Lancelot
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The phrase that comes to mind in both Lance's and Billy's/Akaisha's situations is:Billy said:There are lots of things that we as foreigners take for granted - like being able to work things out with a local, or subtleties in humor.
Nords said:And, Dex, your observations sure have me wanting to jump up out of my recliner and travel! Not.
Sam said:I am not a world traveler, but I've never been in a place on earth where a smile is not appreciated.
Geez, don't smile to much A smile is the best you can bring to people around you, regardless of time or location.
HaHa said:You really can make errors even with smiles. Like smiles from men to women or women to men can create various types of difficulty.
Rich_in_Tampa said:And smiling at another man's wife or girl friend can generate a lot more jealousy than it normally would here. If you don't wish to inadvertently offend, it's best to initially play it safe.
shiny said:So, I guess there are people I have confused along the way, but I don't feel that I'm being an ugly american. I will be more careful about joking after reading Akaisha's story though.
Sam said:Ha and Rich,
I have the feeling you two are confusing (intentionally or habitually) smiling with flirting. Am I correct?
Anyway, flirting with someone's girlfriend or wife is a no no, abroad or at home. But I'm sure you already know that
HaHa said:Like, how would you interpret it when a guy at a cockfight picks up his bird and French kisses its anus?
HaHa said:Like, how would you interpret it when a guy at a cockfight picks up his bird and French kisses its anus?
wab said:OK, I'll bite. What is the correct response? I assume it's not bowing.
Yes, that's the one. Probably not distributed by the Japan Visitors & Convention Bureau, either.dex said:For example, the items in item number 2 were told to me directly, indirectly and in other ways from some business people I met in Japan and news reporters I knew there.
Heck, I come out that way among our neighbors & acquaintances... you know, the ones who think I'm ER'd because I can't hold a job with my goofy low-brow habits.Rich_in_Tampa said:Ha is right. We have a number of close friends from France, other Asia and Latin America. Among other things, they all say that the grinning, too-eager-to-laugh American stereotype (in their home culture, at least) comes out as being kind of goofy, someone you wouldn't take seriously, kind of low-brow, etc.
And smiling at another man's wife or girl friend can generate a lot more jealousy than it normally would here. If you don't wish to inadvertently offend, it's best to initially play it safe.
Other: many places, grown-up don't wear shorts or jeans other than for soccer or working in the garden.
If you don't care whether you are offending, well, I guess you're just reinforcing the stereotype of Ugly American.
ForeignExchange said:How can anyone not smile in Thailand? They don't call it the "land of smiles" for nothing.
I also try to blend in with the Thais as much as I possibly can. I'm the quiet type, and conservative in the clothes I wear, so I guess that helps.
One important thing I haven't been able to do yet though, is sit comfortably cross legged on a temple floor.
If I make any mistakes, my wife will be the first to inform me.
dex said:4. Americans are very friendly and egalitarian in their dealings with people. In many countries in the world the structure is hierarchical. This influences the interaction you have with the locals.
4. Americans are very friendly and egalitarian in their dealings with people. In many countries in the world the structure is hierarchical. This influences the interaction you have with the locals.
Very accurate observation. Most relationships here are defined by who is the "Poo yi" (big man.) Asians in general are VERY hierarchial and the "superior" person does not tolerate much insolence from the "lower."