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Old 12-25-2014, 07:36 PM   #41
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Stage fright is not limited to introverts...

I'm not anti-social, but my limit for big crowds is about two hours, after which I'm ready for peace and quiet...
I've been a lifetime extrovert, achiever, traveler, event organizer, party girl, crowd lover since the age of 15. I thrived on the excitement of new things.

But lately I am discovering that I am morphing into a peace and quiet type. I am getting "peopled out" also. Human behavior in public is not what it used to be. It is often confusing to me why people react so intensely to what I view as low anxiety situations.
The rude exchanges that I witness between people is beyond my comprehension. I wasn't raised to act that way, in fact quite the opposite.

I think I am simply choosing to tune out the noise by not being there. Either that or FIRE has mellowed me out so much any kind of group gathering stimulus is oversaturating me.

I just hope I do not go completely anti-social.
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I'm about halfway through this now, and am finding it fascinating, especially the parts about high sensitivity. Explains a lot about the dissatisfaction / discomfort I'm feeling in our "open pen" office environment. Can't wait for ER!
My employer was moving more towards a more open office/shared workspace environment. But our group was moved to an unrenovated area - with shared offices, and single person cubes. My grade suggested I would be in a shared office - but I specifically asked for a private cube.... with a window.

I think I would have quit/retired much sooner if I hadn't made that request and had it granted. I definitely needed space of my own to think/concentrate at work.
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[QUOTE=Ally;1531820] I have to psyche myself up in the mornings and tell myself it's an acting job. "Today at our event, I will act the part of an outgoing, gracious extrovert and keep a smile on my face, not my anxious face." Then I go home exhausted from keeping up the facade.

In my little part-time job, mentoring new teachers, it's been helpful to use this comparison (especially with any who had taken a drama class or performed in music or theater).

Using my own experience, I encourage them to think about each class as a performance of their "show for the day." If they teach 5 classes, it's a "5-gig" day.

Those who do it agree: it works. Come "hell or high water," fire drills or disaster drills-- whatever happens-- "the show must go on." Insisting on keeping the whole class on board, together, helping them all get through the day's lesson plan fosters good discipline not just for the kids, but also for the teacher.

(And viewing the job as the day's "show" would keep me moving forward, no matter what was going on in my personal life. It seems to help the new teachers focus, too.)

Those acting classes came in handier than I ever expected......

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I've been a lifetime extrovert, achiever, traveler, event organizer, guy looking for a party girl, crowd lover since the age of 15. I thrived on the excitement of new things.

But lately I am discovering that I am morphing into a peace and quiet type. I am getting "peopled out" also. Human behavior in public is not what it used to be. It is often confusing to me why people react so intensely to what I view as low anxiety situations.
The rude exchanges that I witness between people is beyond my comprehension. I wasn't raised to act that way, in fact quite the opposite.

I think I am simply choosing to tune out the noise by not being there. Either that or FIRE has mellowed me out so much any kind of group gathering stimulus is oversaturating me.

I just hope I do not go completely anti-social.
I've found myself moving in the same direction - personality wise. For me, it seems to have more to do with aging than FIRE. A MB test 30 yrs ago indicated me as a strong ESTJ (strong on the E), then another about 14 yrs ago indicated me again as an ESTJ (but, weak on the E; almost right on the border).

I have to say that I've also noticed this myself as time has gone by. I don't get the same energy from crowds that I used to. I still very much like small groups of friends but, find more than a couple hours with groups of new people to ususally be work. The STJ seem to still be going strong. I still love experiencing new things but, that's more the "S" than the "E."
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I've found myself moving in the same direction - personality wise. For me, it seems to have more to do with aging than FIRE. A MB test 30 yrs ago indicated me as a strong ESTJ (strong on the E), then another about 14 yrs ago indicated me again as an ESTJ (but, weak on the E; almost right on the border).

I have to say that I've also noticed this myself as time has gone by. I don't get the same energy from crowds that I used to. I still very much like small groups of friends but, find more than a couple hours with groups of new people to ususally be work. The STJ seem to still be going strong. I still love experiencing new things but, that's more the "S" than the "E."
I was also typified as a strong ESTJ in the BM test back in my early 30s, two decades ago. It was accurate at the time.
I'm not exactly sure why I am changing from a strong E, but I'll go with the flow, I guess. Yay FIRE !!!!
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I'm about halfway through this now, and am finding it fascinating, especially the parts about high sensitivity. Explains a lot about the dissatisfaction / discomfort I'm feeling in our "open pen" office environment. Can't wait for ER!
They did the "open pen" thing on us back at Megacorp. They hyped it as creating "synergy". We did actually end up with about one third the employees forced into the "open office environment" areas, but luckily I escaped it. I think all the executives knew it was about "doing something" (anything) to appear to be concerned about productivity. They call it the "Hawthorne effect". Make any change at all to the work environment, hype it to the workers as "productivity- improving" and the workers will become more productive, supposedly.
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Only recently did I admit to myself that I am bassi ally a shy person. It's the strangest thing because I was actually extremely extroverted in my 20's. The "anxious face I completely identify with. While extremely comfortable with a few close to me, the older I get the more painful socializing becomes. While my own social acting ability surprises me, I'm know people can tell I'm nervous. OTOH, I really don't care, either.
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Life at the top of the mountains "ain't that bad." The quiet, solitude, and magnificent views have their value. Being out under the stars almost every night is wonderful.

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