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Old 03-20-2006, 12:04 PM   #1
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I am 48 years old. A possible early out could be offered within weeks. Financially
I can do it with some lifestyle mods. I want to do it so badly I can hardly stand it. If I begin to struggle financially later do to inflation I understand that if physically possible I may have to return to work. I am healthy now. Who knows
what my health will be in the future. My wife is only 40. She is currently working and quite honestly is not as eager for me to be "free" as I am. I am not a lazy
person but somehow I can not help at times to feel very guilty about wanting to retire at such an early age. At the same time even though I have recently been given a clean bill of health by my doctor I have been feeling more and more like I NEED to GET OUT OF THIS CUBE!
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Old 03-20-2006, 12:58 PM   #2
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Sell your wife on your being able to do the shopping, cooking, cleaning, fixing, maintaining and baby raising.

Then look at that laundry list (heh) and see how bad that cube looks.

Yesterday the cat crapped on the floor, and the baby ran around in it and then appears to have done a belly flop in it. A half hour of bathing and carpet cleaning later I actually wished I was in a meeting arguing vehemently over what to name a new program.
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Old 03-20-2006, 12:59 PM   #3
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If you can swing early retirement on the "early out" offer, do so -- call it a "continuing sabbatical" if need be. *

After a year or two if you need to go back to work, do so. *You will not be too old by any means.

Do work toward winning your wife's support ... or at least tolerance of your action, however. *You mayl be miserable if she is "after" you all the time to return to the workforce.

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Old 03-20-2006, 01:02 PM   #4
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Yep, thats what i did. Company offered a one year salary and benefits, couldnt go back to work until a year went by.

I figured it for a free one year paid sabbatical. I giggled a lot during that year.

Decided I liked it and could and should continue.

You can always go back.

If they wouldnt take you back after a year, your job there isnt too solid. Take the buyout and get another job if thats the case, where you're valued enough to re-employ.

I could call my old boss this afternoon after being off the clock for 5 years and I'd bet they'd have a phone and a cubicle for me to report to in the morning...maybe the next day if they couldnt get the paperwork done by the end of the day today.
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What about doing a semi-retirement to see if you feel comfortable financially?* It sounds like you definitely want to get out and need the change.* It doesn’t have to be an all or nothing deal though if you’re not ready yet.*

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Old 03-20-2006, 01:05 PM   #6
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I NEED to GET OUT OF THIS CUBE!* *
So do I!! I'm about ready to bail out of IT withOUT a severance package.
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Old 03-20-2006, 01:12 PM   #7
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Thanks CFB for the chuckle but I'd take the cat poop covered baby any day over a cube.
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I could call my old boss this afternoon after being off the clock for 5 years and I'd bet they'd have a phone and a cubicle for me to report to in the morning...maybe the next day if they couldnt get the paperwork done by the end of the day today.
CFB, your amazing sense of modesty and humility continue to amaze amuse me. (Or is it the image of you cleaning the cat poop off Gabe...)

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Old 03-20-2006, 01:27 PM   #9
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Yeah, well, the cats live in the garage now.

I dropped my old boss an email last year telling him that I had nearly exhausted my supply of company stationary that they ordered for me when I first went to work there about 14 years ago. "I have a great cost savings idea for you to bring up the next time it comes up in Staff...dont buy employees 14 years worth of personalized stationary!". Joked that I might have to come back to work when I run out.

He said that he'd order me a double box to come back and when would I want to take delivery of it? Tomorrow?

Come on...I have to compensate somehow...I just said I had to clean doody off my kid!
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CFB, your amazing sense of modesty and humility continue to amaze amuse me. * (Or is it the image of you cleaning the cat poop off Gabe...)

ReWahoo: A strange post to come in on, when I've finally got my "puter" to work.

"Fuzzy" Something or other has been one of my favorite posters since coming on this board.

My personal opinion is that he is sometimes "full of s--t, but he almost always keeps it entertaining.

Just don't make the mistake of taking it to the bank.

The "puter" is working now, and it's raining cats and dogs, so golf is not going to happen today.

"Fuzzy" something or other is not a bad alternative.

He keeps me personally entertained, which is worth a whole helluva lot in the overall picture.

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Old 03-20-2006, 02:08 PM   #11
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I'm almost always full of **** Jarhead. Glad you're back among the living.

It IS one crappy day out there, isnt it? Good day for cleaning and cooking, which means i'm smelling Crock Pot food right now, my kitchen is sparkling, the baby's asleep and my post count is ridiculous... :P
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The "puter" is working now, and it's raining cats and dogs, so golf is not going to happen today.
Welcome back to the asylum, Jarhead. CFB is giving away free cat poop to all new posters today. Too bad you don't qualify.

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Old 03-20-2006, 04:34 PM   #13
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If you left what do you want to do? If you have a reluctant wife and not a huge amount of money, have you thought of a second job?
Many people do a different or part time job for a while to ease the social, marital and financial transition.

What are your dreams besides not to go sit in a cube all day?

ps. my cube is gray and I really hate it too. I am transitioning out but haven't made my final decisions but I have no deadline. I work as a contractor and I expect one day I will go in and they will say Adios. Or should I say I hope they do that one day.
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Thanks CFB for the chuckle but I'd take the cat poop covered baby any day over a cube.
Don't encourage him.

Next time he'll stop in the middle of the casualty to take pictures. And then he'll probably insist on posting them.

He's probably feeding the cat Fiber Friskies & Metamucil right now...
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AAH! Now you're giving him ideas!

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Old 03-21-2006, 12:58 AM   #16
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Metameowcil ? Hummm, I sense a marketing opp.

"If your cat is slow and snappy.
Metameowcil will make it happy."

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Old 03-21-2006, 03:14 AM   #17
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I am 48 years old. A possible early out could be offered within weeks. Financially
I can do it with some lifestyle mods. I want to do it so badly I can hardly stand it. I am healthy now. Who knows
what my health will be in the future. My wife is only 40. She is currently working and quite honestly is not as eager for me to be "free" as I am. I NEED to GET OUT OF THIS CUBE!
You're healthy now. Good, no, best news. Do not wait until you're not to get out of the cube and do what you want to enjoy. Otherwise it will just be too late !

Your wife is not eager for you to be free. For sure mine was not either. She had never worked and was the only one to be free before. Did not want to share ! Yours works, best news, that will be an income stream and reduce risks. And do not trade too much of your future life against whatever, would it be cooking or else to get wife approval. First do what you want, then handle (gently) situations.

That's just what I did and I enjoy. My credo is: whenever weather is fine I'm out whatever else ! I went three weeks skiing 3/4 sunny days per week when the weather was fine, 6 hours per day. I've never felt so great.

Today it rains (snows up there in the Alps) so I post.
But as soon as the sun will shine, I'll be gone !

And life is better like that than in the cube or even in the large office I had !
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Old 03-21-2006, 06:32 AM   #18
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Does your wife have reasons she doesn't want you to retire early?
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