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Old 10-26-2011, 11:05 AM   #21
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At the time I enjoyed my job (computer forensics) and for a long time my attitude at work was "I can't believe they're actually paying me to do this!" But the traffic in the DC area made going anywhere an exercise in frustration, and getting new training/equipment/software in a fast-moving field was a royal pain. I was working on an MS in Information Systems intending to work for one the "beltway bandits" (defense contractors) post-retirement. Then I looked at the numbers and realized that if I retired my take-home pay would actually go up. We had zero debt, DW was stressed out at her job, and a year earlier my mother and her mother had passed six months apart. We thought "why are we doing this? We don't have to". We gave a lot of thought to giving up potential large incomes - DW had already turned down one promotion that would have been even more stressful but we considered the upsides too.

So we pulled the plug and moved to WV. Six months later one of my sisters said "you two look more relaxed than we've seen you in years" so we knew it was the right move to make.

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Old 10-26-2011, 12:24 PM   #22
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Funny you mention the commuting. We've had 3 people retire in the past year: all of them cited the commute as one of their main reasons for leaving. Vancouver traffic is ridiculous. I live less than 10 miles from work and it takes me over an hour.

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Just the idea that I no longer needed to work, gave me an incredible sense of calm. I would take my time getting to work. When I showed up late, I would comment that I was talking on the hands-free mobile and even stayed in the parking lot to complete the last call.

I was never threatened and I believe it was my most productive time of work.

Of course, now, the thought of actually leaving the house before 10 am gives me fits. Never make appointments before 11. Nor after 3pm. But then Vancouver traffic is pretty silly. In fact, public transit is actually better at rush hour and I always have a good ebook on the go on my smartphone.
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Never make appointments before 11. Nor after 3pm. But then Vancouver traffic is pretty silly. In fact, public transit is actually better at rush hour and I always have a good ebook on the go on my smartphone.
Silly? I can think of several descriptive adjectives that would make a sailor blush.

I've always claimed that the person in charge of Vancouver traffic has a) never had a license b) never driven a car and c) is defective in several key brain-function areas related to common sense. For instance, who is the genius that decided to put street names on posts tucked behind trees on the same side of the street as the stop sign? The end result is that you come to a stop several feet past the sign. No wonder people are lost.

My personal favorite though is the absolute refusal to put names on major intersections (Welcome to Vancouver..... guess where you are). Better still, they give the road a name on paper but call it something else (Scott Road instead of 120th).

Don't get me started
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Oops I think I already did!

DW says that traffic engineers should use unfamiliar tourists to establish signage. The things you rail against are common in every city. In France they have really good signage until they don't. You are in a town and the signage stops so you keep going in feint hope that the lack of signage indicates no change in direction. Wrong again!

We drove from Avignon to Arles. When leaving , we had retrace to get to Nice. Following the signs to Avignon got us going the wrong way on the autoroute. Who knew that it was faster to head away from Avignon to get there on that particular autoroute system. 15 minutes and 6.8 euros in tolls got us turned around. (Our TomTom GPS would not work.)

Not picking on France. I have had the same experience in many cities in Canada/US.
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Having investments has definitely cut down on stress. My job income becomes less important every year. It is liberating.
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Old 11-01-2011, 04:55 PM   #27
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I'm still interested in my job, and I still (mostly) enjoy it. Once I'm there, I'm engaged and challenged and looking for ways to improve and do better. It's just that when I am away, I don't look forward to returning. Sunday evenings, I'm bummed out that my weekend of practice retirement is over. Mornings, I am reluctant to jump out of bed and face the commute. Even deciding what to wear each day is tedious and leaves me mildly annoyed and looking forward to a time I can wear whatever I want without concerns for "appropriate" and "professional".

I am not just counting the days, I am counting the paychecks. I am paid monthly and I see it as seventy-two more opportunities to save, which makes the end date seem even closer.

I'm wondering if other people experienced this change in attitude, and if it was a long-term shift, or just a passing phase? As it is, I'm smiling a lot more, and with my closest co-worker (who is my age) making occasional comments of "six more years!" I'm trying to rein that in for fear of becoming a tedious bore. If you experienced a similar attitude shift, did it escalate, making work perversely MORE difficult as the end neared? What tactics do you suggest to cope?


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Yes without a doubt esp. when I think of the things we plan to do and the vacations we got planned...

I feel the same way about my job, I like it and it is interesting but I am in
no rush to go back.

As I get closer my attitude has gotten even better. Work is not more difficult
but I just don't care as much. I still work hard etc.

I count the weeks and every Friday my hotmail pops up with that magic number.

That number also equals how many weeks till our cruise that I am taking my my wife, son, his wife and grandchildren on !
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Old 11-05-2011, 07:35 AM   #28
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I own a business. We thought we might be able to sell it and retire within months, but the deal is not what we wanted, so we will continue on.

