brewer12345 said:
I don't plan on delivering an ultimatum, as I have no reason to do so. That said, I can and will walk if they will not play ball. I have small children who miss me when I am away, so this is more important than dollars and cents.
My HR lady perspective is that ultimatums are bad, but an honest talk about consequences are good. I'd suggest getting clear about specifics. What is your goal?
"I want to travel no more than 1 week per month."
The next step is to set a timeline. If the timeline isn't met, you walk. "I want this to happen within six months."
Lastly, decide how/if you want to communicate this to your employer.
You might treat it as a request with no "teeth." "I'm having a very hard time with the travel..."
You might take a hard line and say "I truly love this job and my company, but if my travel requirements stay the same I need to start looking for another position. I don't say this to be disloyal, but I have to be honest. Is the company willing to downshift my travel? Is that even possible?
You might take the middle road and say "I'm getting worried about my travel schedule. I'm not seeing my kids enough, and I can't keep this pace up for another two years. What are my options? I want to make my career here."
Don't hint at leaving if you are bluffing. If you suspect they'll fire you for your honesty, look for another gig quietly. But if there is openness and a good relationship with your manager, being tactfully honest about your intentions may create change. Especially if you are a star.
As always, your mileage may vary.
SIS