Hi Philam, reading your post, I think the language barrier should not be a problem. As you know by now, English is the second language and majority of the filipinos speak english. Since you will be hiring a help, let her do the marketing and cooking and you can just supervise her and instruct her on what she needs to do. You should be fine. I do not know which part of the philippines you will be staying but if you like the laid back lifestyle in upstate New York, I am pretty sure you'll enjoy your stay in the philippines.
I am a New yorker of filipino descent too and dreaming of retiring there in a few years. you are lucky since you have inhereited property there so it's a good start. Good luck
by the way, if you want a "Manhattan" lifestyle, you should be in the Makati area.
Dear Jesaco,
I fear I will be disabusing you of some of your fantasies, so I want to apologize beforehand that no offense is intended here.
Yes, English is a secondary language spoken badly by most Filipinos. The primary language may be one of 60+ languages (documented so far) of which there are maybe 300+ dialects. A study of the geography and history of the Philippines may provide some insight on why this is so. The language barrier is not English. It's the primary language Filipinos are translating into English. So, yes, we might both speak English --- but that does not mean we understand each other.
Hiring help does not mean the person (I can afford) to hire will be of much help. The help may know how to market and cook for herself, but will she know how to market and cook for me? I seriously doubt I can hire a Filipino girl at random, supervise and instruct her on what she needs to do (not knowing how to cook Filipino dishes myself, mind you), and be FINE. The burden of training her is mine regardless.
It is a misconception that Filipinos even eat alike. There are as many cuisines in the Philippines as there are languages. Tagalogs eat differently from Bicolanos. Ilocanos eat differently from Cebuanos. Etc.
Let me use my family as an example. My (late) mother was raised in the Ilocos regions by Tagalogs. Unfortunately, she married a man whose hacienda was located in Bicol. So, all the help came from Bicol --- including the cook. My mother did not cook herself so she did not know what she was doing. It turns out Bicol cuisine uses a lot of coconut milk and hot chili peppers, which my mother (and I) cannot eat.
There's actually more to the story because my (late) father was not raised in Bicol, but in Manila. He came from the "landed" gentry of the Philippines, which means he was raised in the Spanish culinary tradition. Keep in mind that before the Americans came only Spaniards were allowed to own property in the Philippines. My father did not eat Bicolano, Tagalog or Ilocano food. Food was a serious bone of contention in my mother's household. Unfortunately, she did not know how to cook and my father learned to eat out (a lot).
If I want to eat well (according to my taste), I first will have to learn how to purchase and prepare the food ingredients available locally. In NY, one uses the ingredients available in NY (dairy products, broccoli, tube tomatoes, etc.) In Cainta, I will have to familiarize my self with the fresh ingredients in the wet markets. There is no way around this hard and fast rule. Then --- and only then --- can I hope to teach someone else to do the marketing and cooking for me. Otherwise, I'll be throwing myself at the mercy of the cook. I firmly believe one must not quarrel with a person who knows how to wield a knife.
So why even hire help?
Because everything takes forever to do in the Philippines even with labor saving devices and hired help. Loss of power is not unusual. Take the house I inherited. It's too big for one person. The main house has five bedrooms and four full baths. The guest casita has one full bath. The servants quarters has one full bath. That makes six full baths. Most houses in Monroe County have three bedrooms and two and a half baths. I've never lived in a house here in New York with more than three full baths! Then there's laundry and cooking to do. I probably need a staff of five. But I decided that to save money I will step in when someone is sick or is on vacation.
And before you bring up the subject, I've seriously considered selling the property and buying a condomium. Unfortunately, I haven't found a condomium yet where I can plant a tree. I need trees to dampen the noise from the neighbours. I don't actually know how noisy it will be in Cainta. But considering the land mass and the population of the Philippines, I can only guess.
I know you mention that you are of Filipino-descent. But have you ever actually lived in the Philippines? I left the country when I was 18 years old.
I do not know what you mean by "Manhattan" lifestyle, but having occasion to work in NYC myself, I know it's not for me. I much prefer Monroe County, which (unfortunately) has the highest property taxes in the whole of NY state. But the "laid back lifestyle" of upstate NY is over-rated. One can freeze to death here standing still. "Laid back" has its risks.
But let us return to the subject of this thread - Knowing if one has what it takes to be an expat.
Let me repeat: The reason why expats fail is because they underestimate what it takes to set-up a household outside of the US.
It is easier to set-up a household in the US. Everything is documented. Shopping is organized and easy to learn. Most people can read and there is no want of free-advice. And they have a place for everything and everything in its place --- including old people. Not so in countries outside of the US, where language (primary, secondary, etc.) and cuisine may pose a challenge.
If you are considering retiring outside of the US, think very carefully how you want to address the following issues:
1. food - Do you want to eat well or can you afford (and tolerate) eating out every night? Keep in mind, there are risks to eating out every night. You cannot ensure food safety. You have more control if you cook for yourself.
2. clothing - How well do you tolerate humidity, freezing temperatures, temperature-controlled environments, nudity (yours and others)? Who will be doing the laundry and how?
3. shelter - How much can you afford? How much noise can you tolerate? How important is sleep? What do you fear the most --- hurricanes, tornadoes, earthquakes, ice storms, tsunamis, crime, housework, property taxes, isolation, infirmity? Your fears will tell you a lot about yourself and what you value.
4. time - How do you like to spend your time? Alone or in the company of others? How much time do you want to spend shopping? Cooking? Eating? Cleaning? Talking? Watching TV? Driving around? Are you comfortable delegating work? Perfectionists need not apply. Remember, time costs money and you have only one life to live.
5. money - What is your burn rate (the absolutely maximum amount of money you can spend before you start to throw up)? Some might say calculate this number weekly or monthly or yearly. I say calculate it when you're really scared and try not to be so scared all the time. St. Teresa of Avila said "Heaven is not for cowards." And this is really true. One cannot be afraid and be happy at the same time. The two emotions cannot co-exist.
The point of this exercise is to learn to be happy and if you know yourself, you can be happy anywhere in the world. So, be brutally honest with yourself. There is no room for fantasies once you leave the country.
I hope this helps.