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Old 08-01-2007, 10:13 PM   #41
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Come here Cliffy, kiss grandma.

Your wish is my command mistress. Who knows plenty of sexy grandmothers in their 40s, but none with grey hair!
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Old 08-01-2007, 10:31 PM   #42
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citrine, I think there is a ton of pressure on girls with respect to their appearance, and it really makes me sad and concerned for my 5 year old daughter. She is beautiful and I tell her that regularly, but I also try to make sure to complement her on her positive inner qualities as well - she is smart, friendly, nice, funny, etc. But I think it is a losing battle between her peers, TV, magazines, etc. that she will be exposed to more and more as she gets older.
2Cor521: It is very sad to see little girls worrying about their weight. It is even sadder seeing a 50 year old depriving herself of chocolate in case she adds a half an inch to her waist. Exercise is wonderful, but this obsession with inches and looking at food as your enemy is just plain sad. I spend a decent amount of money on my hair with the haircuts and straightening....but I also don't wear much makeup and refuse to give up ice-cream and chocolate for anyone!


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For me, it isn't that older women (45+) don't look great; they do. It's more that for her to excite me physically I have to establish some sort of communication. This then becomes the nexus of my attraction.

A pretty young woman on the other hand just does it by virtue of existing.

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Personally, I think within the next 5 years or so, if they start showing hot looking older babes in magazines as models, it will change the image people have of older, gray headed women. Well, a girl can dream, can't she?
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For me, it isn't that older women (45+) don't look great; they do. It's more that for her to excite me physically I have to establish some sort of communication. This then becomes the nexus of my attraction.

A pretty young woman on the other hand just does it by virtue of existing.

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Personally, I think within the next 5 years or so, if they start showing hot looking older babes in magazines as models, it will change the image people have of older, gray headed women. Well, a girl can dream, can't she?
I think we have been seeing this a lot. Now I could be wrong, but I really don't recall seeing covers of People, Vogue, Cosmo etc featuring list of the fabulous 40 year olds and fantastic 50 year olds, 20 years ago.
Now you see sexy pictures of the Michelle Pfeiffer, Meg Ryan, Catherine Bell, Demi Moore etc on TV and in the gossip and glamour mags a lot.

Of course for the most part they don't have grey hair.
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I've been asking around and it seems that men do associate gray hair with grandma = unsexy babe. Sigh....do I have to start dying my hair again...crap...
I guess living longer than you guys is our only revenge, eh? You get to be gray and sexy, and we gals just get to look old with gray hair. Life isn't fair.
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Screw 'em, Orchidflower. I have gone mostly gray. I now cut my hair very short. I often wear silver glasses. Blue and silver looks nice with gray. Accentuate it.
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I've been asking around and it seems that men do associate gray hair with grandma = unsexy babe. Sigh....do I have to start dying my hair again...crap...


Really, I think only some men do OK with gray. It depends on how physically oriented the women he wants to impress are. (Leaving aside guys who could look dead but are so rich or powerful that they will attract women anyway.)

Steve Martin gets my vote for the best gray hair on a man. Next are any number of youngish colonels and generals who look as if they could whip a tiger in hand to hand combat. What woman is going to quibble about gray hair when the guy looks so virile?

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Screw 'em, Orchidflower. I have gone mostly gray. I now cut my hair very short. I often wear silver glasses. Blue and silver looks nice with gray. Accentuate it.
Easy for you to say! Aren't you married, Martha? Men our age are really not very interested in us mature single women. If we want any male company at all we've got to keep up the facade. Being single in your 50s is not for wussies.

That said, there are multiple beautiful women with gray hair in my town. They are fit, healthy, and gorgeous. Any man of similar age who would not be physically attracted because of the gray hair is really a pathetic slave to cultural conditioning, IMHO. But, as a woman, I admit to being an equally pathetic cultural slave. So what to do? Dye my hair.
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[quote. Being single in your 50s is not for wussies.

