Thanks for sharing so candidly, and congratulations on your wife's recovery!!
Poor BIL, how can anybody ever be sure they did the right thing in a case like that? We have a friend, a "never sick a day in my life" clean-living person, who went into the hospital for fairly minor surgery, contracted MRSA, nearly died from it, and has never been the same since.
If you understood everything I say, you'd be me ~ Miles Davis
'There is only one success – to be able to spend your life in your own way.’ Christopher Morley.