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Old 11-26-2014, 02:08 PM   #41
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Neighbors on one side of us are nudists and roam their yard / pool buck naked. Thank g*d the homes here have privacy walls. They mind their own business.

Neighbors on the other side have remodeled/repainted their home lime green, it looks like a dentist office. They covered their entire back yard with a carport structure (jeeze, we have sunshine 300 days a year). They also demanded I repair their patio since the roots from our Ponderosa pine crept under the wall ans damaged it (I'm liable here for that). They also burn firewood nearly year round. I'll probably dynamite that house some day.

Across the street we have an extremely elderly couple who never venture outside. Next to them is a restaurant/cafe owner who stores cars in this back yard (thankfully). He occasionally hosts porno film shoots.

There's an elementary school across the road that recently erected solar panels over most of their athletic field, spoiling the mountain views for everyone. It seems people use that field for celebratory gunfire during football games, New Years, etc. It IS nice to hear the children playing during recess if I'm home during the week.
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Old 11-26-2014, 02:24 PM   #42
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We're in a suburban community built in the '70s around a country club. We chat with the immediate neighbors when we see them but generally don't go out of our way to initiate many interactions. We do e-mail the young couple next door when we're going to be away for more than a few days, or if something unusual is going on (we hosted the church choir dinner this fall which had 40 people in the back yard all evening).
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Old 11-26-2014, 04:02 PM   #43
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LOL. He's not as crazy as my one weird neighbor but you know where to run to when a meteor strikes your neighborhood, Ebola shuts down your town, government topples, there is a violent riot, ....
Funny, I told DW the same thing... when a coronal mass ejection knocks out the power grid, we're heading to his house with whatever supplies we can muster... and hope he doesn't shoot us.
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We're in a golf course community even though neither of us plays. Which is just as well since the golf course went bankrupt and is now owned by the bank that held the note on it. Whatever happens with the land it probably won't have too much effect on us other than slightly lowering property values since it isn't a golf course anymore and we are a good distance from it anyway. (I didn't want to have to deal with golf balls coming in the windows.)

Other than one next-door neighbor everyone is pretty much in "smile & nod" mode. For the one neighbor, he talks a lot and is a nice guy, in his 80's and I clear his driveway of snow since I have a snow thrower and it takes about 10-15 minutes to do. That gives him an excuse to take us out to lunch later on. His wife is frail and he's the one taking care of her so he doesn't get out much.

There are parties at the pool in the summer but being introverts we don't go, so we don't know the other neighbors well at all.
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Old 11-26-2014, 06:47 PM   #45
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Interesting stories.


When our children were young, we lived in a 500-house subdivision with an active association and at the time many young families like us. We had many great neighbors and friendships, although none really lasted after we moved 30+ minutes away.


The current house (now used for spring/fall) is at the end of a dead-end street (ends in a park) with seven houses on 1.5 acre lots. We have only the park in front and on one side, and a creek/wooded area in the back. Only one neighbor on one side. They are great, and have really worked to improve their house and grounds. They keep a bit of an eye on our place when we are gone although not necessary since we have a caretaker watching.


In the place where we spend the summer, the houses are on small lots close together. When we bought there 15 years ago, there weren't many houses around. Now, it has filled in. We have been and remain close to the elderly (now a widow) woman on one side along with her extended family and an artistic family in the back of us. We loathe the people who bought the new build across the street-they have two large dogs on a tiny lot and they keep them outside and let them bark incessantly. They are also very noisy themselves when outside. Can you say NOKD?


The place we are now spending winters is a condo association with fairly low density and a golden rule approach to neighborly relations. We haven't struck up close friendships yet, but the vibe is calm and quiet, with a good handful of group social activities in season and small gatherings for cocktails.
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If I drew a circle around my house with a ¼ mile radius, it would include two neighbors.

