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Old 08-27-2010, 10:04 PM   #41
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"Probably not" was out of my mouth before I could even think. Followed by mumbling something about projects we're working on today (which is true).
So, I guess I'm just going to have perpetual excuses. Which is fine, really, since I can't seem to come up with a more general completely inoffensive response. And we're always doing something (even though we usually don't know what it is until the very last minute).
Personally a weekly potluck sounds like overkill. What's happened in the last week that fills all those conversational hours? It would seem to be a lot easier to cope with if it was on the "first Friday" or some monthly schedule.

But there's always the Miss Manners approach:
"I have such a difficult time with large crowds that it takes a lot of effort to handle the stress. With everything else we've been working on, and all the problems we've had getting parts for weekend projects, by the time we get to Friday night I'm usually just too exhausted to think about facing the potluck. For now my DH and I are going to keep trying to go to one every month or so and see how I do."

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"Um, well, this is really kind of embarrassing to talk about, but Friday night has always been a very romantic date night for us and after a week of rushing around we really look forward to our special nights, I mean times. We're going to try to make a potluck on the third Friday each month but it's so difficult to give up that time with each other and if one thing leads to another..."
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Nords! Love your suggestions! A bit long-winded for me. But still.....

I think I can feel safe that something will turn up every Friday that requires our immediate attention. And something did today. DH found an unterminated water line in the garden, and then a major leak somewhere else. So right as everyone else was driving over to the clubhouse for dinner, DH and I were busy digging up grass to find a big gash in a soaker hose and then figuring out how to jury-rig it to hold up until the lawn maintenance people can repair it properly next week.

At this point, I think we are the only ones in the neighborhood not attending. Seriously! Maybe the others are so enthusiastic because they just got back here within the past week or so.

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Nords! Love your suggestions! A bit long-winded for me. But still.....
Well, of course it's long-winded, that's the whole idea!

You're supposed to just blather away on the subject for two or three paragraphs until the nosy gossip concerned neighbor is ready to chew their own arm off to get away from you. And with those sorts of social excuses, they're certainly not going to continue deposing you with penetrating followup questions...
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Besides the pressure of having to get together every week I have no interest in coming up with a dish that often .
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Besides the pressure of having to get together every week I have no interest in coming up with a dish that often .
Oh yeah, I hear 'ya. I have two staple recipes these days: a tortellini and marinated vegetable salad for winter; and a caprese salad for summer. I went into a major funk when the Filipina caterer closed up shop a few years ago. I used to order four dozen lumpia from her and watch them be scarfed up like there was no tomorrow.
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Good point. I wasn't even thinking of what a drag to come up with some dish every single week....ugh.
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Interesting, we live in a remote area. Closest town is about 15 miles away. We have a 'Friday Windown'. Our Golf Club closed a little over a year ago. So to keep the happy hour going we rotate homes. It is BYOB, and host provides chips and dip. Low key, and I would say we have about 60% participation on any given Friday. It last about 2 hours.
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"Um, well, this is really kind of embarrassing to talk about, but Friday night has always been a very romantic date night for us and after a week of rushing around we really look forward to our special nights, I mean times. We're going to try to make a potluck on the third Friday each month but it's so difficult to give up that time with each other and if one thing leads to another..."
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Besides the pressure of having to get together every week I have no interest in coming up with a dish that often .
Yeah - that definitely was a big part of "The Dreads" for me!

I really don't have time to cook for Pot Luck right now, especially if I have to match a food "theme" each week. And running to a restaurant to get something to go for a pot luck dinner just seems silly plus $$$.

Well anyway - like I said, the food so far at the dinners has been pretty ho-hum at best. We're both picky eaters. I just can't get excited about going if I don't really expect to enjoy the meal.

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Interesting, we live in a remote area. Closest town is about 15 miles away. We have a 'Friday Windown'. Our Golf Club closed a little over a year ago. So to keep the happy hour going we rotate homes. It is BYOB, and host provides chips and dip. Low key, and I would say we have about 60% participation on any given Friday. It last about 2 hours.
During the normal season here there is a weekly "Social Hour" where everyone brings their own drinks, chairs, plates, and brings an appetizer.

The meal is a monthly cook-out thing. First Friday of the month - bring your own food to grill at the clubhouse, and bring a side dish to share. This approach is much more manageable IMO.

But still I think we only went to one of the cookouts last season. It was a bit challenging sharing grill space with everyone. I burned my lamb chops because someone else's food was dripping on mine plus the fire on my side of the grill was way too hot.

If we ever do that again I'll grill my meat at home and then take it!

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We used to get together at friends houses every other month but now we have started a once a month dinner at a local restaurant that lets us eat slowly & linger over drinks . We all really enjoy it because it's just enough togetherness without the work .
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Well I had a really nice week not thinking about this Friday's pot luck at all.

This evening a neighbor asked me if we were going to the dinner. I just smiled and said no. He mentioned something about how they have a lot of fun when they get together. At that, the ready excuses flowed from my lips - about being busy with projects or tired from a busy week.

I guess the other folks here are really into the weekly pot luck dinner thing.

But gosh, it was so nice not even thinking about going!

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