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Private eye defends integrity of honey trapping | U.S. | Reuters

While we are on the topic of romance, there is a WSJ article this morning telling how some people plagarize their Online Dating ads.

Not creative enough to make up their own lies,they just cut and paste lies and the occasional odd bit of truth that other more talented romance seekers have written. No need to even stay within one's own sex when looking for people to steal from. Just do a global search and replace she>he.

Like NewGuy says, "People, what is this world coming to?"

Ha

 

[W2R]

I met Frank on one of those dating sites back in 2000. You'd be surprised at how many of the guys on there are married. Probably two thirds who responded to my ad turned out to be married by my definition (married on paper).

Naturally I wouldn't meet them if they were married, but some would claim that being separated meant that they weren't married. Yeah, right. (I told them fine, and to be sure to e-mail me when the divorce was final.)

On the other hand, if things are THAT bad in a marriage, why send out an investigator? That's not going to help anything. I'd just face facts and try to see what could be salvaged.

 

[Dawg52]

I've thought about trying an online service but have been afraid some of these women would only be interested in my body.

 

[brewer12345]

And here I thought this was going to be another post about clown porn based on the thread title...

 

[Zoocat]

Private eye defends integrity of honey trapping | U.S. | Reuters

While we are on the topic of romance, there is a WSJ article this morning telling how some people plagarize their Online Dating ads.

Not creative enough to make up their own lies,they just cut and paste lies and the occasional odd bit of truth that other more talented romance seekers have written. No need to even stay within one's own sex when looking for people to steal from. Just do a global search and replace she>he.

Like NewGuy says, "People, what is this world coming to?"

Ha

Why tell the truth when lying is just as easy and often has better results?
Really, seriously, this is the reason why I stay away from online dating.
"People, what is this world coming to?" Yes, indeed.

 

[dumpster56]

Private eye defends integrity of honey trapping | U.S. | Reuters

Like NewGuy says, "People, what is this world coming to?"

Ha

I said that??O0

 

[Orchidflower]

The internet..ugh! Lots of sociopaths, players, users and creeps. You have to really kiss alot of frogs on the net to find a good one, I think. Want2Retire was just lucky as all get out!
A friend talked me into doing the net for a couple months. Never again for me.

 

[travelover]

The internet..ugh! Lots of sociopaths, players, users and creeps. You have to really kiss alot of frogs on the net to find a good one, I think. Want2Retire was just lucky as all get out!
A friend talked me into doing the net for a couple months. Never again for me.

Maybe it is different for guys, but I met a number of really nice women on the net and married one. There are plenty of losers, I'd agree, but for me, it sure beat sitting in a bar waiting for the love of my life to show up.

 

[ziggy29]

I discovered my wife on the old Prodigy online service way back in 1992 (when "online dating" was a novelty). The funny thing is that neither of us were even looking for a partner there. Seems like the harder I looked, the less I could find, and where I was neither looking for it nor trying to make something happen, it just did.

 

[REWahoo]

I discovered my wife on the old Prodigy online service way back in 1992 (when "online dating" was a novelty).

Weren't you p!ssed to discover she was doing you wrong?

 

[Moemg]

Lots of my friends met their mates online . Sure they had to kiss a few frogs first but they all ended up with nice guys .

 

[W2R]

Maybe it is different for guys, but I met a number of really nice women on the net and married one. There are plenty of losers, I'd agree, but for me, it sure beat sitting in a bar waiting for the love of my life to show up.

Amen!

I did have a lot of depressing and discouraging contacts online, and became pretty cynical about the process due to the large percentage of married men who were pretending to be single. Others wanted a meal ticket, a green card, a place to live, you name it, they wanted it. So, there was a lot of filtering that I had to do before actually meeting anyone and even afterwards. And even when I met Frank, I made him meet me for dinner 6 times before I would give him my address or phone number. I had heard too many stories about psychos, I guess, and back in 2000 internet dating was not as common as it is today.

On the other hand, meeting available men in other ways was a dilemma for me. I spend a lot of time at work, but did not want to date someone from work due to possible complications. I am a tee-totaler, and agnostic, so singles bars and church meetings were ruled out as possible dating sources. Singles that I met through friends were few and far between, and terrible matches for me, for various reasons. The internet worked out though I had to have a "tough skin" to sort through all the jerks.

