Originally Posted by ERD50
Revisionist history perhaps?
Who is going to strongly disagree with a 'date'? There won't be a next date. But marriage brings a level of commitment, and that commitment can whether some reasonable level of disagreement.
edit - cross-posted with your last entry. I agree with that also.
I would like to briefly respond to the first part.
I have never felt that being compelled to continue with something is somehow good. "Make this work or be prepared to lose your kids, your home, and way too much of your money." I think going to therapy and the whole modern rigmarole of "saving the marriage" is mostly wasted effort, other than as a way to try to protect children. There is no real reason to think a man or woman should be any happier working along trying to iron out problems, than just dating with the freedom to change partners when and if it was no longer any good. You do have to figure that if you are alone and old and sick, you may be in trouble, but you are in trouble anyway if you are old and sick. Many of us will have kids and other more widely distributed relationships that can help.
One the topic of commitment, I think if your SO gets sick, you owe a commitment to her. But if she wants to behave however she wants, without checking with you, or give you a big list of things that you must do, or just get very temperamental and easily angered, or even psychotic, IMO you didn't commit to having your life ruined by someone's personality problems.