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Old 09-02-2014, 08:25 PM   #21
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Sounds like you are a little apprehensive about starting your new life. A few thoughts:

- Is there something you enjoy doing during the day that is miserable on weekends due to crowds? This is a good time to do it!

- Don't try to make a busy schedule for yourself. You really do need to detox.

- Exercise is always good. As is a nice glass of wine or your favorite adult beverage (after 5:30)

- Making lists of things you want to do now that the big day has come can be helpful. Just don't overload yourself with projects, make sure there is plenty of fun stuff. And doin' nothin' can be a ton of fun!

Congratulations and enjoy!
Thank you. I have a few things on a list in my head to do tomorrow, but probably the main one is to feed the crows that wait for me in my driveway. Not too ambitious! I have family to call and tell the news but it is only people who are supportive. DH's parents think we should work until we drop dead so we decided that we will not tell them when we quit our jobs, but just give vague answers.
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Old 09-02-2014, 08:30 PM   #22
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I was in a similar situation working in IT. I quit in June of this this year. I've never felt better. However after 3 months I am thinking I should have tried to get disability or something. Working the system. I hate when you get pushed into a desperate situation. You have a skill that you can always use. If after a while when you decompress and feel like you want to do something, do it on your terms.


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Yes, I really didn't like feeling pushed into a desperate situation either. I felt like I couldn't leave on my terms, but I guess I really still did, but it just happened earlier than I planned. Also sneaking out the door felt strange. One of the reasons we worked some extra years was so that we would never have to go back to work. I'm really done with nursing, but it has definitely given me good life skills. It's sad how many of our jobs turn toxic.
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This is the best thing that could have happened at this point in your life. I left a very stressful job about four months ago, and I think it took me about three months before I was really de-stressed. It really can take a while. Agree with most that has been said here - sleep, read, run, hike, or whatever you like to do, whenever you want to do it.
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Old 09-02-2014, 08:47 PM   #24
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This is the best thing that could have happened at this point in your life. I left a very stressful job about four months ago, and I think it took me about three months before I was really de-stressed. It really can take a while. Agree with most that has been said here - sleep, read, run, hike, or whatever you like to do, whenever you want to do it.
Wow, thank you for your insights. You are probably right, the situation was not sustainable and I did manage to get out before completely imploding. Now it is time to heal. I'm glad to hear that you are in a better place now as well.
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First of all CONGRATS! You now can get on with the rest of your life.

I have been FIREd for 7 years (this last July). I would guess my departure was little more planned then yours, but it is essentially the same. Go ahead and relax. One of the most striking differences that I noticed was how much stress I had been under and did NOT realize it. I now sleep when tired, wake when I am not, busy doing what I want. I am however, busier then ever. I have to actually plan out time for things that must be done, but are not the 'fun' part of life.

Take your time and decompress. Then see what 'rings your bell' and pursue ...
Best of luck to you. ... and go ahead and enjoy life now
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We are required to give 3 weeks notice to get our vacation paid out

Hmm, Im not sure thats a thing. Might be illegal.


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Any ideas to detoxify?
Got any vodka?
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Got any vodka?
Red wine or the occasional scotch or cognac also works... but only if you are persistent.
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Your screen name tells me you have a sense of humor. Once you detox a bit, I imagine that sense of humor and playfulness will come to the surface and be with you as you git it all figgered out.

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Old 09-02-2014, 11:59 PM   #30
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Well, since I don't drink alcohol I was thinking something along the lines of a Peanut Buster Parfait at Dairy Queen

Oh now we're talkin'!!! My DQ drug of choice.

... just don't make a habit of it. Or, not too much of a habit.


Congrats on the next phase of you life!

I'll now go fantasize about PBParfaits
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Congratulations on making your decision to retire and executing it!

Take your time to relax and detox. I bet your cats can help show you the way to true relaxation. They really know how it's done.

Take care and enjoy your new found freedom.
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Thank you so much for everyone's kind thoughts and great suggestions! Today is a new day. While I still had to take exedrin at 2AM I was actually able to get back to sleep afterwards and slept better than I have in months. Hopefully the nightly (and daily) headaches will soon be a thing of the past.

I also did a slow but respectable jog this AM. A few errands to run but otherwise time to relax. It is starting to sink in : I am now retired at age 45.
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Thank you for your post. I guess tomorrow is the first day of a new life. I've been looking forward to it for several years now, but it still didn't happen the way I'd planned. But at least it is done. I was surprised by how much I was bothered by toxic coworkers while being fully aware that I didn't need to be there. I didn't think it was burnout because I liked the patients (hospice) and the work, and I still did a good job, but good grief I had some nasty coworkers. Well now it is time to look ahead.
First, as many others have said, congratulations and look forward to the rest of your life doing what you want to do. Exercise is a great way to relieve stress and clear your head.

Your job sounds like my wife's. She is an RN and works hospice also. Works at VA, and loves most of the patients She has had some bad co-workers and mgrs, and some great ones. The key for her is to develop the good relationships and limit the bad ones effect. Not always successful, but it seems all work environments have similar issues.
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Thank you so much for everyone's kind thoughts and great suggestions! Today is a new day. While I still had to take exedrin at 2AM I was actually able to get back to sleep afterwards and slept better than I have in months. Hopefully the nightly (and daily) headaches will soon be a thing of the past.

I also did a slow but respectable jog this AM. A few errands to run but otherwise time to relax. It is starting to sink in : I am now retired at age 45.
As someone who also retired at 45, I congratulate you!

I had been working part-time for 7 years before I fully retired at 45, so there wasn't a huge transition from working only a few days a week to not working t all. You'll get by, I am sure. Maybe you can take daily afternoon naps like I do; it's the best sleep I get.
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Congratulations on entering this new phase of your life. I hope your transition from work to retirement is as enjoyable as mine has been.
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One of the most striking differences that I noticed was how much stress I had been under and did NOT realize it.
That was a bit of a surprise to me as well. It was such a strange feeling, not being under the stress, that at first I didn't understand what was "wrong" or more accurately, different.

And it was a bit weird too to not have anything scheduled, or day-to-day plans. From kindergarten on we're told we have to "do this", "be that", "learn this" so set goals, and we do it all our lives.

Then, suddenly, all that is gone and you have the freedom to do, or not do, almost anything you want.
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This happened to my boyfriend last Thursday, he was going to work but instead called his boss to say he wasn't coming. He was fed up with work and had been waiting for a new union contract but found that he would get retro anything in the new contract. He was ready to retire in a week or two or last Thursday and Thursday won. So far he spent it killing weeds and mowing the lawn and going to dentist. He is coming to my house now to get his fish cleaning station I built for him as a house warming gift for his house on a river. I will go to his house tomorrow to help him unload it and help him catch some fish, then come home in a few days if I get bored. Retired is good, you don't need a plan, just do it.
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Wow, what a difference 3 days makes. I can sleep!!!! I wondered if I would have regrets, but certainly not now. The cats usually start waking us by around 5AM (we are morning people) but the last few days even they have been letting me sleep until close to 7AM. One of the things that strikes me is that during the day I have had this sudden realization that I feel calm. What a pleasant feeling.
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Note that he didn't say it had to be 5:30 where you are...
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In the right circumstances it doesn't matter. When I was working shift work one of my neighbors did too. After a midnight shift we thought it quite all right to have "Miller time" at 7:30 AM.
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