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Old 07-24-2011, 01:17 PM   #21
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That could work, if he is into RV'ing and willing to spend the money, time and energy to buy and maintain an RV.
He likes the thought of RVing but doesn't have a mechanical bone in his body. He's super at lots of things, but maintaining vehicles isn't one of them.
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Old 07-24-2011, 01:22 PM   #22
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Is this because of the summers, or some other factors? I often went to Las Vegas in late August to play the first couple weekends of college football and also make some football futures bets. I found the weather not annoying, though Reno is much better.

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The summers are hot but bearable and there is a lot to do. It just doesn't feel like HOME. We could pick up and move tomorrow and there isn't one thing that I would truly miss.

I'm still holding out hope that there is someplace out there that I will want to never leave.
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Old 07-24-2011, 01:28 PM   #23
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I have lived in several different places over the course of my life and have found things to recommend each of them.
I guess I would consider myself a western Pennsylvanian at heart. I have lived here the longest, for sure, from birth through age 18, then from 1993 to the present. I am not attached to this house particularly, but there are things about this part of the country that that I love and that make me feel at home.
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The summers are hot but bearable and there is a lot to do. It just doesn't feel like HOME. We could pick up and move tomorrow and there isn't one thing that I would truly miss.

I'm still holding out hope that there is someplace out there that I will want to never leave.
I think I understand that. Where everything is money, the atmospere gets a little weird.

When I was first single I spent some time hanging out in the Cal-Neva casino in Reno. Good cheap sandwiches, cheap Heinekens, good tight basball lines, outgoing guys to talk to- but people were basically paranoid. There were so many rip-offs, and so many losers looking to take your money that people were wary, and I thought it might be hard to make friends beyond how ya doin' man?

I would think out in Henderson it would likely be different, with more married people, but Nevada overall seems to be an attractive but kind of rough place IMO.

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DW and I are currently on our summer trip "home" to the midwest. I'm actually typing this from what would have been my parents' old bedroom ca 1950s (though now it is our living room). This house is the same one I came home to from the hospital after being born 64 years ago. Over the years, I've moved away and returned half a dozen times.

I can still recall where all the (old) rooms were, what the light fixtures were like, the dark-stained molding around doors and baseboard. I still have many of my old toys here (though not as many since several attempts at getting rid of worldly possessions over the past few years.) Though parts of the house date from the 1860s and others from about 1900, the current iteration (internally) was completed in 1980 and 1995.

I always enjoy spending time here. I guess I think of it as "home" but Paradise is also home (for 3 years). I've never had much problem in adapting to a new place, but I've often wondered if that was because the old "homestead" was still here, available to me. In the next few years, we plan to sell the place to a relative who will allow us to rent it for a while longer. At some point, we will have to let it go. I'm not certain how I feel about that. At times, it concerns me a bit. Other times, I assume it will not bother me at all. As long as I'm able to travel, I will at least be able to stop in front of the place. Perhaps I'll have the opportunity to go through it occasionally.

For now, I'll just enjoy the memories it gives me and the comfort of all the improvements (like AC!!).
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I'm still holding out hope that there is someplace out there that I will want to never leave.
I have traveled a lot. Lived many places. Never found a place that I could declare as the "forever".

Always found a way to comfort from the luxuries of a foxhole, to a nice stone house in the country, or a shack. Least (meaning really hated it) comfort for me was in apartments, and lasted no more than a few months at a time in my past. Very likely never again.

Current home in SW PA with DW is good and comfortable, for us small town living is where it is at. No plans to leave or move at all.

OTOH we discussed that if DW became a widow, she would move elsewhere, unknown at this time. Likewise if became a widower, I would sell the place and move to a cottage, maybe nearby maybe not.
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This thread reminds me of John McCain's first Senate race. He was accused by Arizona voters of being a short-time carpetbagger, which had an element of truth. He pointed out that he'd grown up in a military family with frequent transfers and had completed a full military career of his own, so the place where he'd lived the longest was... the Hanoi Hilton.

My parents moved twice when I was growing up, but I eventually found them. They moved again when I went to college, and then spouse and I executed a dozen moves each during the next 20 years. We've been in Hawaii for 22 years and in our "dream home" for just short of 11 years. Just this week, it's become the place where I've lived the longest in over 50 years.

Spouse talks about letting our daughter rent this house from us if she wants her kids to go to the good neighborhood high school. (We'd move into our rental home.) After the little darlings graduate, though, we'd want to come back here. I can't imagine living in a better location, with better weather, views, activities, culture, and food.

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We like this general area (Reno/Tahoe), but are getting pretty sick of the winters and the even worse springs.
What in the world happens during a Tahoe spring to make it worse than a Tahoe winter?!?
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What in the world happens during a Tahoe spring to make it worse than a Tahoe winter?!?
I'm guessing the mud from all the melting snow and runoff.
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... I view myself as a New Orleanian. Home is where the heart is, as they say, and right now my heart is here in New Orleans.
I had missed that W2R. Congratulations and here's hoping there are no more devastating hurricanes.

I have lived many places, and I don't feel any particular affinity with them. With family all died off, there are no ties that way anymore. I sold off the family home in 2009, including most of their stuff. So that tie is broken.

