You are the only one that has to live your life so never feel that you have to justify your choices.
Thanks, Dangermouse. I kind of feel that way too, and wonder why so many question them, and demand that I justify them. I guess it is because we are all so different, and looking for different things in life.
Rich, I have lived all over the country and the world, and have never had a problem making friends and feeling secure (except for situations when feeling secure would be irrational, such as in the present Sword of Damocles situation). People are people all over the world, and anyone who has trouble making friends after they move just doesn't yet know how to do it (IMHO). On the other hand, among the 23409874609847 locations where I would feel secure and have lots of friends, I have the unusual opportunity to choose. Several years ago Frank and I browsed through potential ER locations and made that choice of a tentative ER location.
I don't think that the selection of our tentative ER location has been overly complicated. Please re-read and note the caveat at the bottom of Post #11, where I explain that the complications/criteria are ONLY posted because they were asked for repeatedly. The reason I posted that caveat is that I could see a swarm of people asking for complications/criteria for several pages, and then someone coming back on me on about page 5 about my decision being over-analyzed. That sort of thing so often happens on message boards and usenet, so I kind of expect it. Basically, consider that everyone making ANY choice has criteria, though some may verbalize these criteria and some may not.
I am not sure why people are suggesting all these different locations, or suggesting that I stay here, either! If you go back and read my first post again, carefully, that might clarify things.
Basically, the reason for this thread was to point out that even thought we HAVE tentatively decided on Springfield, nothing is final until it is final and I didn't mean to imply that we are chained to ANY decision, even ER.
The e-mail that I received that inspired this thread was from a very nice, infrequent poster, but it caused me to believe that I had communicated differently and had expressed being totally locked into this decision no matter what. That will never be the case. Even after we have moved, we could change our minds and go someplace else.
Again, you must be pulling my leg!