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Old 07-20-2006, 09:14 AM   #61
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REAL football starts in about a month...* :P

Go Cowboys!!*
Where does this fascination with spherical objects come from anyway? At least in baseball they get to handle oversize phallic objects...
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Old 07-20-2006, 09:34 AM   #62
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And why are baseball players always adjusting their "cups"?
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3 Things from the Guy living in Italy.

1. Italy- 2006 World Cup Champions!!

2. The Carolina Panthers will be back in the hunt this year!!

3. *Children tend to bring out the best and worst in you. *As I young father, I wouldn't change my choices. They can be expensive but they sure are fun!! It lets me be a kid again too, riding horses, Boy Scouts, being a flag football coach for twenty 7-9 year olds, etc. *

I also factor in my FIRE, right about the time my kids enter college, I will be 42-43 and plan on being FIRE or close to it, not kicking teenagers out of my house at 3:00AM.

Of all the legacies I will leave on this earth, my children will be the best and most important.
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REAL football starts in about a month... :P

Go Cowboys!!
Texas has a football team? And they're called "cowboys"?

Good luck with competely screw up your team with his pedantic antics Terrell Owens... :P
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Yeah, looking forward to that... NOT!

Bring back Troy, Emmett, and Michael!

(Not to mention Novacek, and an all-pro front line, and def backs three deep..

And get Jimmy to quit his RE yachting lifestyle and part-time j*b at ESPN...

Hell, that team could even win with Barry as coach... :P
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Hell, that team could even win with Barry as coach... :P


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Having a child is the most amazing, joyful experience you will ever experience. Why in the world would you deprive yourself of it? All the money in the world could not buy the joy you will get when you hold that child in your hands.
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C-Mike,

1000% with you on that. Kids make the world go around.

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Having a child is the most amazing, joyful experience you will ever experience. Why in the world would you deprive yourself of it? All the money in the world could not buy the joy you will get when you hold that child in your hands.
I think that those of us who decide to go child-free do not do so for strictly financial
reasons, but because we do not get any joy out of dealing with children (a view
shared by most of my friends). We already have to deal with a whiney, demanding,
infantile, pain-in-the-#$& at work (our boss) and do not need more of the same at
home. However, those few friends of mine that have children agree with you, so
I hope everyone chooses the right path for themselves.
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People who do not have children and then decide that they will know the difference between having them and not.

People who never have children will never really know if they made the right choice.
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73,

It works both ways.

I know some people with kids who also wonder if they made the right choice.

We are very happy with our choice. Not everyone is happy with theirs. I have great sympathy for them, for they have a lot of pain. (Some of it looks like pure luck to me, too, so I hesitate to take credit for our success.)
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CyclingInvestor,

What did you think of Landis yesterday?
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Its very rewarding, and its very hard work.

But you wont understand until you do it. Little ones change your life.

This message brought to you by formerly single people who had children and are now compelled to talk you into doing it to, under the "misery loves company" guidelines.
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I would never try to convince someone to have kids if they didn't want to. It is work and sacrifice, you have to love kids to make it worth it, as DW and I do.

Still, you'd think those who hate kids would have worked their way out of the gene pool by now.
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I would never try to convince someone to have kids if they didn't want to.
Some nice men are coming to your house right now to take you away for proper programming.

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Still, you'd think those who hate kids would have worked their way out of the gene pool by now.
This is a function of a substance known as "alcohol"...

Also see this book.

http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/087...511156?ie=UTF8
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Warning, kid cult members with shovels (love that analogy for religious folk)...trying to convince the rest of us! *
Danger Will Robinson! *Hey, and we LIKE the shallow end of the gene pool!
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73,

It works both ways.*

I know some people with kids who also wonder if they made the right choice.

We are very happy with our choice.* Not everyone is happy with theirs.* I have great sympathy for them, for they have a lot of pain.* (Some of it looks like pure luck to me, too, so I hesitate to take credit for our success.)
Ed,

As long as your happy that's all that counts.

What I'm saying is that you can't know if you would have been happier.

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Here's my 2 cents worth...female, age 59, widow, NO KIDS by mutual choice. I was harassed plenty about not wanting/having any kids (never by my family, though...they knew how I felt). My college roommate flat-out said I was "selfish" for not wanting any. I said it was more selfish to have kids you didn't really want simply because society said it was "normal" to want/have them. She also tried the "who will take care of you in your old age?" thing. Believe me, I know plenty of people whose kids would stick their parents in a home rather than take care of them themselves.

Fortunately, I recognized early on that I didn't have the interest or patience required to be a good mother. There are enough children out there who are suffering for being born to parents who never should have had kids.

Even though I'm "alone" now (for 14 years), I don't regret the choice one bit! So, it comes down to...what do you want (or not want, as the case may be)?
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What I'm saying is that you can't know if you would have been happier.
True. I don't worry too much about 'the road not taken', though. If I did, I'd have a break-down, considering some of the dumb stuff I have done. You pays your money and you makes your choice and you get on with life.
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"As long as your happy that's all that counts."

Totally disagree. I don't know if I could disagree more. I decided to have children (or more children) after realizing that it isn't really all about my happiness. Yes, there is joy from raising children, but it goes way beyond that. For me anyway.
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