free4now
Thinks s/he gets paid by the post
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- Dec 28, 2005
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The role confusion can be a bigger issue than the actual finances. Ever since my net worth exceeded that of my parents, I've had this feeling that I should be helping them financially to pay back some of what they gave me in raising me. But they have always lived larger than myself. It feels like their spending as a couple is almost 4 times greater than what I spend individually.
For a while I had the idea that I wasn't really ready to retire until I could do so and also save my parents. I'd nudge them towards spending less, and they would resent that, and it just felt awkward all around.
It didn't set right for me to save and live on a low budget when they are living higher on the hog. So my resolution is that I'm just not going to worry about it unless they ask for help. Maybe they have more resources than they are letting on and they will magically be fine. Or they may go back to work. Or I may eventually have to bail them out and I go back to work. But nothing will change the fact that they are my parents and deserving of respect. At least until they blow it
For a while I had the idea that I wasn't really ready to retire until I could do so and also save my parents. I'd nudge them towards spending less, and they would resent that, and it just felt awkward all around.
It didn't set right for me to save and live on a low budget when they are living higher on the hog. So my resolution is that I'm just not going to worry about it unless they ask for help. Maybe they have more resources than they are letting on and they will magically be fine. Or they may go back to work. Or I may eventually have to bail them out and I go back to work. But nothing will change the fact that they are my parents and deserving of respect. At least until they blow it