FI and dating

[BunsGettingFirm]

Originally Posted by Scrooge

I was wondering how single people who have achieved FI handle precious metals excavators? Sometimes it feels like FI means that you have to be doubly and triply paranoid about who you date. The last single young female that I worked with had "Here comes the answer to all of my [self-inflicted] financial problems!" painted with bright neon letters on her forehead

I'm not FI yet, but I had one lady tell me that she needed a new, preferably luxury car. I crossed my fingers and ran the other way.

[Ol_Rancher]

Through out my adult life the first rule has always been:

Only date women who have a career.

* modified lately to : Only date women who have a career or the means to support their own lifestyle.

After this 'primary directive' one must look at the "baggage"* each of us carries in one form or another.

At my age (Boomer), 'deal braker' baggage includes:
* * * *a* *no pension or portfolio
* * * *b* *offspring facing college without funding
* * * *c* * not getting LYMB

Did I miss something here ?

Oh yeah, at this age a reasonably decent looking man, in good health, and FI holds all the 'cards' .. no need* to jump through the hoops we had to during earlier phases of life (20 & 30 somethings take note)

[crazy connie]

Originally Posted by Ol_Rancher

Through out my adult life the first rule has always been:

Only date women who have a career.

* modified lately to : Only date women who have a career or the means to support their own lifestyle.

After this 'primary directive' one must look at the "baggage"* each of us carries in one form or another.

At my age (Boomer), 'deal braker' baggage includes:
* * * *a* *no pension or portfolio
* * * *b* *offspring facing college without funding
* * * *c* * not getting LYMB

Did I miss something here ?

Oh yeah, at this age a reasonably decent looking man, in good health, and FI holds all the 'cards' .. no need* to jump through the hoops we had to during earlier phases of life (20 & 30 somethings take note)

DITTO for the FI ladies! Also, must not be into get rich quick schemes with my money! Got close to that fire once... Did not get singed though!

[AltaRed]

Originally Posted by crazy connie

DITTO for the FI ladies!* Also, must not be into get rich quick schemes with my money!* Got close to that fire once...* Did not get singed though!

Agree it works both ways. A very good list from Ol_Rancher. I believe the issue (risk) is exacerbated with 50somethings and 60somethings because those without FI at that point come to recognize they waited way too long to get FI and their options have essentially run out. Catching a big fish becomes more critical.

[cube_rat]

I have an acquaintance who's a major gold digger in addition to being eyecandy material. *She's managed to rope two husbands along with numerous boyfriends (all with substantial money, of course). She managed to accumulate BIG diamond rings, a paid for, fully furnished house in a toney part of the silicon valley, a new lexus, lots o' plastic surgery, trips to exotic places etc. *Her children attend private school and she has a nanny. *This woman has never worked a real job in her life nor went to college.* Oh and she's 40 years old. * *My point is with all of this info from you forum men, there are apparently lots of men out there who fall for the eyecandy/gold digger thing. * *I will never understand the inner workings of men.

[Nords]

Originally Posted by cube_rat

This woman has never worked a real job in her life nor went to college.* Oh and she's 40 years old. * *My point is with all of this info from you forum men, there are apparently lots of men out there who fall for the eyecandy/gold digger thing. *

Yes, but has she found true happiness in her life, or just a series of meaningless oversexed flings?

Would you happen to have her contact info so that I could inquire personally?

Originally Posted by cube_rat

I will never understand the inner workings of men.

The difference between women & men on that issue is that we make no attempt to understand our inner workings.

[REWahoo]

Originally Posted by cube_rat

I will never understand the inner workings of men.

Oh, c'mon Rat! I'm gonna get two for one here, answering your question and giving my nomination for the worst sci-fi movie ever made.

[cube_rat]

Originally Posted by REWahoo!

Oh, c'mon Rat!* I'm gonna get two for one here, answering your question and giving my nomination for the worst sci-fi movie ever made.

