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Avoid divorce at all cost. It will send ripples throughout the rest of your life, your kids' lives, and their kids' lives that no amount of money can change.
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I have to take issue with this statement. I was married previously and it was absolute misery. I'm sure it was for her also because we just flat out didnt get along. We were opposites in many ways. She spent every cent she had and I wanted to save for retirement. She wanted keep up with the Jones' and I couldnt care less what anyone thought. We were on total opposite ends of the spectrum sexually. The point is that we were both miserable. Yes, it sent ripples throughout our lives, but now we have both been married to other people for over 20 years each. I dont know much at all about her marriage but there is no way possible that my wife could make me any happier. My ex-wife is still trying to keep up with the Jones' with no end of working anywhere in sight. I am happily retired with a much higher income than she has even while working. From what my grown son tells me, she is still a very unhappy grouchy controlling person. I couldnt be happier (unless my back was totally healed)
Yes it caused problems with our son, but I can easily argue that the problems would've been much worse if he had grown up watching continual fighting every day of his life.
So I say, do everything you can think of to save your marriage, but not just for the sake of still being married. Only do it if it results in a happy marriage for both of you. Life is short and everyone deserves to find someone that makes them happy. If that didnt happen the first time, there is someone else out there that will make you happy and that will make you a better person.