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Old 02-22-2007, 05:14 PM   #21
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I've got over 37 years as a LEO, currently chief of police for a small Cape Cod town. Still enjoy what I'm doing, but will have to pull the pin in around four years (65 mandatory retirement). Might leave earlier, hard to say. No debts, house paid off, so money isn't the issue. Just can't quite figure what I'm gonna do when I finally have to grow up....


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Ok. I need to know you better. I've fished Cape Cod a number of times but unfortunately not recently. CT needs to get some help catching "manly fish" too. Mostly, I've stayed around Chatham. I realize I'm hijacking the thread so feel free to comment / respond in a PM.

I'm sure you know the "where to stay" and "where to avoid."


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Re: Retiring early after being in command...prescription for a freak out?
Old 03-06-2007, 04:45 PM   #22
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Re: Retiring early after being in command...prescription for a freak out?

I retired as the President/CEO of a national charitable organization -- a real "high visibility" career with lots of psychic perks like mixing and mingling with celebrities, politicians and such. One piece of advice that I got early in my career carried me through what could have been a rough transition: that advice was to never confuse WHAT I did with WHO I am.

In my job, I was responsible for making charitable gifts totalling millions of dollars a year -- but that early career advice helped me remember that people were willing to take my calls not because of my charm and sparkling personality, but because I was bearing a check from a benefactor long gone. A lot of people would laugh at my jokes, invite me to dinner and generally want to get close to me -- again because they were seeking grant dollars that I had some control over. As I got closer to retirement, I found myself reminding myself of that advice more and more often and it helped me keep on an even keel as I transitioned my "power" as President/CEO to my replacement.

Now that the trappings of my career are but a fond memory, I take great confort in knowing that my real friends are the same folks who stood by me in good times and bad; that my preparation for FIRE served me well in making the step off the stage; and that my best years are truly those ahead of me.

I know others in similar situations who had a very hard time stepping off the stage, and several of those have admitted to me that they started to believe that what they did was really who they were. So sad.

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Old 03-06-2007, 04:55 PM   #23
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This company is 15 times larger than when I started to work a little more than 25 years ago. Now have close to 200 persons in my dept at multiple locations in several states. Regulations, red tape and personnel matters take up the bulk of my time. Very little to add value for customers or stockholders except keep us out of trouble with the regulators.

No problem to leave this behind.
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Old 03-07-2007, 05:13 AM   #24
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WHAT I did with WHO I am.

Excellent advice. Seems like the biggest challenge to me. I have seen so many crash and burn, some to the ultimate levels. It is more typical than most expect. Two weeks on a beach is more than most can handle.
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Old 03-11-2007, 06:40 AM   #25
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Re: Retiring early after being in command...prescription for a freak out?

good post
i have been the "boss" for 20 years and think of this often when i think of early retirement...
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Old 03-12-2007, 06:26 PM   #26
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good post
i have been the "boss" for 20 years and think of this often when i think of early retirement...
Being the "boss" for decades (30+ years in my case) has an effect on your expecations of how others treat you to some extent. In the work environment I am currently "king" of my domain. There is no one higher in my department and my nearest boss is 1500 miles away. Most of my working life has been spent as a boss of some form or another; supervisor, manager, department manager, multi-site manager, director, etc. so "being in command" has been a major part of my life.

Leaving that role behind can be a shock to some people who have not had a life outside of their work role. I learned a long time ago that there are two of me; my work me and my non-work me. I am not the same at home as I am at work and vice versa. If I were I know I would have a really rough time in ER with no one to cater to my ego or do my bidding. LOL! But for some this is a major issue and one not to be taken lightly.

Know who you are before you leave otherwise it could be really tough on the self esteem.

Think about what your day will be like before you leave the job. Write a list and see if these are the things you will be happy doing for the next 30 years or so. Don't include travel and cruises unless you plan on doing them full time. If you life seems too empty, see if you can fill some of those hours with a hobby, volunteer work or even...gulp.. a part time job.

Retirement should be something you GO TO rather than being a job you run AWAY FROM.
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Retirement should be something you GO TO rather than being a job you run AWAY FROM.
Yeah, but having been AWAY FROM my job for over 5 years now, I still get an immense amount of satisfaction from it! - In fact I used to have a saying when I was at work when some A**Hole was making life miserable for me - "They are only making my retirement that much more enjoyable!
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Re: Retiring early after being in command...prescription for a freak out?

Each of my customers/clients (they are all transitioning veterans) - gets my two cents on this topic. Transitional stress can suck! Typically 6-9 mos after retirement or separation after at least 2 enlistments is when it creeps up on you. (Been there done that one too - wish someone had forewarned me)

All I try to do is plant the seed, so down that road when they are cranky, borderline depressed, spouse ready to kill them and vice versa....it can be recognized for what it is - and it is just a normal phase of transitioning.

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