We moved here for the privacy, and we certainly have it!
Pretty much the same here. Extend that circle to ~3/4 a mile radius and that would include a total of about 8 homes/families. All are retired except one family and they only come up on the weekends or holidays. We know them all but typically but only stop to talk a couple of times a year. Everone moved to this area to get away from the big cities and they want and respect privacy and their space. It's unspoken but everyone watches out for each other.
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On my section (mile x mile) there is us a couple with 2 young children, and a single woman allergic to everything in life. The young dad is a volunteer fire fighter in my station. They will watch the house and critters if needed. The single woman is the GF of my fire chief. Makes the old quantum physics, or new thought thinking that we are all connected, the truth.
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Where I live is semi rural but growing and getting more crowded every year. We have lived where we are about 20 years. My road used to be dirt up until about 3 years ago. That pretty much kept a lot of the traffic down except for the kids. Now there's a lot more traffic. All the neighbors around us are related and pretty much keep to themselves in their family clicks. They are not friendly people. But that's OK since we have our own circle of friends and the neighbors are not the kind of people I would want as friends anyways. They do their thing and we do ours. Since I had retired this year, we are looking for acreage out in the real country to eventually build the house we want and a big pole barn for me.
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We live on an interior cul-de-sac of about 20 homes where most people have been for 20 years in a community of about 100,000 near a city of about 4 million. Ages of the people in these 20 homes are between 1 month and 90 years old. It basically is a fairy tale living in a bubble. I usually see and talk to 5 neighbors simply by going out to walk the dog in the morning and another 10 or so in the afternoon. I also see my neighbors in the grocery store, local restaurants, and elsewhere pretty routinely. The neighborhood is very desirable because of location near top public schools, so when someone dies, a new family with school-age children usually moves in.

Everyone looks after everybody else and is reasonably friendly. Even their kids and visitors are friendly. I mean much more than a hello and nod. I know all about surgeries, parents, kids who have moved away, political persuasions, etc. There are 4 disabled people here as well. There are no slobs on the street. Please don't forget that fairy tales also have evil stepmothers, but even they can be very nice most of the time if you are nice to them.

I was told by my in-laws years ago that one had to live in a neighborhood where the home prices were above $130K or no one would take care of their homes. Although prices have gone up since then, what was true then is still true today (with adjusted pricing).
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We live in a development with a homeowners association. Annual dues are $10-25/yr for the association directory and lawnmowing of a small common area. I served on the association board a couple of years. We have block captains too.

Neighbors across the street introduced themselves the first week I arrived and lent me a small refrigerator until the bulk of the furniture arrived. We watch each other's houses and collect each other's mail and go out to dinner once in awhile. Next to us is a great family with 3 wonderful kids. We chat in the yard all the time with our neighbors. Our houses are good sized but not McMansions with 1/3-3/4 acre lots. We are luckier than most.


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We live on a dead-end country lane we share with four other homes.
A few years ago we went on a river cruise in Europe. The river boats are small, and people get acquainted pretty readily. After a day or so, some of the other folks told us there was another couple from Wisconsin aboard.
We bumped into one another in short order. "Where in Wisconsin are you from?"
"We're from blah-blah."
"Wow, we're from blah-blah too. What road do you live on?
It turned out that they lived on OUR road, three doors down. We'd waved at each other for well over five years and had never come close enough to have a conversation until then.
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We moved to our current neighborhood about 24 years ago and have gotten along with all of our neighbors fine. The ones on each side have been the same during this time. The ones behind us did move a few years ago, but sold their house to relatives and we get along fine. Our neighbors have a variety of skills which we've exchanged to help each out other the years. We have an "open shed" policy where we are free to go into each other sheds to borrow tools, just leave a note saying that you have it. When one's riding mower has an issue, the others have been fine in letting theirs be used, or cutting the grass for others). Fences have gone up/down, trees have been cut down or planted along our borders, with knowledge and no issues.

Two of these neighbors have kids around the same age as ours, some they grew up together and remain friends. Yeah, they got into fights a few times but our approach was to get everyone together to discuss with and figure out ways to work things out. In the long run this paid off and by the time the kids hit their teenage years all were getting along great.

A couple in our neighborhood starting having block parties about 10 years ago, and they have grown to where it is held on a nearby farm, everyone who comes makes a donation and brings a brink and dish/dessert to share.

