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Old 12-19-2005, 12:12 AM   #21
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Re: Has anyone told their boss to take this job and shove it?

I have also had most of the typical work experiences. All were bad except for the last one. I realized I was FI a few months ago. I went in to my boss, told him I was quiting my admin duties. I took about a month to really convince everyone I work with that I was no longer doing that crap. Now I do the stuff I like and I am really happy. Management announced there would be some downsizing this next year. I could care less! If they want to give me an early ret. package, it will just make my life sweeter. If not, I will be getting paid to only do things that I enjoy. Right now I am thinking about whether I will go into work tomorrow. Maybe, Maybe not.

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Re: Has anyone told their boss to take this job and shove it?
Old 12-19-2005, 05:27 AM   #22
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Whatever you decide never leave without being paid for it (whenever possible and often is :-)). Cash is king.
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Old 12-19-2005, 08:28 AM   #23
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Re: Has anyone told their boss to take this job and shove it?

I think that if you did a noisy exit from your job, your boss would think you had a problem, rather than think the boss had a problem.
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Old 12-19-2005, 09:54 AM   #24
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I think that if you did a noisy exit from your job, your boss would think you had a problem, rather than think the boss had a problem.
Precisely! She made herself look very bad in this particular situation and will not admit to it.

It's nice to fantasize about a noisy exit though... 8)
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Precisely!* She made herself look very bad in this particular situation and will not admit to it.*

It's nice to fantasize about a noisy exit though... 8)
I have worked for a number of bosses over the years that I used to daydream about telling them what I really thought of them. The daydream for one particularly nasty female boss involved an exit strategy that involved leaving a "little something" on her desk as a token of my true feelings for her.

I never did this of course but the thought of doing so was a good mental exercise and allowed me to get it out of my system until I was able to retire and get out of there.


I agree with the others here that said don't make a fuss when you leave. It really serves on purpose and the boss will only think of how happy they are to see you go. Your work peers will be shocked and will think you have gone Postal but beyond that, they will not 'get it" so you have not accomplished anything except make yourself look like an idiot.

Besides, why would it be so important to make a stink when you leave? It won't help you because you would be gone.

I believe it better to just suck it up and find ways to cope with the situatation. Make plans to get out and then execute the plan. Walk out with your head held high and a smile on your face knowing you won't have to deal with that place ever again.
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Re: Has anyone told their boss to take this job and shove it?

The fantasies are great - and help relieve some stress.

I have on 2-3 occasions now, just walked out - temporarily. I've told the secretary, "something's come up, I'll be gone until tomorrow." Say you're sick if you have to. Once I went shopping, once I sat in a coffee shop with a newspaper for two hours, once I went home and cried.

Either way, I just removed myself from something that felt like I would explode if I didn't. But that doesn't solve the long term question, of course.
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Cuberat, this is just for you: http://www.chriskilmer.com/braindrai..._of_the_m.html
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I heard on This American Life on public radio a week or so ago about how common it is for people to take a dump in inappropriate places--maybe to express their displeasure. Department stores. Places of work. Etc. When I was in college and worked in the kitchen of a nursing home, we would on occassion get plates with poop on them.
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The Poop Du Jour... :P
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I was absolutely rolling when reading that...
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I was absolutely rolling when reading that...
My dog used to do that too.....rolling in it that is.

I too enjoyed the story. I used to imagine my boss and her boss dealing with these kinds of "presents" on their desks. It was a very enjoyable train of thought.
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I wonder if it is a nice gift for the boss for the season - just make his/her office has solid walls and door and close it after the delivery.
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Re: Has anyone told their boss to take this job and shove it?

This is a sensitive subject to me. I worked for a man (more than one, actually; this one was the catalyst, though) that I wanted to kill and I was taking my anger home with me. My wife sent me to an anger management course at a local community college and it changed my life. I STRONGLY recommend it for people under job stress.

I found that many of the others in the course had much worse situations than I did and it helped to put my problems into perspective. People whose marriages were on the rocks, people who were there under court order, etc. (Our area police and courts were very pro-active on the subject of domestic violence and have a nationally known program.)

One part of the course is to write down the things that are important to me in my life. Again, it put the work-place trouble into perspective. These are things we know already but writing them down solidifies them magically.

There is also role-playing and learning how to fight fair, among other things.

A friend later told me about going to a Marriage Encounter weekend through his church and they seemed to be identical programs, just different packaging. I do not think I could go through it in front of people I knew.

Depression is anger turned inwards. This is a warning sign.

Do not allow yourself to suffer. Find an anger management course and go. You will take back your life.

In the mean time, do not have a fit at work. Take a break when you feel the urge coming on. Do not confront.

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In the mean time, do not have a fit at work.* Take a break when you feel the urge coming on.* Do not confront.
Or you could just crap all over the place.
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I told the boss that I quit...I was the boss
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Ditto. He took it well I thought.

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Probably glad to see you leave
We were both happy. A real win-win situation.

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Cube Rat,

Hang in there buddy! Agree with Nord's don't give 'em that satisfaction of seeing your anger.

Can you "triangulate"? In other words, who is another influential person in the office and can you impress/get the approval of him or her? If another player in the organization likes you -preferably senior to your problem supervisor- it makes it more difficult for him/her to can you.

Then sit back and coast for awhile. At least until you find a better position. Don't let that p@@@@ ruin your attitude.

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Old 12-22-2005, 09:24 AM   #39
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This is so true! I should have it tatooed on my ass.

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This is so true!* I should have it tatooed on my ass.*

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In that case, you'd be better off tattooing an X-marks the spot with an arrow and the words "You Are Here". That way, people will know exactly where they stand with you.
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