While we are on the topic of romance, there is a WSJ article this morning telling how some people plagarize their Online Dating ads.
Not creative enough to make up their own lies,they just cut and paste lies and the occasional odd bit of truth that other more talented romance seekers have written. No need to even stay within one's own sex when looking for people to steal from. Just do a global search and replace she>he.
Like NewGuy says, "People, what is this world coming to?"
Ha
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I met Frank on one of those dating sites back in 2000. You'd be surprised at how many of the guys on there are married. Probably two thirds who responded to my ad turned out to be married by my definition (married on paper).
Naturally I wouldn't meet them if they were married, but some would claim that being separated meant that they weren't married. Yeah, right. (I told them fine, and to be sure to e-mail me when the divorce was final.)
On the other hand, if things are THAT bad in a marriage, why send out an investigator? That's not going to help anything. I'd just face facts and try to see what could be salvaged.
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While we are on the topic of romance, there is a WSJ article this morning telling how some people plagarize their Online Dating ads.
Not creative enough to make up their own lies,they just cut and paste lies and the occasional odd bit of truth that other more talented romance seekers have written. No need to even stay within one's own sex when looking for people to steal from. Just do a global search and replace she>he.
Like NewGuy says, "People, what is this world coming to?"
Ha
Why tell the truth when lying is just as easy and often has better results?
Really, seriously, this is the reason why I stay away from online dating.
"People, what is this world coming to?" Yes, indeed.
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The internet..ugh! Lots of sociopaths, players, users and creeps. You have to really kiss alot of frogs on the net to find a good one, I think. Want2Retire was just lucky as all get out!
A friend talked me into doing the net for a couple months. Never again for me.
The internet..ugh! Lots of sociopaths, players, users and creeps. You have to really kiss alot of frogs on the net to find a good one, I think. Want2Retire was just lucky as all get out!
A friend talked me into doing the net for a couple months. Never again for me.
Maybe it is different for guys, but I met a number of really nice women on the net and married one. There are plenty of losers, I'd agree, but for me, it sure beat sitting in a bar waiting for the love of my life to show up.
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I discovered my wife on the old Prodigy online service way back in 1992 (when "online dating" was a novelty). The funny thing is that neither of us were even looking for a partner there. Seems like the harder I looked, the less I could find, and where I was neither looking for it nor trying to make something happen, it just did.
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Maybe it is different for guys, but I met a number of really nice women on the net and married one. There are plenty of losers, I'd agree, but for me, it sure beat sitting in a bar waiting for the love of my life to show up.
Amen!
I did have a lot of depressing and discouraging contacts online, and became pretty cynical about the process due to the large percentage of married men who were pretending to be single. Others wanted a meal ticket, a green card, a place to live, you name it, they wanted it. So, there was a lot of filtering that I had to do before actually meeting anyone and even afterwards. And even when I met Frank, I made him meet me for dinner 6 times before I would give him my address or phone number. I had heard too many stories about psychos, I guess, and back in 2000 internet dating was not as common as it is today.
On the other hand, meeting available men in other ways was a dilemma for me. I spend a lot of time at work, but did not want to date someone from work due to possible complications. I am a tee-totaler, and agnostic, so singles bars and church meetings were ruled out as possible dating sources. Singles that I met through friends were few and far between, and terrible matches for me, for various reasons. The internet worked out though I had to have a "tough skin" to sort through all the jerks.
At any rate, you only have to meet ONE who is right for you. Frank and I seem to have a lot in common and we are happy together so I am done with looking. We plan to ER together. He doesn't drink or go to church either, and he is OK with my desire to not marry and not live together. He doesn't want money, a place to live, or anything from me but the type of relationship which we have, which seems to be just right for us.
