Call the hotel ahead of time to see if they have foam egg crates to put on the bed if not soft enough? I've been told some cruiselines make these available, why not a hotel??
less stuff, more time
(48, married; DH 52. I am fully retired as of 2015 (well ok, I still work part-time but only because I love the job and have complete freedom to call off if I want to travel with hubby for work), DH will fully retire 2018 when he turns 55 to access 401K penalty-free)