Originally Posted by moneymama
Bingy -- you are exactly right -- I don't think he can step away from the limelight career.
I never thought careers and work life could be so complicated and emotional!!
There are many reasons other than money to stay at jobs. Many people get most of their self worth from their job.
These are not only the exec levels, but lower levels too.
I've always been all in at work... the long hours, etc. Many of the people I know don't think this ER will last very long... but the CTO of the last place figured I'd be back full time in less than 2 months... just past that long out... and still have more things to do than I can finish.
First check you ER funding... is there enough.
Second... check with DH... what is his thoughts on ER? Are you two on different pages.. or different books? Maybe he could use a good layoff!
I had to convince DW that we really could do this (financially). We hit some outside FA to help bring this concept home. Our primary FA is an idiot (me)... so some more objective opinions helped.
In 2010 I was laid off (location closing) and was one of a few offered a relo. I could not take it due to aging parents (hindsight... absolutely the right choice.. could not have dealt with there need at a distance). If this layoff had happened 5 or more years before, I would have been a basket case... my self esteem was wrapped into my work. We are all expendable...
You need to understand where your DH is at. If he is all work, maybe encourage some extra curricular activities that will help him build an outside life... my DW did this for me (sailing for me). However... most of my sailing buddies think I will be back in work soon.
You need to realize that retiring can be emotionally traumatic... losing your identity. You may need to help DH transition.. and could take time.
I'm guessing you have a lot of discussion ahead of you. Good Luck!