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Old 12-03-2014, 08:10 PM   #1
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From Mid-Life Crisis to Older, Wiser & Happier

Enjoyable article that delves into the U-shaped happiness curve and gives us all reason for optimism. "Just wait until your 60's!"

The Real Roots of Midlife Crisis - The Atlantic
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Thanks for sharing the article. Makes sense to me.
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Good article, thanks for sharing. While it's not all sweetness and light getting older, it's great not to give a damn about what people think.

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Yes, interesting article. I experienced a similar U-shaped curve although my mid-40s slump focused more on stress over work than feelings of lack of achievement that the author describes. All is good now.
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I couldn't identify with the article. Is it because I retired just before 40? Or because I'm only 55 now?
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Old 12-04-2014, 11:08 AM   #6
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Fascinating article. While I don't think I ever suffered from a midlife crisis (although my wife might argue that me moving from acoustic to electric guitar in my 40's was a midlife crisis :P), the fact that even with declining health we may tend to look on our "golden" years as truly golden..
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Retired mostly now, I'm in a bit of an odd mid life crisis... I'm single, but still feel trapped in a way. Certainly hoping this is not all there is. Wondering what can get me out of this funk.
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While it's not all sweetness and light getting older, it's great not to give a damn about what people think.

Present company excepted, of course!
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Enjoyable article that delves into the U-shaped happiness curve and gives us all reason for optimism. "Just wait until your 60's!"

The Real Roots of Midlife Crisis - The Atlantic
It's quite a long article. Hope he got paid by the word. Very good stuff in there, though. I had my "midlife reevaluation" (as I prefer to call it, to avoid the stigma around the word "crisis") around the age of 39. Although I recommitted to my career afterward, the reevaluation cemented my resolve to RE by 55. Bring on the greater happiness!
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Interesting article. My own U curve started quite low in my teens, skyrocketed in my 20's, fell dramatically in my 30's, then even more in my 40's when my life collapsed. After 50 everything changed, such that now I've been happier with each year since 55. Working extremely hard the past 20 years to accomplish my goals has everything to do with that.

Interestingly, I have no regrets and am not only happy with where things are but where they're going (FIRE in 2/15).
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Thank you for posting this. It is a well written article on a subject that I find fascinating. Apparently there is nothing unique about my situation: My happiness quotient likely would have matched the U curve in this article pretty closely until now. On a very positive note, my happiness should continue to increase from here until the end.

Another interesting bit from this which was new to me was the wisdom bits. I found the test mentioned online and am not particularly proud of my score on it. But, I am sure it is much higher than if I had taken it 20 years ago; so, maybe in another 20 year, I will be much wiser: wisdom.v01
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I am in the bottom of the U curve. Things should look up, I hope.

It's surprising that the curve keeps going up until we die. Don't we get bitter as we age?
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I am in the bottom of the U curve. Things should look up, I hope.

It's surprising that the curve keeps going up until we die. Don't we get bitter as we age?
No, not in my case. I've been (pleasantly) surprised at how much better each year has gotten after age 50, and especially after 55 (for me, anyway).

I wouldn't too much about being at the bottom of the curve. 18 years ago I was below the bottom of the curve . It's amazing what a little time and perseverance will do!
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This is very encouraging. I feel like I bottomed out about 3 years ago. I used to think it was because my job became more stressful and I had grown tired of the hectic pace of the 2-income family. But maybe it is a natural process regardless of your job or lifestyle.
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Good article, thanks for sharing. While it's not all sweetness and light getting older, it's great not to give a damn about what people think.

I must not be old yet. I still care what people think. I think if a person really doesn't care what people think he will be in some kind of trouble quickly. I am talking about actual physical people, not webizens. For example if a man doesn't care what women think, he will soon be getting a whole less hugging and kissing, even if he is married. I think there are few non-demented people who really don't care what people think, regardless of what they may say. In fact, many people actually act pretty much opposite to what they say they feel.

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I think there are few non-demented people who really don't care what people think, regardless of what they may say. In fact, many people actually act pretty much opposite to what they say they feel.

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So you are calling me demented or a liar?

Oh what the heck, I don't give a damn what you think!
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I don't know a thing about curves or happiness.

Personally... I have achieved most all the goals I set for myself... and now some days are great other days not so great.. and I can't tell you why. Maybe it's because I didn't set my goals high enough.

Am I wiser? Maybe. Is life as exciting as it used to be? Nope.

Maybe wisdom is overrated.
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No, not in my case. I've been (pleasantly) surprised at how much better each year has gotten after age 50, and especially after 55 (for me, anyway).

I wouldn't too much about being at the bottom of the curve. 18 years ago I was below the bottom of the curve . It's amazing what a little time and perseverance will do!
Good to hear. I am encouraged.

Mentioned the article to DW (whom I suspect is also in bottom side of a trough) and her immediate reactions were, a) why isn't my mom not getting happier, and b) hard to believe people become happier as they age.
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Good point - I also care what people think, especially if there is a chance that I might accidentally hurt someone. I just don't base my decisions on public opinion as much as I might have when younger. At some point you have to decide what makes you happy, and if the things you like are not everyone's cup of tea - you have to choose between public opinion and happiness. I made that choice and am happier for it.

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I must not be old yet. I still care what people think. I think if a person really doesn't care what people think he will be in some kind of trouble quickly. I am talking about actual physical people, not webizens. For example if a man doesn't care what women think, he will soon be getting a whole less hugging and kissing, even if he is married. I think there are few non-demented people who really don't care what people think, regardless of what they may say. In fact, many people actually act pretty much opposite to what they say they feel.

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