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Old 07-24-2011, 07:05 PM   #41
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Born and raised in a small Ohio town in farm country. Left at 18 (in 1954) to go to college and never went back there to live. My folks were in that little town all there lives and I always called it "home" until they passed away, Dad the last in 1999. Lived in many places after college, due to job transfers. None were "home" except for Kalamazoo since that is where I met DW and the kids were born there. Job again forced a move from there and it was no longer "home". After we retired and moved to Florida in 1990, this has become home since the kids are in the state also. I know for a fact that THIS is (was) our last move (I know, never say never). DW and I have had 16 different addresses in our 39 years of marriage. Where was home? Now that the kids have settled in Florida, I know we'll never leave. Can we maintain this current life style and keep this home? Never know. Might have to make a move to a nursing home and then that will become home. I'm hoping to make heaven my home someday.

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Old 07-24-2011, 07:26 PM   #42
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Old 07-24-2011, 08:53 PM   #43
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I averaged a move/year for the first 18 years of my life (all east coast), so when I spent 4 years in one town in college I thought that was home. But I left there to go where future DW was (Northern VA). I then spent 30 years there, but never felt like it was home. Or maybe it was home, and I just didn't like it. After FIRE and DD grown and moved out, we moved to the Eastern Shore of MD. I like it here, but think I could be just as happy many other places. DW still misses NoVA. DD (and DGD) still live there, so we go back pretty often. Basically, to me, home is where DW is, and I also need DD to not be too far away. Since I hate the flying process (not flying, all the additional crap), that means about a 3 1/2 hr radius around DC. That gives me a lot of options. Hopefully I'll get to try a number of them before I shuffle off this mortal coil. Of course, if DD up and moves away herself, that opens up the whole world (except the countries that require dog quarantine).

As Lord John Whorfin said,
home is where you wear your hat.
I doubt I'll ever be tied to a place. Just people. If the people weren't here, I'd be a human pachinko ball.
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Old 07-24-2011, 09:58 PM   #44
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I've read the typical retiree stays where they ended their last job. I am fit the bill. I would also love to move to Nevada , but my girlfriend is years away from retiring, so I will sit tight for awhile. HA, if you are reading this let me know your futures bets in NFL this season. They will be coming out soon. Going to Tahoe right before season starts to lay mine. I'm looking good on my baseball season futures, taking Cubs under, rays under, and Angels over!
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Old 07-26-2011, 11:10 PM   #45
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I didn't take long to get comfortable in this beach community, 8000 miles away from last "home". Couldn't see this happening in a city. Not sure if it's for ever but the roots are starting to set.
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Old 07-26-2011, 11:40 PM   #46
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How do you find "home"? I type "home" into my GPS and it leads me straight to the doorstep. Sorry, the made me do it.
Pigs get fat, hogs get slaughtered. That's my story and I am sticking to it.
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Old 07-27-2011, 01:03 AM   #47
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NY was home from the first day I set foot in it. I'm not sure entirely why. When people ask where I am "from," I answer, "I work in XYZ." I seldom add, "because living there would be an oxymoron."
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Old 07-27-2011, 01:12 PM   #48
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As soon as I open my mouth up, people know where I am from, so thats easy to answer. Home on the other hand is where DW and my kids are. While we would always like to be near our kids, that maybe impossible to accomplish as they move out on their own. Both my heart and DWs heart is really back in Connecticut, but I doubt we will ever return there to call it home again due to cost of living concerns and given that our blood has thinned out so much that we probably couldn't handle the winters.
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Old 07-27-2011, 01:47 PM   #49
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I have moved a lot, I think something like 25 times in my 49 years of life. I've been married coming up on 18 years and we are living in our 11th location.

I have lived in 7 countries, been to a lot of locations but no one place has ever said to me that is home. Neither DH or I are that close to our families so see no need to return to those locations.

For us that feeling of home is created by being surrounded by good friends and having a comfortable living situation.

