Originally Posted by Rich_in_Tampa
Therein lies the rub. While no physician would ethically force treatment in a situation of utter futility, we are very, very bad at knowing who will be the 1 in 10 or one in 1000 who will make a meaningful recovery. Add to that the unknown quality of life after such a near-death expeirence, and you get real humble real fast.
Exactly. I think the best I can do is:
1. Review their living will and durable health care POA and then have discussions and Q&A sessions with Mom and Dad about what they want. (done)
2. If/when something happens, consult with the doctors and get the clearest and best diagnosis and best estimate of a prognosis.
3. Consult with my two sisters.
4. Make the best decision I can based on their document, their wishes, the doctors' information, and my sisters input.
I don't like that it's inexact and uncertain, but there doesn't seem to be any other option.