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Old 06-30-2014, 04:43 PM   #21
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One guy, (note the comment in parentheses in the first sentence), latched onto us immediately, and a few days later just 'happened' to drop by with a bag of fresh donuts........the local 'user', (another resident later commented that this guy had "worn out his welcome everywhere else in the complex").

Perhaps the newbies have experienced something similar, which would make them gun shy.

(Also, for me personally, an unsolicited RSVP request, (in my opinion), places me under no moral obligation to respond.)
I forgot about those kinds of people. Haven't run into one of them in a while. We had a couple latch on to us at a car club we joined. They always wanted to sit with us and complained about everything. It was hard to get away from them without being rude.
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We had a really bad encounter with one of these. Long story short, he accelerated our move to downsize.

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Old 06-30-2014, 10:43 PM   #23
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When I ER'd 3 years ago I made a point of planning to do something social every week. Often I am going to events where I don't know most of the people there. I haven't really found any new close friends but I do value the socializing anyway. My DW, on the other hand, is very reluctant to go to events where there are "strangers". If she does go she does just fine talking with people but getting her there is the problem.

Not everyone is comfortable with socializing with new people. It may take time.

Whether or not you should have gotten a phone call from the neighbors that didn't attend . . . well I don't know. It is worth giving them a chance to warm up to the neighborhood. It may take a awhile. Or it may never happen . . .
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I forgot about those kinds of people. Haven't run into one of them in a while. We had a couple latch on to us at a car club we joined. They always wanted to sit with us and complained about everything. It was hard to get away from them without being rude.

Being honest is not being rude. You might be doing them a future favor by being honest with them.


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Don't know too many (any!) adult people that would appreciate being told to stop complaining, politely or otherwise. They thought their car should be beating all the other cars.......NOT.....bad paint, dirty engine compartment. They thought that shouldn't matter because it was an original car. They really like our cars and have asked my husband's advice. My husband told them a few things they could do to improve their car for shows. They said every cleaning/finishing product that my husband suggested didn't work.
I know it's not just my husband and myself. When you go to meetings their the ones sitting by themselves and this is a very large club, couple hundred people. I don't understand why they keeping coming to the meetings, events and shows when nothing is to their satisfaction. Probably lonesome. We just ran into them at a show........an hour later they were still standing there complaining about the venue, the people that parked them, the car owners on either side of them, why there was no breakfast coffee......
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We turn down many events and parties just because we don't like to stay out late, plan it for noon to four and we will be there!
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Don't know too many (any!) adult people that would appreciate being told to stop complaining, politely or otherwise.
That was my thought too. Dependent children don't like it either, they just can't walk out on you.

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