Join Early Retirement Today
Reply
 
Thread Tools Search this Thread Display Modes
Old 02-13-2014, 10:51 AM   #21
Full time employment: Posting here.
 
Join Date: Sep 2012
Location: San Jose
Posts: 607
As bad as it sounds, I'm probably going to be the most selfish SOB possible for the first year or two after retiring. I feel I've had to give up so much of what I've wanted to do free-time-wise because of jobs, that once I've thrown the job away, it's going to be all about "me" for the first couple years. I'm going to do what I want, when I want, where I want, etc, etc, etc.

I'm curious if anybody else did something similar after they retired? The first year or two was all about them?
__________________

__________________
LoneAspen is offline   Reply With Quote
Join the #1 Early Retirement and Financial Independence Forum Today - It's Totally Free!

Are you planning to be financially independent as early as possible so you can live life on your own terms? Discuss successful investing strategies, asset allocation models, tax strategies and other related topics in our online forum community. Our members range from young folks just starting their journey to financial independence, military retirees and even multimillionaires. No matter where you fit in you'll find that Early-Retirement.org is a great community to join. Best of all it's totally FREE!

You are currently viewing our boards as a guest so you have limited access to our community. Please take the time to register and you will gain a lot of great new features including; the ability to participate in discussions, network with our members, see fewer ads, upload photographs, create a retirement blog, send private messages and so much, much more!

Old 02-13-2014, 11:35 AM   #22
Recycles dryer sheets
 
Join Date: Oct 2013
Posts: 281
Quote:
Originally Posted by LoneAspen View Post
As bad as it sounds, I'm probably going to be the most selfish SOB possible for the first year or two after retiring. I feel I've had to give up so much of what I've wanted to do free-time-wise because of jobs, that once I've thrown the job away, it's going to be all about "me" for the first couple years. I'm going to do what I want, when I want, where I want, etc, etc, etc.

I'm curious if anybody else did something similar after they retired? The first year or two was all about them?
Absolutely! I just now started having a desire to volunteer, some 2 1/2 years later. It takes about that long to fully decompress.
__________________

__________________
RetiredAndFree is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 02-13-2014, 11:47 AM   #23
Full time employment: Posting here.
 
Join Date: Jul 2011
Posts: 576
Quote:
Originally Posted by movaly1 View Post
Where did you serve? I was Peace Corps Cape Verde 96-98.
I served with my wife in S. Africa from 06-08. It was a great experience. We have looked into Response, but PC Response is not encouraging when it comes to couples. We have been fortunate to have met up with folks we served with. And, before our recent move, we participated with local RPCV group. In the state we are living now, the group is far but we are closer to many more volunteers with whom we served. I always look back with great memories.
__________________
davef is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 02-13-2014, 02:33 PM   #24
Recycles dryer sheets
 
Join Date: Jan 2010
Posts: 226
DH retired last May from Megacorp and thought he'd do some volunteer work, but has not pulled the trigger anywhere yet.

We did A LOT of volunteering while our DS was growing up to give back to the community and to teach DS the importance of doing so. It does require some commitment and can be time consuming depending on what you are volunteering to do. We've been through it all....little league coach, team mom, room mom, feed the hungry, Relay for Life, Special Olympics, and the most fun, but most time consuming....youth group leader for a bunch of high school aged military kids.

I think DH wants to give himself time to do what he wants, when he wants answering to no one or keeping any kind of schedule. I don't blame him. I think the one thing he might eventually decide to do is help coach one of the local high school golf teams. He loves golf and is a great teacher. Time will tell. In the meantime .
__________________
misty57 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 02-13-2014, 04:25 PM   #25
Thinks s/he gets paid by the post
robnplunder's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2013
Location: Bay Area
Posts: 2,124
I have not retired yet but consider myself FI. Being FI (well .... finally accepting that we are FI) let us use our money to enjoy finer things in life before RE. That's the biggest change so far. In a way, all we did was remove LBYM from our lives in anticipation of our RE.
__________________
Pura Vida
robnplunder is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 02-13-2014, 04:36 PM   #26
Recycles dryer sheets
Dcharles's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2013
Location: Bismarck
Posts: 168
Every day is Saturday and every evening is Friday night! No Sunday evening blues dreading the start of another week working in a caustic work place. The freedom and de-stress is so comforting. I can pick up my grand daughter mid day and shop mid day with few shoppers to contend with. FIRE is definitely the way to go! I enjoy the simple things in life and don't give a hoot what anyone else thinks anymore. Not that I have A bad attitude, on the contrary, my attitude is much improved! Live life!
__________________
Dcharles is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 02-13-2014, 05:06 PM   #27
Thinks s/he gets paid by the post
sengsational's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2010
Posts: 3,844
Got out just a few weeks ago, so I'm only in the decompression zone, but I feel like I can "relax into" tasks and get them done to a more satisfying conclusion than if I crammed them into a weekend.
__________________
sengsational is online now   Reply With Quote
Old 02-13-2014, 07:36 PM   #28
Give me a museum and I'll fill it. (Picasso)
Give me a forum ...
freebird5825's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2008
Location: East Nowhere, 43N Latitude, NY
Posts: 9,017
My list is very long but I'll condense it to the most satisfying ones I've continued with for almost 7 years...