At any rate, you only have to meet ONE who is right for you. Frank and I seem to have a lot in common and we are happy together so I am done with looking. We plan to ER together. He doesn't drink or go to church either, and he is OK with my desire to not marry and not live together. He doesn't want money, a place to live, or anything from me but the type of relationship which we have, which seems to be just right for us.

 

[lazygood4nothinbum]

Becoming a honey trapper demands reliability, honesty and accuracy

just what does the article say is reliable, honest or accurate about entrapment? we communicate and therefore influence each other in many ways and not all of it is overt, so this is hardly a double blind test of fidelity.

as to internet dating. i met online the guy who would become--not my partner but--my best friend. as he lived in california there was no way we would ever have met each other otherwise. that friendship lasted 10 years before he died. the computer really gave us a chance to get to know each other intimately. we discussed everything. i don't think hardly a day went by that we didn't email or im each other for hours at a time. heck, we even visited each other.

but i've also been on some pretty horrible dates with guys i met online, and there the computer just got in the way. some of them were really creepy. with each bad date it takes me more time before i can try it again. the last one wasn't terrible but a total mismatch. where the profile asks for ethnicity i wrote: "is jewish still an ethnicity?" which the guy must have keyed in on. during lunch i learned he was a zionist at which point i started talking about my past relationships just to cut that one off real quick (i've got a family history of zionism, no thank you).

i'm not convinced that the computer helps or hinders dating. i can be just as readily fooled by a pretty face in person, though, at least then, it's usually a fun few hours.

 

[mountaintosea]

Amen!
He doesn't drink or go to church either, and he is OK with my desire to not marry and not live together. He doesn't want money, a place to live, or anything from me but the type of relationship which we have, which seems to be just right for us.

Wow, great find! Lived with a guy for 3 years. I prefer my own space!

 

[DallasGuy]

The internet..ugh! Lots of sociopaths, players, users and creeps. You have to really kiss alot of frogs on the net to find a good one, I think. Want2Retire was just lucky as all get out!
A friend talked me into doing the net for a couple months. Never again for me.

One person's frog might be another person's prince (or princess)! Don't be so negative! I've met alot of nice people over the internet. Most of them were not matches for me, but then when you go to a party or a bar or to church, etc. to meet people, most of the people there weren't matches either. I think you just have to have good instincts in weeding people out before you decide to meet them in person. After that it just comes down to mutual chemistry which is hard to find in any environment, online or otherwise.

 

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. After that it just comes down to mutual chemistry which is hard to find in any environment, online or otherwise.

How about high school? If I am remembering well, if she was female and didn't stink that covered the chemistry angle pretty well for most guys.

Ha

 

[W2R]

and now it's if they have some means of support aren't serial killers or still married it's true love !

Not exactly!!! At least, not for me.

One thing I learned early on - - and that is that there is someone for everyone, and nobody needs to "settle" for less. There are those you don't want to date, and the one who is right for you, and not everyone fits into those two categories. Hence, dating.

 

[W2R]

Wow, great find! Lived with a guy for 3 years. I prefer my own space!

Me too! I think he is a wonderful man. We have so much in common, and we have a lot of fun together. Today we went to the gym, walked around the French Quarter for an hour or two, and went out to dinner (just got back). That sounds so ordinary, but we really enjoy passing time together. Guess it's good that we do, since we have been together for seven or eight years by now.

 

[W2R]

The internet..ugh! Lots of sociopaths, players, users and creeps. You have to really kiss alot of frogs on the net to find a good one, I think. Want2Retire was just lucky as all get out!
A friend talked me into doing the net for a couple months. Never again for me.

There really ARE a lot of people to sort through. Most contacts from internet dating sites aren't worth a second date. You're right about that! It is very wearing to weed them out. But when you have done that, there will be some left that are worth seeing again. Dating those can be fun. Dating as an adult is a whole lot more fun than as a teenager. Sometimes dates that don't work out end up being friends, too. I guess what I am saying is that there is someone for everyone, and the right man for you is out there somewhere (probably wondering why he can't seem to find someone right for him!).

