I often hear successful (and happy) people talk about their success, and mentioning how lucky they are. In reality, when folk talk about being lucky, they are talking about being aware enough to take advantage of some of the many opportunities that present themselves to us every day. Life is full of opportunities - all you have to do is be aware of them, reach out, and grab them as they pass you by.
I have often been tempted to ascribe any success I have known to my own merit or some inherent superior qualities that I possess. When I really think about it, though, I realize that merit has had little to do with anything.
For a start, I'm fairly certain that before I ever existed I didn't do anything to merit the particular combination of ovum and sperm that allowed me to be born white and male in a world that values both traits. And it surely was not my own diligence that allowed me to be born healthy. I could have been born with a cleft palate like my one brother who died of asphyxia when he was ten days old or with hydrocephalus like my other brother who spent the first year of his life in the hospital and had 20% of his brain removed.
When I was just a tot, my 20 year old mother left her home and family and everything she had ever known to cross the ocean to a new country where she thought I would have a better life (she was right). I benefited immensely, but I had done nothing to deserve her sacrifice.
I was not killed or maimed by a childhood disease or an accident (despite my best efforts to engage in risky and stupid behavior). Again, I did nothing to deserve that stroke of good luck. And I was born with sufficient intelligence and the ability to concentrate and work hard that I did well in school and was able to gain admittance to the U.S. Naval Academy, so that I could go to college even though my family had zero money.
Later, I was lucky to meet and marry a wife whose common sense and hard work have allowed us to live below our means and save money, a wife who was willing to work while I went to the famous law school and who then put up with my long hours when I got the big law firm job.
Did I work hard, defer gratification and make sound decisions along the way? Most certainly, but it is my firm belief that I was born with the ability to do all those things. With so many blessings, it would have been abject failure to have ended up anywhere but where I have. As the Bible has it, "From everyone to whom much has been given, much will be required." (Luke 12:48)