- Container gardening, year round (my indoor growing room is coming along nicely)
- Volunteering for veterans fundraiser events
- Hanging out at the Legions and VFWs, talking to the guys and making them laugh (I'm a card carrying VA Volunteer)
- Little indoor projects that keep cropping up (minor fix-it type things)
- Cooking real meals (Mr B does the grocery shopping) from scratch instead of relying on the all day crockpot meal or takeout
- Making homemade sausage meat, yogurt, ice cream, grape juice and natural jam (mini vineyard in my outdoor garden), eating indoor grown lettuce, asparagus, herbs, etc etc
- Spending time with regular people instead of being surrounded by techies
- Spending entire days inside my house when I feel like it, listening to music
- Taking road trips up north to Lake Ontario and the Adirondack Mts, doing 1 night stayovers at friends' houses and camps.

Newest venture...I was just voted in to become an Elk. I will be joining a team that puts on lunch events in their hall. There are currently only 3 on the crew. I will be a most welcome 4th.
__________________
"All our dreams can come true, if we have the courage to pursue them." - Walt Disney
freebird5825 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 02-14-2014, 02:45 PM   #29
Thinks s/he gets paid by the post
 
Join Date: Mar 2011
Posts: 3,708
Used to get by on 4-5 hours of sleep for 25 years.

After RE (and a year or so of coming-down), I found that I really could sleep 8, 9 and even 10 hours!

I still get up at 6AM everyday, so that means I just go to bed early, but...wow!, I never knew what it was like to have a good night's sleep!
__________________
Living well is the best revenge!
Retired @ 52 in 2005
marko is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 02-14-2014, 03:20 PM   #30
Recycles dryer sheets
Dcharles's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2013
Location: Bismarck
Posts: 168
I can go shopping with DW during the day! I love it....... no pressure!
__________________
Dcharles is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 02-14-2014, 06:03 PM   #31
Moderator Emeritus
Khan's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2006
Location: Pine Island, Florida
Posts: 6,868
Send a message via AIM to Khan
For a while I enjoyed doing almost nothing; cold and dark and quiet to get away from all the over stimulation of the office. It's been more than 9 years now and I have been meeting people and traveling; will be marrying and moving. I do not volunteer as it is too much like work, not saying I never will.
__________________
"Knowin' no one nowhere's gonna miss us when we're gone..."
Khan is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 02-14-2014, 09:01 PM   #32
Thinks s/he gets paid by the post
 
Join Date: Nov 2009
Posts: 3,871
I was working part-time for 7 years (and only 2 days a week for the last 17 months) before I fully ERed back in 2008. I already had a good number of midday, weekday volunteer activities as well as well as an evening hobby I could not do on days I worked. But I often had scheduling conflicts on the midday stuff, making the 2 work days a growing nuisance. ERing removed nearly all of those scheduling conflicts and enabled me to go out at night on any night because I was never worn out from working.

I have abeen able to help my ladyfriend on any day now that I am not working any more. Sometimes, she could not schedule things on my days off where my availability would have been very helpful. So, everyone wins!
__________________
Retired in late 2008 at age 45. Cashed in company stock, bought a lot of shares in a big bond fund and am living nicely off its dividends. IRA, SS, and a pension await me at age 60 and later. No kids, no debts.

"I want my money working for me instead of me working for my money!"
scrabbler1 is online now   Reply With Quote
Plenty of Time for Friends and Family
Old 02-14-2014, 09:39 PM   #33
Full time employment: Posting here.
 
Join Date: Jun 2012
Location: Suburban Woods in Ohio
Posts: 503
Plenty of Time for Friends and Family

Work no long dictates how much time I can spend with loved ones. I can work my entire schedule around their availability. This was such fun when our son and his wife were planning their wedding last year. I can travel long distances now--during the off season!--whenever and wherever DH and I are invited. Some of our friends are also retired now, so we can stay up WAY too late, enjoying some wine while reminiscing about old exploits.

We are no longer bound by deadlines, meetings, planes to catch, commuter traffic, or the stress of workplace politics.

If my daughter-in-law wants to drink coffee and chat for a couple hours, I'm free to do it.

Can't put a price tag on that!