 

[Khan]

There really ARE a lot of people to sort through. Most contacts from internet dating sites aren't worth a second date. You're right about that! It is very wearing to weed them out. But when you have done that, there will be some left that are worth seeing again. Dating those can be fun. Dating as an adult is a whole lot more fun than as a teenager. Sometimes dates that don't work out end up being friends, too. I guess what I am saying is that there is someone for everyone, and the right man for you is out there somewhere (probably wondering why he can't seem to find someone right for him!).

I suppose it's possible I'll change my mind some day; but that sounds too much like work.

-Khan the Hermit

 

[W2R]

I suppose it's possible I'll change my mind some day; but that sounds too much like work.

-Khan the Hermit

It's a lot of work, but at the time I thought, "What else do I have to do with my free time?" It wasn't like I had anybody waiting at home for me.

-W2R the Formerly Solitary Semi-Hermitess

 

[W2R]

Wow you seem to have a nice friendship !

I think so! It's great to be friends as well as romanticly interested, don't you think? Nothing kills a romance faster than having no basis in friendship, it seems to me. Well, maybe marriage kills it faster, sometimes.

Frank was just pointing out yesterday that we have been together a lot longer than some marriages survive, and we are still crazy about each other. Sometimes, things just work out the way you always knew they should.

 

[Walt34]

I've thought about trying an online service but have been afraid some of these women would only be interested in my body.

I hate when that happens. After all, I have a brain and feelings too.

But it was funny to get hit on by some female at one of the conferences with my wedding ring in plain sight. Some of 'em just didn't care I guess.

 

[Orchidflower]

I believe the internet is different for men than women. The women--although not all honest or wonderful--in general (I said IN GENERAL) tend to be sincerely looking for a mate, whereas, many of the men seem to be players or wanna-be players.
Myself, I just did NOT have the time, since I was working many, many hours then, to sort thru all the guys who responded. If I did the net now, I would have more than enough time to cull the good ones from the creeps. Want2Retire did it right...and she found herself a good one it seems.
I'm really not a negative person, but you would not believe all the responses I got as it was overwhelming....but an amazing number were attached (married or living with someone) or looking for a sugar mama or sociopathic. Very disheartening.
However, the wide variety of careers was a trip: from mechanics to a couple nationally known best selling authors (one who got really pissed that I had never read his book...the egomaniac!), and old professional baseball player from the Washington Senators and a nationally known t.v. personality. Ya never know who will show up on these internet dating sites... But, again, I just did not have the time to give to this or even date then, so why did I ever let my friend talk me into doing that then? So, it was my fault I didn't find anyone then.

Walt34: Many women--who don't really want a deep relationship--just love married men. Welcome to the single woman's world!

P.S. I was dying my hair then and now have let it go to it's current natural silvery white. I'll bet nobody answers my ad now. I should do one as a test and see.

 

[W2R]

I believe the internet is different for men than women. The women--although not all honest or wonderful--in general (I said IN GENERAL) tend to be sincerely looking for a mate, whereas, many of the men seem to be players or wanna-be players.

I agree, though I have heard that a lot of the women online are golddiggers.

I'm really not a negative person, but you would not believe all the responses I got as it was overwhelming....but an amazing number were attached (married or living with someone) or looking for a sugar mama or sociopathic. Very disheartening.

It is very disheartening, and a girl can only take so much at a time. But if finding someone is a priority in your life (and from your posts, I think it is) then I know you'll try again when you are able to stand it a little more.

P.S. I was dying my hair then and now have let it go to it's current natural silvery white. I'll bet nobody answers my ad now. I should do one as a test and see.

I think you'll have a lot fewer responses, but then it won't be as overwhelming to sort through them. Back in 2000, my hair was going between brown and grey so I never knew what to check, and with my constant battle with weight I never knew what to check there, either. I tried to be honest without underrating myself, and I worked really hard on creating a brief but interesting profile. When we met Frank's hair was white (what little there was of it) and still is. Mine is now grey/white, too.

By the way - - Frank is one of the most articulate and verbose people I know of when writing e-mails or essays, as he is very intelligent, is a Tulane grad, and has a wonderful grasp of the English language. However, his first e-mail to me was one of those one liners that look like they are from an inarticulate, uneducated person. Not insulting, but kind of dippy, y'know? I almost didn't answer it for that reason. I guess he didn't know what, or how much, a woman would like to hear in an introductory e-mail, and felt awkward.