naps,way too much TV,and my wife keeps telling me i'm getting too fat and drinking too muchDo i regret retiring?? no,but had the job been something enjoyable i doubt i woulld have retired,went out for breakfast this past weekend with my old boss and he was telling me how every Friday he is short staffed by up tp 20 guys,i offered to return to work part time (Fridays only),he's going to see what he can do.
Yes, it is all about having activities to do when you are no longer working. There needs to be something to fill the void once you free up time. Some people first work part-time in order to develop other interests to make the transistion easier. I think those who who are really happy immediately after they retire (and just stay that way) have had hobbies that work has been keeping them from. This is sadly the way it is for me. I say sadly, because I still have decade(s) of work still ahead of me, preventing me from doing what I really love.
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Was the breakfast your idea? Or did the boss invite you and, say, about 19 other guys?
Just me and the boss and it was my idea,me and the boss go way back to high school days and its more of a friend on friend relation ship than boss /employee
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The problem a lot of people have when retireing is what to do,
I am FIREd 1 yr 7 mos now.
some days i have to make lists to keep track of all i have going on. whew! it's h*ll when you're popular.
other days i am 100% free (but never cheap ) and sit here and think of ways to make you all laugh and of course i get to laugh at your zany responses.
i'll share a little secret i read in Zelinsk's book - TURN OFF THE TV.
i can honestly say i think i turned it on maybe 20 times during the day since April 1, 2007. i'm serious. i get my weather from NOAA online, and my news from MSN online or PBS radio.
Music is my background noise. Books are my brain teasers. AARP has a puzzle and game page that is really cool. My garden and laundry and backyard are my exercise. My volunteering and weekly lunches are my social life. My 2 dogs are my daytime company.
I LIKE TO LIVE!!!!
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I never watch day time TV . I go to the gym three days a week . My ebay sales take up another two days . Besides that I have friends to meet , meals to cook ,cleaning , projects to start , laundry , the yard , books to read , emails to write, traveling , partying to be done and occasionally I fit in a nap .
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