__________________
"Everything becomes more itself." --C.S. Lewis
LitGal is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 02-14-2014, 09:54 PM   #34
Give me a museum and I'll fill it. (Picasso)
Give me a forum ...
brewer12345's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2003
Posts: 16,391
Quote:
Originally Posted by misty57 View Post
I think DH wants to give himself time to do what he wants, when he wants answering to no one or keeping any kind of schedule.
At least at this stage of my life, that definitely describes me. The most tangible structure I come into contact with these days is my local Catholic parish because DD #2 is going to first penance tomorrow (and first Communion in May) and the parish/pastor is requiring lots of extra time from parents of such kids. It is a test of my ability to STFU when I have to sit through a weeknight "fellowship" or weekend retreat where I am treated to a display of trailerpark Catholics ("we can't figure out where these 8 kids came from, but they all went to Catholic school!") as role models and get told wildly ignorant and/or medieval things by priests I presume are somewhat educated. I wish I could find a local church run by Jesuits or Franciscans, but for now I keep my trap shut and mark it down to my total lack of tolerance for being told what to do. DW is not Catholic so while she sits through some of this stuff I get the most meaty bits as the confirmed Catholic that spent many years in Catholic school.
__________________
"There are three kinds of men. The one that learns by reading. The few who learn by observation. The rest have to pee on the electric fence for themselves."



- Will Rogers
brewer12345 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 02-15-2014, 11:44 PM   #35
Full time employment: Posting here.
 
Join Date: Jun 2008
Location: Hua Hin, Thailand
Posts: 523
My most meaningful changes, in decreasing order of importance.

A round of therapy at age 19 changed my life. A longer and deeper round beginning at 32 transformed me. The free time of retirement left me with plenty of time for walking, usually without ear buds so I could think about things. Life things, big picture things, not the j*b or relationship issues which I often thought about while walking before ER. But I also had one class of comforting reoccurring thoughts, about which I occasionally wondered why they showed up on their own so often. One day the reason the were reoccurring became obvious, which allowed me to put them away. Life Is Good.

The simultaneous shocks of transitioning to no income, no j*b, living in a foreign culture and nothing but free time eventually faded. LBYM was the hardest habit to deal with, both because is was installed during childhood and I had to make my taxable accounts last 5.5 years. The purse strings are loosening. My quality of life is improving. Life is Good.

I've procrastinated all my adult life. J*b and school tasks were usually finished ahead of time, personal stuff was left to somewhere between much later and never. Turning 59 changed that. My body is not getting any younger. I've been wasting time. In January I set some goals, and started a spreadsheet to track them. Each week it's been easier to both get things done and identify the reasons they're not. Life is Good.
__________________
ER Oct 2008 at age 54. An expat mostly settled in Thailand.
ItDontMeanAThing is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 02-16-2014, 11:25 AM   #36
Full time employment: Posting here.
 
Join Date: Nov 2008
Posts: 728
The toughest decision I've had to make since becoming FI is whether to spend it or have kids inherit it. We still clip coupons, secretly help those in need (don't want family feeling obligated to us), spend a little more eating out and have a hard time changing lifelong habits. Time.........really have both too little and too much time. Hate to do volunteer work that don't reflect our skills......DW has a PHD........but are tired of having all the responsibility of our previous working lives. So, planning more trips, looking for coaching opportunities that use our skills and shop a lot.......good excercise walking around the stores. Each phase of life has been and is good........I'm lucky!
__________________
jerome len is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 02-16-2014, 11:37 AM   #37
Thinks s/he gets paid by the post
 
Join Date: Apr 2010
Posts: 1,690
It has enabled us to travel extensively.

It was the catalyst to sell our house, downsize, and remove the much of the clutter from our lives. This has been so very liberating for both of us.

It was the catalyst to truly sit down and consolidate our investments and make positive changes to our investment counsel and how we invest.

There were 3 years in between when I retired and when I actually took my pension. I came to the realization that very few people, including me, understood the pension plan. I made it my business to understand it down to the last detail/benefit and challenge the numbers that megacorp proposed. The time spent doing this turned out to be the highest paid hours of my career!

We have healthier diets and probably spend less overall on food although that was not a goal. People said that within six months of retiring I looked much better...the stress was gone.
__________________

__________________
brett is offline   Reply With Quote
Reply


Currently Active Users Viewing This Thread: 1 (0 members and 1 guests)
 
Thread Tools Search this Thread
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search
Display Modes

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are Off
Pingbacks are Off
Refbacks are Off


Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
Meaningful Purpose BradMM Hi, I am... 63 06-08-2011 08:02 AM
If You Could Change One Thing About Your Personality, What Would You Change? haha Other topics 57 09-17-2009 02:10 PM
Looking to fine tune investments and the amount of meaningful work gryffindor Hi, I am... 4 04-06-2008 12:37 PM
Has there been any meaningful music since the 70's??? Howard Other topics 28 01-06-2006 10:50 PM

 

 
All times are GMT -6. The time now is 02:49 PM.
 
Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.8 Beta 1
Copyright ©2000 - 2017, vBulletin Solutions, Inc.