Originally Posted by Nords
Well, my first thoughts are that this is not your problem, and maybe you need a new family member.
But I haven't solved the problem either. I've been ER'd for over 12 years, and my father-in-law is still convinced that my chronic inability to find a job means that his daughter is going to be on the streets any day now. At least his only granddaughter has managed to escape the nest with her own career and income, although it bothers him to hear her fantasize about the same crazy goal. Clearly this ER hallucination is inherited or contagious.
The polite response to your family member (and the rest of society) is "Well, I'm going to spend a few months with family & friends and then take a look at my next career." That's probably the only response you should give, and if he pursues the details then you could give him a cool look and change the subject. It's working well in my family.
Myths Of Military Retirement And Early Retirement - Military Guide
It's possible that family member sentiments are based on love & concern. Perhaps my FIL thinks that too. However you can't change their attitudes or fears, and envy/jealousy is also their problem. The best you can do is to set a good example of a happy spouse and human being. You may never change their mind, but they'll eventually stop talking about it.
Financial responsibility, not financial independence.
DoD needs to discourage servicemembers from selling our secrets to the enemy, and nobody wants to see military veterans sleeping under highway overpasses. But beyond those basics, financial education is not a defense program.
Nords! Thanks for the words! I have spend a considerable amount of time on your blog and have read your guide as well (about a year ago)...what you (and other contributors to the blog and guide) have done for the military community is commendable. There have been several people who lacked basic understanding of retirement (in regards to being in the military) I have w*rked with and I have pointed them to your site and they too have been quite thankful.
It's ironic as well that the family member that has been such a nay sayer is a retired O-5 but still doesn't have a pot to well, you know. His last home was financed by some shady mortgage company out of the Philippines as no other company would accept his OVER 50% DTI (this DRI is *before* the new mortgage!
Anyway, with 60 w*rking days left, I am realizing that my retirement list is getting longer and longer and I certainly hope that I can live 40+ more years so I can get it all knocked out! And, I am hoping to an extent that eventually that I *AM BORED*!! But, don't think that's going to happen.
Oh yeah Nords...hope you made it though the storms out there OK...that will keep you from being bored FOR SURE!