Thanks from me too. I have only read the first few pages, and see what you mean about her approach being quite extreme though I have to say, she is describing me quite accurately. I have upset many people in my life who could not understand that just because I like them does
not mean I want to "hang out" with them. One of my best friends is similar to me in that regard. He is also deadly scared of offending people, so he makes multiple excuses and apologies when turning down invitations, working himself up into great anxieties over the whole process. I don't apologize for myself as much and as a result, I seem to annoy/upset/ turn people off more. I don't want to offend anyone, but it is next to impossible to get someone who is anything less than very introverted to understand that being alone is a wondrous and joyful state of being for me, and their prolonged presence would muddy up the fantastically serene canvas that is my life of joyful solitude..
The only exception in this is my SO, who I talk to every day and see about once a week. Without her I would feel lonely.
One of the things that concerns me is that I think if I tried to describe my nature to others, it would make me sound as if I am a cold person with little or no empathy for others, and that is not the case at all.
My cats understand though, I think............