Originally Posted by Rich_in_Tampa
The common denominator to most "good" deaths is acceptance. It gives boundaries to the sadness. Fighting to the end when futility is clear is often misdirected courage, and makes things much worse for patients and loved ones.
At least is seems that way to me.
That has been my experience as well, having been at my mother's bedside, at home, as she died of lung cancer. She was very accepting, had very little pain, and died in her sleep. My father tried to stave off his heart failure with a pacemaker and died 6 months later; he just fell unconscious as his heart stopped.
I hope that I can be brave enough to realize when medical treatments will no longer provide a longer quality of life and accept the inevitable.