Luckily, both DW and I have decided on PV as the winter place, and maintain our summer place. We have less affinity to it and could easily see ourselves travelling to different places in the summer, including the current one, but would be OK renting or home swapping.

SIL is in emergency right now with kidneys shutting down, and the doctor called this morning to advise that she is being moved into palliative care. She lives a 90-minute ferry ride away on the island. So that was the final strong tie to this area.
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For those who don't feel ties to where they were born/grew up or have close ties to family how did you find 'HOME'? The place where you feel you belong, where you can see yourself growing old, that just feels right and can never imagine leaving?
Pure serendipity. In 1989, we moved back to Connecticut from Ohio, so I could go to law school. The young wife got a job in a town about 30 miles from my school. We drew a line on the map halfway between the two and found our current town. We've lived here ever since, although we switched from an apartment to our first and only house in 1992. I don't anticipate we will ever move away.
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I know this sounds corny, but to me home is where DH is. We married young and have been together nearly 37 years.

Now that we're both retired, we've talked about moving to get away from the DC area traffic, hassles and high prices. However, my elderly mom is nearby and doesn't want to leave the area. I wouldn't dream of trying to convince her to do something she doesn't want to do. She'd never be critical if we moved away, but I couldn't leave when she needs me most. DH agrees because he really loves her and gets along well with her.

If we eventually leave this area, I'm sure it will be a compromise because we have different ideas about the ideal location. As long as he's there, it'll be home to me.
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I don't think that's corny at all.
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This is a question I've thought about a lot. Another one: what is the answer to "where are you from?"

I left the city where I grew up at age 25 and my home country age 28 and have never returned to live there, though I have visited frequently. Apart from my hometown, my last stop (Winnipeg, Manitoba) was "home" for the longest period (21 years). I was comfortable introducing myself professionally as being "from Winnipeg" but if people asked about my accent I would explain my personal history.

So far, I have never felt so tied to any place that I would consider it my home for ever. For the many places I have lived and worked, the absence of family ties is one reason for that. But in recent years, my home town has not felt like "home" either, despite the family ties, which are mostly at the cousin level. The older generation is almost gone. We all have our own lives, and electronic communication makes location less important. And everything has changed since I lived there.

My current location should be very ER friendly so I am keeping an open mind. In time it may earn the status of "home".
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This is a question I've thought about a lot. Another one: what is the answer to "where are you from?"
I absolutely HATE that question!! Nothing makes me feel more like a homeless misfit.

Usually I answer "everywhere", and then explain.
Or, sometimes I say "Hawaii" since I went to high school there and my parents are buried there and one of my brothers lives there..
Or sometimes "St. Louis" since I was born there and lived there on and off as a little girl and my other brother lives there..
Or sometimes "Texas" since that is where I came from right before moving to Louisiana.

(sigh)

Lately I have been countering with, "Where do you think I am from?" and usually the response is "New Orleans". So obviously I like that answer.
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I had missed that W2R. Congratulations and here's hoping there are no more devastating hurricanes.
Thanks. I hope that is the case, too.
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I absolutely HATE that question!! Nothing makes me feel more like a homeless misfit.

Usually I answer "everywhere", and then explain.
Or, sometimes I say "Hawaii" since I went to high school there and my parents are buried there and one of my brothers lives there..
Or sometimes "St. Louis" since I was born there and lived there on and off as a little girl and my other brother lives there..
Or sometimes "Texas" since that is where I came from right before moving to Louisiana.

(sigh)

Lately I have been countering with, "Where do you think I am from?" and usually the response is "New Orleans". So obviously I like that answer.
Awww, don't fret W2R. Lots of us are in the same boat, myself included. Just say you've lived different places and each place is special in it's own way. Now you've found a place you love and consider home. You're a New Orleans lady now
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Is this because of the summers, or some other factors? I often went to Las Vegas in late August to play the first couple weekends of college football and also make some football futures bets. I found the weather not annoying, though Reno is much better.

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I never lived there, but traveled to Vegas and Henderson a lot for my job. I got used to the heat. It was only bad when it was over 105, but it isn't usually that hot for more than a couple of weeks in the middle of summer. Then again, I'd get to go home to northern Nevada. Maybe dealing with it day in and day out wears on you, though I know lots of people there that love it.
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I've lived in Europe and then California, and felt very at home in So Cal for many years until the traffic got too crazy. Now we're in New Mexico and we love it. The people are really friendly and since so many are from other states, everyone just takes it in stride that you weren't born here. Weather is a bit more interesting than LA as we do get some snow in the winter, and fabulous thunderstorms in the monsoon summers. I'm surprised how quickly this became our home. I can't imagine moving too far away from this area (we think about moving in retirement to Santa Fe if we could afford the price hike).
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I think we could have more fun here if we weren't so tight with the purse strings. We spent too much for many years but learned that we can live on one less than one paycheck so are in extreme saving mode so we can retire at 51, 55.

We still take generous vacations (Cruise in November, China next March) but we keep the regular entertainment budget small. It's very easy to spend $1000 in a single night on the town so we keep a tight handle on discretionary spending.
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I consider Florida my home now because I've lived here for sixteen years but New Jersey holds a close spot in my heart because that is where I raised my kids and lived for thirty years .
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