Originally Posted by harley
I wonder if it has anything to do with competitiveness. I was a decent athlete in my younger days, and enjoyed the game and the physical exertion. But I never really cared that much whether I/we won or lost, although winning was always a bit better. That made me a mediocre teammate for my more fanatically competitive peers. And while I always prided myself on doing a good job when working, I never tried to achieve anything great. I even turned down promotions that would take me out of my chosen tech area and into management. And I've adjusted to ER with an almost scary ease and pleasure. Maybe it's all be tied together.
As the old adage goes "in the end, you're only competing with yourself." This applies to sports AND to life in general. If you feel like you have left something undone or want to contribute again, don't ignore the feeling. It will only fester and cause you to doubt your decision to retire. In reality, retiring is exactly what you wanted to do at the time, so it was the right decision. Feeling differently several months or even years later is a sign that you want to do something different yet again. Embrace the feeling and figure out what it is that YOU want to do. Don't worry about what everyone else is doing, or worse, what people expect from you. You don't need external validation. It's not worth the price you'll have to pay.
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