__________________ "Already we are boldly launched upon the deep; but soon we shall be lost in its unshored, harborless immensities." - - H. Melville, 1851
Becoming a honey trapper demands reliability, honesty and accuracy
just what does the article say is reliable, honest or accurate about entrapment? we communicate and therefore influence each other in many ways and not all of it is overt, so this is hardly a double blind test of fidelity.
as to internet dating. i met online the guy who would become--not my partner but--my best friend. as he lived in california there was no way we would ever have met each other otherwise. that friendship lasted 10 years before he died. the computer really gave us a chance to get to know each other intimately. we discussed everything. i don't think hardly a day went by that we didn't email or im each other for hours at a time. heck, we even visited each other.
but i've also been on some pretty horrible dates with guys i met online, and there the computer just got in the way. some of them were really creepy. with each bad date it takes me more time before i can try it again. the last one wasn't terrible but a total mismatch. where the profile asks for ethnicity i wrote: "is jewish still an ethnicity?" which the guy must have keyed in on. during lunch i learned he was a zionist at which point i started talking about my past relationships just to cut that one off real quick (i've got a family history of zionism, no thank you).
i'm not convinced that the computer helps or hinders dating. i can be just as readily fooled by a pretty face in person, though, at least then, it's usually a fun few hours.
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Amen!
He doesn't drink or go to church either, and he is OK with my desire to not marry and not live together. He doesn't want money, a place to live, or anything from me but the type of relationship which we have, which seems to be just right for us.
Wow, great find! Lived with a guy for 3 years. I prefer my own space!
The internet..ugh! Lots of sociopaths, players, users and creeps. You have to really kiss alot of frogs on the net to find a good one, I think. Want2Retire was just lucky as all get out!
A friend talked me into doing the net for a couple months. Never again for me.
One person's frog might be another person's prince (or princess)! Don't be so negative! I've met alot of nice people over the internet. Most of them were not matches for me, but then when you go to a party or a bar or to church, etc. to meet people, most of the people there weren't matches either. I think you just have to have good instincts in weeding people out before you decide to meet them in person. After that it just comes down to mutual chemistry which is hard to find in any environment, online or otherwise.
and now it's if they have some means of support aren't serial killers or still married it's true love !
Not exactly!!! At least, not for me.
One thing I learned early on - - and that is that there is someone for everyone, and nobody needs to "settle" for less. There are those you don't want to date, and the one who is right for you, and not everyone fits into those two categories. Hence, dating.
__________________ "Already we are boldly launched upon the deep; but soon we shall be lost in its unshored, harborless immensities." - - H. Melville, 1851
Wow, great find! Lived with a guy for 3 years. I prefer my own space!
Me too! I think he is a wonderful man. We have so much in common, and we have a lot of fun together. Today we went to the gym, walked around the French Quarter for an hour or two, and went out to dinner (just got back). That sounds so ordinary, but we really enjoy passing time together. Guess it's good that we do, since we have been together for seven or eight years by now.
__________________ "Already we are boldly launched upon the deep; but soon we shall be lost in its unshored, harborless immensities." - - H. Melville, 1851
The internet..ugh! Lots of sociopaths, players, users and creeps. You have to really kiss alot of frogs on the net to find a good one, I think. Want2Retire was just lucky as all get out!
A friend talked me into doing the net for a couple months. Never again for me.
There really ARE a lot of people to sort through. Most contacts from internet dating sites aren't worth a second date. You're right about that! It is very wearing to weed them out. But when you have done that, there will be some left that are worth seeing again. Dating those can be fun. Dating as an adult is a whole lot more fun than as a teenager. Sometimes dates that don't work out end up being friends, too. I guess what I am saying is that there is someone for everyone, and the right man for you is out there somewhere (probably wondering why he can't seem to find someone right for him!).
__________________ "Already we are boldly launched upon the deep; but soon we shall be lost in its unshored, harborless immensities." - - H. Melville, 1851
There really ARE a lot of people to sort through. Most contacts from internet dating sites aren't worth a second date. You're right about that! It is very wearing to weed them out. But when you have done that, there will be some left that are worth seeing again. Dating those can be fun. Dating as an adult is a whole lot more fun than as a teenager. Sometimes dates that don't work out end up being friends, too. I guess what I am saying is that there is someone for everyone, and the right man for you is out there somewhere (probably wondering why he can't seem to find someone right for him!).
I suppose it's possible I'll change my mind some day; but that sounds too much like work.
-Khan the Hermit
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