This is one factor why we hesitate downsizing to another location. Ever though taxes are high in our state, having neighbors like these has worked out great, and one takes a chance finding neighbors like these elsewhere.
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We live in a neighborhood that started in the 1840's as a suburb of our city but is now central. Most of our block was built in the 1920's. Our neighbors are all much younger than us but that's fine. A few houses are rentals given we are close to the university. We know everyone on the block but not the renters so much. Two of the neighbors we were closest to have moved away due to work changes. We did socialize with one of those couples occasionally. We always have someone to take in our mail, watch out for our house and bring in the garbage cans when we are away and vice versa. During flooding last spring 2 of our neighbors rented a sump pump and pumped out our crawl space.

There is an active non-HOA neighborhood association with a few social events but the vitriol about NIMBY and zoning issues is awful. However we have many nodding acquaintances from the neighborhood association and invite everyone we know to our annual holiday open house. DH is retired and walks the dog so he knows them all. Alas I still w*rk.

There's only 1 difficult neighbor who is next door to us. He's an owner not a renter. Drunken singing at 3AM in the backyard is not appreciated by us. It's good it only happens a few times a year and I put in my earphones and the white noise machine. DH will occasionally go onto the back porch and yell at them to tone it down. Once he was stark naked as he ran out there - good that there's a tall fence - no one wants to see that although for 72 he is in excellent shape and slim.

I'd like more friends but time and interests don't meet. We are thinking of primarily moving to a foreign country resort area with a large ex-pat community and keep a small condo in an over-55 community closer to family in the next 1-2 years. That might provide more of a social life and sense of community. And if not, at least there will be a beach.


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Neighbors on one side of us are nudists and roam their yard / pool buck naked. ....

Across the street we have an extremely elderly couple who never venture outside. Next to them is a restaurant/cafe owner who stores cars in this back yard (thankfully). He occasionally hosts porno film shoots....
Perhaps you should introduce the nudists to the porno filmaker.
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We had a nice neighborhood for a little while... cookouts and holiday parties . Then the guy in the middle (who hosted the great Christmas party) decided to clear cut 60 mature trees THEN have the lot surveyed. He didn't own a SINGLE tree. ....
I never fails to amaze me that people do things with no idea where their property lines are (or worse, they just don't care).

We bought a house in the mid 1980s in an area where surveys were not common. A few years later, our neighbor, who built their house on a corner of the family farm property that was adjacent to us, decided to sell their home and as a result had to subdivide the home from the family farm and do a survey. The survey determined that the corner of our 20x40 pool and a larger corner of our fenced in pool area were not on our property. The prior owner of our property had built their pool and fenced-in pool area without knowing where the boundaries were. Luckily, the neighbor's property was under contract and we found out that their driveway crossed our property so we exchanged an easement for the driveway for 1/8 acre of property that resolved the situation.
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Perhaps you should introduce the nudists to the porno filmaker.
Ha! I about choked on my coffee! But where does that leave the OP? Waiting to buy the movie, or just peeping through the fence?
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If the OP is frugal (cheap) like many of us, he'll peep through the fence.
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Most of the neighborhood I have lived in people were nodding acquaintances although I would have to say the few times I needed help they were right there to help. The neighborhood I lived in before this one people really knew each other. I think that was mainly due to one couple who were particularly friendly. Also, for unknown to me reasons people were outside in there front yards more.

Now I am back to nodding acquaintances, but I have attempted on a smaller scale to be the "particularly friendly" single. This neighborhood seems more transit than the other, at least two of the houses are rentals.
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We live on a dead-end country lane we share with four other homes.
A few years ago we went on a river cruise in Europe. The river boats are small, and people get acquainted pretty readily. After a day or so, some of the other folks told us there was another couple from Wisconsin aboard.
We bumped into one another in short order. "Where in Wisconsin are you from?"
"We're from blah-blah."
"Wow, we're from blah-blah too. What road do you live on?
It turned out that they lived on OUR road, three doors down. We'd waved at each other for well over five years and had never come close enough to have a conversation until then.
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