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Old 08-07-2007, 04:10 PM   #61
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Originally Posted by twaddle View Post
Oh, I remember those days. Imagine being married a few years, your wife hits 35 and says "I've changed my mind; we need to have a kid now. Right now!"
Not something I need to worry about... she's 45!

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Old 08-07-2007, 07:26 PM   #62
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Originally Posted by Nords View Post
But there were many times when her survival was in jeopardy, and not a judge in the land would've convicted either of us!
This reminded me of a favorite Q&A from 'what to expect the first year' or 'what to expect when you're expecting', I forget which:

Q. "Sometimes I have the irrational urge to chuck my baby out the window. I know I never would, but it bothers me that I have the thought. Is this normal?"

A: "Yes it is perfectly normal to have these thoughts"

I've paraphrased but that was the gist of the question. Cracked me up and of course I would eventually relate to it!

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Old 08-07-2007, 08:45 PM   #63
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Originally Posted by jnojr View Post
Not something I need to worry about... she's 45!
Give it time. She'll be 35 again in a year or two.
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Old 08-07-2007, 11:05 PM   #64
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But I don't know anyone who chose to have children who came to regret that choice. I'm sure they exist, but I've never run into one.
I have, and their child was pretty messed up for a long time.
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Old 08-08-2007, 06:33 AM   #65
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Two girls, 9 and 16. They are awesome. For some strange reason that applies even when they are being a royal pain in the butt. Kinda like that magic ability to happily deal with your own kids diaper poop. I have to no desire to "sell" the idea (or marriage, or ER, or satisfying work, or some religous-political view) to anyone. It's all part of the melting pot.
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Old 08-08-2007, 08:10 AM   #66
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Our daughter is almost 16 months old and when she wakes up in the morning and gives me the biggest smile I've ever seen, I think "this is what unconditional love feels like".

Not once did we question whether or not to have kids because it would delay our plans for ER. We just knew we wanted to have kids, period.
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Old 08-08-2007, 02:58 PM   #67
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Here's a review of a childfree book making the rounds in France: France

Remember, if your parents didn't have children then you probably won't either.

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Old 08-08-2007, 06:23 PM   #68
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Remember, if your parents didn't have children then you probably won't either.

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Thanks for the link. I'll definitely check it out. Thank you everyone for your wonderful input!
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Old 08-11-2007, 12:11 AM   #69
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coach - nobody with half a brain is going to admit they regret having kids outright, but if you may attention to what they say about their kids, how they say it, and how they treat their kids it can be pretty obvious.

we're about to have our first so I can't say how it will affect our ability to retire early, but assuming DH stays with his job he'll have a fed gov't pension at 50, we'll have a 529 funded as much as we plan to fund it, and the kid should be in college and soon on her own.

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