I think it's really telling that even on a personal finance forum, the majority of posters advocate moving out. I took everything said seriously and I've asked in other communities as well. The majority recommendation is to move on and I think that is really what I want to do. This is what I will probably do.
Despite that, I appreciate the contrarian views. I still see the 'stay-in' option as the more practical path. If I was an optimal robot, this is what I would do. My parents see moving out as irrational and so do my friends/colleagues of different cultures (Indian, South American, Eastern European, etc). Why would you
pay to leave your
family, who you have no problems with, to move just three blocks down and then buy all this redundant 'stuff' for your new housing? Sure it's harder, but there's not much stopping you from doing laundry, paying bills, and dating while residing in your parent's home. Honestly, I have trouble arguing with these points, it just makes perfect sense to me. The
"but I want to be freeeee!!!" argument makes me feel naive, and the "because that's what an adult
should do and everybody else does it" argument feels like baseless. At some level, I feel this is more a cultural rite-of-passage than a necessary move.
I wish I would've stayed at home longer. It's far less expensive and i'm not very social so wouldn't have done much more "going out" if I was living alone. I also made well under 1/2 the OPs income so that makes a difference. Staying home an extra year or two can really help with savings so if you get along with your parents then I don't see a reason to move out for a couple years. Save enough to pay cash for a high quality used car and then save up until you can put 20% down on a decent starter home...then move out.
I'm actually not super social either, but I don't mind being that way. I think I would value the independence of doing whatever I wanted, even if that didn't involve tons of social activity. This was good to hear though - it's a point I haven't heard yet and it could very possibly apply to me. Thanks.
Since you're setting aside $1k/month for your parent's retirement and an apartment would be $1.1k you're only saving $100/month on housing. But since meals are free that can be $200-$300/month too. Add another $200 for misc. stuff that you get for free at home like access to the laundry, utilities, and such. So is it worth saving ~$500/month to stay?
I didn't move out until I was 24, and that was only because my recently divorced older sister moved back with a 2-year-old son and I was working shift work. It is impossible to keep a 2-year-old quiet and I needed my beauty rest when working midnights so that's when I got an apartment. But I still helped maintain the house for my mother on days off.
Everyone's situation is different so there really isn't a single best answer.
I liked this story. You took the practical path until it no longer made sense to do so. Just for the record, I'd set aside money for my parents regardless of what I did. They don't save much for retirement themselves, but have poured a lot of their money onto me. They paid for college, got me my car, etc. They were not stingy with their money towards me and I intend to repay that.
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I actually somwhat agree with this. I think only the wealthiest countries have been able to benefit from the young adult 'independence' movement. It looks a lot like a consumer luxury to me. It's extravagance. It's just a personal matter of whether this is an extravagance we'll accept.
Hmm, FI or getting laid. Decisions decisions.
Haha. I am not too worried about this. There's nothing stopping me from dating while I'm here, it's just harder. I also think any girl who wouldn't date me solely for residing with my parents is one who's not worth pursuing. I'm not the stereotypical basement-dweller in this situation and, contrary to popular belief, I do my own laundry.