Originally Posted by BeeBee
For anyone who moved to a new area.... did you find it easy to make friends and feel comfortable in your new area? Did you leave kids behind? If so how did that go? We have a 26 year old and even though he is on his own living with his girlfriend and doing well... I have these little pangs of guilt... not sure why??
Mostly I can't believe it's almost here.
When we moved 5000 miles from "home" we were a bit concerned about making friends. Fate intervened and we met a couple who have become good friends. She is a "local girl" but we met because the husband found out that we were from the same home town. We are the same age and even attended the same university at the same time. Our paths must have crossed many times, but we did not know him at the time.
On a more practical note, meeting friends in new locations is usually best accomplished through groups of kindred spirits such as clubs and churches. That's the way it's worked for us (with the one odd exception).
For the most part, we have felt comfortable in our new setting. We had fantasized about the change for so long, it seems a miracle that things have turned out as well as they have (reality rarely meets the expectations of fantasy - and I can verify the truth of that statement. But, it's CLOSE).
We had concerns about leaving kids behind, but we also knew that they would probably scatter even if we stayed. That is exactly what has happened. Now, instead of being 1000 miles away from one child, 2500 miles away from another and 100 miles from the third, we're (on average) 4000 miles from all of them. The planes still fly (both ways) and the phones, email and snail mail still work. So, my suggestion is not to live your lives FOR your children. They will do just fine on their own.
Can't help much with the "workaholic" husband issue. Never considered myself one of those. I figure one of two things will happen: He will embrace his new freedom and begin to enjoy it immediately or else he will go nuts for a while until he finds something to be passionate about (PT w*rk, hobby, volunteer, etc.). You can be there for him, but you can't live his life for him. It's up to him.
Best of luck!