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Old 07-19-2006, 03:06 PM   #1
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I was wondering how single people who have achieved FI handle precious metals excavators? Sometimes it feels like FI means that you have to be doubly and triply paranoid about who you date. The last single young female that I worked with had "Here comes the answer to all of my [self-inflicted] financial problems!" painted with bright neon letters on her forehead*
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Old 07-19-2006, 03:15 PM   #2
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One way is to move to Asia and do pay as you go.

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Old 07-19-2006, 03:30 PM   #3
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PRECIOUS METAL Excavators... Gold Diggers come in both sexes. FI negates need for togetherness but does not mean a partner would not be a nice addition. Challenge is to find a compatable one who is also FI minded... I did not "LBYM" and accumulate to finance anothers retirement and offspring. :
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Old 07-19-2006, 03:31 PM   #4
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Connie, you ain't so crazy!
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Connie, you ain't so crazy!
Nope... Just alone. Enjoy it mostly but would prefer to share... Just gotta be aware of too high a price! Cat food on SS is not terribly appealing!
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Scrooge, I think we've solved your problem. Connie, meet Scrooge. Scrooge, meet Connie.
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This is the time of life where 'alternate living arrangements' make sense, as do Prenuptual Agreements. You need to protect yourself.
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And where should I send the Matchmakers fee Mr Scrooge? *
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Nope...* Just alone. * Enjoy it mostly but would prefer to share...* Just gotta be aware of too high a price!* Cat food on SS is not terribly appealing!
Hey baby whats up?* * You think your cat would get along with my dog?
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And where should I send the Matchmakers fee Mr Scrooge? *
See? See? I step out for an hour and when I come back I am being asked to pay matchmaker's fees! They are all out to get me! And my money!

But I will be strong, strong... I will not succumb to paranoia! Um, did I just see something move under the desk?..* *
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Hey baby whats up?* * You think your cat would get along with my dog?
Cat food can go to Humane Society! I much prefer a sweet puppy.
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See? See? I step out for an hour and when I come back I am being asked to pay matchmaker's fees! They are all out to get me! And my money!

But I will be strong, strong... I will not succumb to paranoia! Um, did I just see something move under the desk?..* *
I can afford the fees Mr Scrooge. If the "match" is worth my while!
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Old 07-19-2006, 05:51 PM   #13
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Hm, let's see. A dog loving widow in Phoenix, AZ; NW of a couple of million; 2 adult children who get LBYM; ready to sell the house and get out of the stove.

Sounds too good to be true, must be a trap!

[checks the pantry for black helicopters]
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First thing all my best male friends, every single one of them, said to me when they heard about my money situation: Don't tell any men.
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First thing all my best male friends, every single one of them, said to me when they heard about my money situation:* *Don't tell any men.
But of course! They wanted you for themselves!*
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This thread is so romantic that I hate to un-hijack it. *

But, Scrooge, why do they know your financial situation * *

My SO and I dated for about two years, feeling things out (SHUT UP) and only gradually revealing our net worths after much discussion of LBYM FIRE goals, and suprisingly found ourselves to be quite equal in goals and assests.

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But, Scrooge, why do they know your financial situation * *
Er, ahem...* I was a little indiscreet at work last year when the "projected yeraly income over the next 50 years if I stop working NOW" curve intersected the "projected yearly expenses for the next 50 years" curve. I didn't post my net worth on the corporate intranet* but I let it be known that I didn't absolutely have to work any more and was now in the "feathering the nest" phase.

In retrospect, it was one of those "immediate gratification" decisions that I should have learned to avoid as part of my LBYM lifestyle*
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I can afford the fees Mr Scrooge.* If the "match" is worth my while!*
Hey Scrooge, I think you are seeing a hanging curve ball. Take your swing old man. Good luck to what could become the first of many romantic resolutions. Just another service of the Early-Retiement Forum.

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Old 07-19-2006, 09:22 PM   #19
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I like where connie is coming from regarding keeping personal wealth out of sight when dating. It works both ways. Personally, I would think it better for FI's to try to seek each other out, e.g. 2 business owners or managers or similar, and being careful not to flaunt any wealth until the relationship becomes more certain. If you are already LBYM, then the wealth won't show up in physical possessions anyway in any material significance.

Takes some of the potential mates out of circulation but helps to avoid the gold diggers.
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Old 07-19-2006, 11:05 PM   #20
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what difference does it make if someone likes you for your big bank account or your big, um, heart, because you make someone laugh or because you are a good listener or because you are drop dead gorgeous?

it's not like you're the only target with money who might attract their aim. nor is money necessarily the only quality they seek. it might not even be to gain worth they neither earned nor inherited, nor to achieve status imagined inherently deserved.

it might just be a worthy someone looking for some security in life. it might just be someone who admires another with financial finesse, someone with a talent or simply a discipline they never managed to muster on their own.

i've had pretty much the entire package twice in my life but, from what i hear, i understand that very few people ever get that even once. still, it is nothing i expect to find or to be for another. and if someone wants to pick just two of my qualities to hook up with me, i would not be too upset if one was my big checkbook and the other my big, um, heart.
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