[Texas Proud]

Originally Posted by justin

I think my brother was one of those "millionaires in three years" at age 21.* He was going to retire at age 24.* To quote him: "Anyone who accepts less than 16% on any investment is an idiot.* You can easily get 16% risk free." circa 1999* (Yes, he's still working, doing construction instead of tech work, at age 28 - no investments to mention last I talked to him).

Of course he has no investments... it is difficult to find those 16% risk free ones laying around....

[Mwsinron]

Originally Posted by Texas Proud

Of course he has no investments... it is difficult to find those 16% risk free ones laying around....

Ha, damn Im happy with a solid 8 percent. In fact I do a little jig with a solid 8 percent. Guess it doesnt take much to make me happy.

[MJ]

Originally Posted by cube_rat

My point is with all of this info from you forum men, there are apparently lots of men out there who fall for the eyecandy/gold digger thing. I will never understand the inner workings of men.

If I had a 10+ million portfolio, I wouldn't mind buying little sweet candy as long as I am smart enough to avoid expensive cavities.

[Scrooge]

Originally Posted by cube_rat

She managed to accumulate BIG diamond rings, a paid for, fully furnished house in a toney part of the silicon valley, a new lexus, lots o' plastic surgery, trips to exotic places etc. *Her children attend private school and she has a nanny. *This woman has never worked a real job in her life nor went to college.

Just goes to show that you don't need a college eduction to be a shrewd entrepreneur!*

My point is with all of this info from you forum men, there are apparently lots of men out there who fall for the eyecandy/gold digger thing. *

Well, "good looks/physique" = "desirable partner" used to be a basic rule in the game of procreation. It's not nearly as simple any more, but it's still highly exploitable.

[cute fuzzy bunny]

Originally Posted by cube_rat

I will never understand the inner workings of men.

Two words: Boobies.

[Scrooge]

Originally Posted by Cute Fuzzy Bunny

Two words:* Boobies.

I think CFB was trying to illustrate how higher brain functions (like math) are affected by a severe reduction of blood flow*

[justin]

Originally Posted by Texas Proud

Of course he has no investments... it is difficult to find those 16% risk free ones laying around....

Or maybe it's because all those "16% investments" went belly up. Now on a reduced income as a non-union construction worker sole breadwinner supporting 3 kids, a live in girlfriend, and a mortgage, there isn't anything left to invest.

[Ed_The_Gypsy]

I will never understand the inner workings of men.

Cuberat,

The definitive work on this subject is 'Dave Barry's Guide to Guys'. Pretty insightful, actually. Look for it in used bookstores.

[Modified 1 Aug becuz I kant spel.]

[BunsGettingFirm]

Originally Posted by AltaRed

Agree it works both ways. A very good list from Ol_Rancher. I believe the issue (risk) is exacerbated with 50somethings and 60somethings because those without FI at that point come to recognize they waited way too long to get FI and their options have essentially run out. Catching a big fish becomes more critical.

Isn't this the point when that 23-year-old "niece" comes in handy? She could care less about FI.

[BunsGettingFirm]

Originally Posted by cube_rat

I have an acquaintance who's a major gold digger in addition to being eyecandy material. She's managed to rope two husbands along with numerous boyfriends (all with substantial money, of course). She managed to accumulate BIG diamond rings, a paid for, fully furnished house in a toney part of the silicon valley, a new lexus, lots o' plastic surgery, trips to exotic places etc. Her children attend private school and she has a nanny. This woman has never worked a real job in her life nor went to college. Oh and she's 40 years old. My point is with all of this info from you forum men, there are apparently lots of men out there who fall for the eyecandy/gold digger thing. I will never understand the inner workings of men.

Wow, a 40-year-old gold digger. I know for a fact that you can get two 20s for a lot less than private school education and a lexus.

[cute fuzzy bunny]

Yeah, but 20 goes into 40 a lot more than 40 goes into 20...