Just this morning, to make ourselves feel better, we talked through our new goal of 7 years. 7 years our two kids will graduate college and our house will be paid off, we'll have saved like crazy and we will try to sell again, but at that point, we could take a lower offer just to get out, but given our past history, each year we are worth more.

Just having a plan makes me feel better. We put things on automatic pilot so there isn't a lot to constantly figure out.

This current deal felt too early to me, I wasn't quite in the emotional place, I felt the kids were too young still with too many expenses ahead of us we hadn't completely taken care of yet - college, private school, mortgage, etc.

7 years seems do-able, we'll still be in early 50's at that point and it's short enough to not feel forever away, but far enough that I feel like we have enough time to adjust as necessary.

I now feel waaaaay better. I can handle this.
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Excellent topic. We don't have a specific semi-RE date, but we are fairly close to FI. I would say over the last year that I've caught myself grinning ear-to-ear several times. I just feel so fortunate and humbled to be in this position.
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I have a shade over 2 years left to go. I can see the bright light at the end of the pipe as it gets shorter. Things which used to bother me don't bug me as much. I think much of that has to do with being able to vent at the ones that have made life difficult in the past. I don't hold back as much and have become more myself at work. Used to be I did hold back and had to put up more with the difficult arrogant personalities. I think the ones that are in the middle of their careers are enjoying the path the old timers are plowing...and a bit wistful.

It will be good to leave it all behind and get on with life...not having to deal with the corrosive personalities as when working. A life where you are more in control of your total environment. And I just hate wasting time.
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About eight months left assuming I go through with it. I don't see why I wouldn't unless there is some radical change in benefits or the economy. I can't see that happening.

Each month I look at my retirement service credits and see them go up a bit. i am a few months short of what is needed. When they hit the point that I can retire, I think I will do something very radical like only work my official hours that day, no unpaid overtime!!!
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About 4 1/2 years to go....(June 2016). Sometimes seems a long way off and other times seems like it is flying by. Sometimes I have the Sunday afternoon angst....sometimes not. However, I am thankful that I'm towards the end of my career - I don't have the tolerance for "crap" that I use to
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About 4 1/2 years to go....(June 2016). Sometimes seems a long way off and other times seems like it is flying by. Sometimes I have the Sunday afternoon angst....sometimes not. However, I am thankful that I'm towards the end of my career - I don't have the tolerance for "crap" that I use to
Hi dog, i plan on the same timeframe, are you rebalincing your portfolio to more conservative investments? I am starting
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I gave the institute exactly one year from my announcement. They are free to look for my replacement and I can leave anytime. I noticed that all my stress is gone after I announced. I am no longer going to worry about the politics and bureaucracy, and my only focus is doing well in my job. They want me to help to analyze the candidates and even talk with them if they come for interview.
It has been 4 months and still no definite prospect. This is a difficult field.
There are times I feel, I hope they just find one, and at other times, I feel
I have the responsibility to inform the candidates of everything, the good, the bad and ugly.
After I announced, I kept my mouth shut 100%. I only would respond to friendly inquiries, and at that very short nice responses.
I spoke about it in a meeting and after that, nothing.
I'm very careful about not telling all the crap that are going on. and kept
an official statement that I'm retiring because, I can! I am not going to say anything good or bad, as people may think I'm bashing.
The big question is what will happen when we're getting close to 1 year.
Well, it's my ball game! I can ask for extension and there is nothing they can do but give it. If they find one before that time, I have already made up my mind I want to leave anyway.
By keeping a low profile and behaving well, despite the nefarious condition, I'm working the best to end it, and if they can't find the right person yet, I can always extent or even come back for a while as the money is good! I can also leave anytime after a year.
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Another reason to retire Ė performance reviews

Well today my boss called, and informed me that he wants to do my final performance appraisal sometime this week, and set my next yearís goals. I told him if heís busy, just Email it to me and Iíll sign it.

Our performance reviews are such jokes, and after 27 years of working for this company, if I donít know what I should be doing by now itís too late.

Happy dance last performance review Ė ever!
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Another reason to retire Ė performance reviews

Well today my boss called, and informed me that he wants to do my final performance appraisal sometime this week, and set my next yearís goals. I told him if heís busy, just Email it to me and Iíll sign it.

Our performance reviews are such jokes, and after 27 years of working for this company, if I donít know what I should be doing by now itís too late.

Happy dance last performance review Ė ever!
When I switched from working full-time to part-time, my performance reviews became less formal. But in my last few years, they disappeared altogether which was fine with me. All I cared to know was what my raise and bonus would be.

Similarly, when I switched to part-time, I did not have to write any more performance reviews for others. That was even better than not getting any more written for me. I still had to provide feedback about subordinates to others writing their reviews, but that was fine, and I always had to do that. And I was free to write it any way I desired, as the actual reviewer would incsert it in some form into the actual performance review.
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