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I was single in my 50's .You are right it's not for wussies .I had plenty of dates .The reason ,nothing to do with my hair I had the one thing men can't resist .Indifference !!! I really did not care if I met someone so men found me irrestible ,strange but true .
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I've been asking around and it seems that men do associate gray hair with grandma = unsexy babe. Sigh....do I have to start dying my hair again...crap...
I guess living longer than you guys is our only revenge, eh? You get to be gray and sexy, and we gals just get to look old with gray hair. Life isn't fair.
Yup sorry, but you do live longer, and once you get married, as a woman you do get to boss us guys around. (See the earlier thread about woman being in charge in the house)

I do swim training with a triatholon training group. A number of the woman are in their 40s and 50s and even in the 70s. Most of them are attractive because they are in great shape even the couple of them who have grey hair. (I'm pretty sure the grey haired ladies are married.) So yes you can be a babe with grey hair. But look at it from a cost benefit viewpoint, these women train a couple hours a day roughly 5 days a week to achieve the same level of sex appeal that you can get with a bottle of hair coloring once a month!!

P.S. Orchidflower aren't you an early retiree? so life isn't so bad
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Easy for you to say! Aren't you married, Martha? Men our age are really not very interested in us mature single women. If we want any male company at all we've got to keep up the facade. Being single in your 50s is not for wussies.
I have gone to this haircut. Judy Dench doesn't seem grandma like.


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Easy for you to say! Aren't you married, Martha? Men our age are really not very interested in us mature single women. If we want any male company at all we've got to keep up the facade. Being single in your 50s is not for wussies.

That said, there are multiple beautiful women with gray hair in my town. They are fit, healthy, and gorgeous. Any man of similar age who would not be physically attracted because of the gray hair is really a pathetic slave to cultural conditioning, IMHO. But, as a woman, I admit to being an equally pathetic cultural slave. So what to do? Dye my hair.
Oldbabe, I am single and unlike the gorgeous woman in my avatar (Eva Habemann, a model/actress), in real life I have silvery gray hair. It goes well with my light blue eyes and middle-aged skin at fifty-nine years of age, and it never needs a touch-up.

I know for a fact that there are a substantial number of intelligent, single men in their fifties who are interested in intelligent, single women in their fifties with gray hair and fiftyish looking, less than gorgeous bodies. They find women like you and me to be interesting because we have had many of the same life experiences as they have had, and have the wisdom that half a century gives us instead of youth's naivete.

I would suggest that if you like your hair better when you dye it, then do it for you!! But if you'd really rather not, then don't feel that you have to in order to date someone interesting.

From previous posts it sounds like you haven't met "Mr. Right" yet, but when you do, it will be worth the wait and effort of dating! Patience, patience.
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I was single in my 50's .You are right it's not for wussies .I had plenty of dates .The reason ,nothing to do with my hair I had the one thing men can't resist .Indifference !!! I really did not care if I met someone so men found me irrestible ,strange but true .[/quote]

Indifference always worked on me, regardless of age...........
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It is much worse than that.
To your kids, 40 year old is ancient regardless of your hair color or gender.
Fortunately, my 11 year olds have adapted to the fact that their parents are older - they don't think old is until you are 65. Good break for me but DH has only 5 years to go!
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While I was out running some earrands today I looked at all the women's hairstyles and I've come to the conclusion gray or tinted it doesn't matter as long as it's cut & styled nicely .There is nothing that ages a woman as straggly hair or a cheap dye job so even if you are LBYM open up those purses for a good stylist .
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Moemg...got my hair cut today. I had let it grow out over the last 3 or 4 years and yesterday I just felt OLD! Got the stuff cut short today and feel much BETTER. Yes, styled hair makes a big difference.
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Hey, she's done more for the Bond movies than anyone since Sean Connery. Better be careful or Dame Judy will come over to your house and kick your assets from one side of the property line to the other...

Did I mention that she's single again?
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