I be a girl, he's a boy. Think I maybe FIRED since July 08. Mid 40s, no kidlets. Actually am totally clueless as to what is going on with DH.
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Old 07-27-2011, 07:36 PM   #50
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How do you find home? Remember the John Denver tune with the line "coming home to a place I've never been before." That happened to me, when I found this place. But having lived several places, and traveled through many countries, I can see another likely move in my future, as long as I could visit here part of the year. I've been puzzling over this for years, as playing in the cold winters becomes less fun each year. An older wiser friend finally solved my distress, when she told me to just give it time, travel to places I like, and when I find I want to keep going back to the same place, that's the new home. So we'll see if that happens.
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Old 07-27-2011, 08:27 PM   #51
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The dimming of the light makes the picture clearer
It's just an old photograph
There's nothing to hide
When the world was just beginning

I memorized a face so it's not forgotten
I hear the wind whistlin'
Come back anytime
And we'll mix our lives together
Heaven knows- what keeps mankind alive
Every hand- goes searching for its partner
In crime- under chairs and behind tables
Connecting- to places we have known
(I'm looking for a)

Home- where the wheels are turning
Home- why I keep returning
Home- where my world is breaking in two
Home- with the neighbors fighting
Home- always so exciting
Home- were my parents telling the truth?
Home- such a funny feeling
Home- no-one ever speaking
Home- with our bodies touching
Home- and the cameras watching
Home- will infect what ever you do
We're Home- comes to life from out of the blue

Tiny little boats on a beach at sunset
I took a drink from a jar
And into my head
Familiar smells and flavors

Vehicles are stuck on the plains of heaven
I see their wheels spinning round
And everywhere
I can hear those people saying

That the eye- is the measure of the man
You can fly- from the stuff that still surrounds you
We're home- and the band keeps marchin' on
Connecting- to every living soul
Compassion- for things I'll never know

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Old 07-27-2011, 10:06 PM   #52
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Originally Posted by golfnut View Post
Lived in Chicago and its suburbs all my life except for college (WIU-Macomb).
Don't you readers think that it is odd that this person is the only one posting who lived in the same general area all of his life?

I expect his experience to be the norm, not the exception. I wonder why I expect this?

I agree with one poster who said that home is more about people than places.

DW and I grew up in W. Pa. We have lived all over the US. We are back in W. Pa. because family is near by.

"Home is the place where, when you have to go there, they have to take you in."
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Old 07-28-2011, 12:27 AM   #53
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Like many other posters here I have moved many times and have lived out side the county and in 5 states so far. I am in my 9th house; all purchased, add to that 10 other rental places. Home is where we believe we are the most comfortable in the community. DW loves where we are now...me not so much..it is home only because we choose to make it our home. But, I would move in a minute to try out another area in the West where more of the thinks I want to do are located.

We rv'ed for 3 years but no full time so our view of America was short-lived and not as in-depth as I would like to have done. Maybe in a few years we will do it my way and stay on the road for 5 years without a stick house to worry about.
Work? I don't have time to work....I'm retired.
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Old 07-28-2011, 06:09 AM   #54
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“Home is where you hang your head”

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Old 07-28-2011, 06:44 AM   #55
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Don't you readers think that it is odd that this person is the only one posting who lived in the same general area all of his life?...

Aside for a 2 year bachelor apartment stint 25 miles away and 30 plus years ago, I have lived my entire life in a town of 3000 people. Moved once across town while growing up, attending local schools. Commuted to college 25 miles away. Moved once (a block away) since DW and I married 30 years ago. All of our close relatives live within 10 miles. We've visited several places, but I don't think we'll ever leave - this just feels like home.
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Old 07-28-2011, 10:21 AM   #57
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I wouldn't move back to my hometown for a million bucks. Well, maybe a million bucks...

Then I'd immediately move!

Moved to Tejas for work 28 years ago, and mostly like it here, if one can disregard the ungodly summer heat; but I'm subject to move in retirement, if the urge strikes. My dad and son lives nearby, and my SO lives here, but she hates the heat, too.
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Old 07-28-2011, 11:23 AM   #58
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Old 07-28-2011, 11:39 AM   #60
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I know this sounds corny, but to me home is where DH is. We married young and have been together nearly 37 years.
Certainly not corny at all. A couple of young ladies asked me the same question and I answered exactly as you did (we have been together for 25 years). The 2 ladies were so touched by the answer because it came out spontaneously. So, until today, home is still where DH and I are together. The country, city or building is just the structure.

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