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Old 08-05-2009, 02:27 PM   #161
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So sorry you are not feeling well Ratface! We are all pulling for you. Please do address the issue with your doc and see what can be done to help you. Hope you are also letting your support network (in person not only cyber!) help you out! If there were ever a time in your life when you need them it is now...
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Old 08-05-2009, 05:05 PM   #162
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just plug along one day at a time. it goes so fast.
sometimes when I felt really sick, I would just pretend it wasn't happening, read a book, watch a movie,...just for a break!
And you are getting alot all at once, the sleep stuff will settle down when you get all the "first time" stuff over with.
Soon you'll be an old timer in the chemo chair, you'll learn to bring a book and a few graham crackers and ginger ale. ZOFRAN is the anti nausea, it's your friend, its great.
take care, kitty
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Old 08-06-2009, 11:45 AM   #163
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I also think that you are handling this with an amazing amount of grace. I know that many hospitals offer Reiki as a service for their patients undergoing chemo....it is a non-invasive enery healing that will help your body to stabilize the chemo and to help you be positive as you undergo this journey in your life.
Once your doctor approves it, you can also get Oncology massage which will help you detox the chemicals.
I will be praying for you....it will get better
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Old 08-07-2009, 09:34 AM   #164
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Hi everyone its great to hear the constant encouragement. I hope this is not getting too long in the tooth and if the administrators think its gone to long let me know. I feel that you folks really do want to know what is happening so I keep posting. All of your PM's have been uplifting. Today Friday marks the first complete week of Radiation and Chemo. I am in much better spirits than my last post. Had a long talk with the Doc with me in a complete state of basket caseness. He prescribed some anti-depressent meds and I have been sleeping like a rock. We revisited initial ground but now have some more info in regards to the confirmation of primary site which he sees as positive as he states its a very small tumor. Knowing the site allows concentration of the Rads rather than treating a larger area in guesswork. This can be a bad form of cancer that can re-ocurr. He continues to state that he is treating with an intent to cure and is optimistic in that respect. He says we climb the mountain one step at a time as he leads and I follow. DW says she will push. The weekend is comming up and I hope to get to the rural farmhouse and relax some. Also have to contract with someone there to cut the grass the remainder of this year. Fellow will meet me there on Saturday. It seems that if you get cancer these things should stop. This week I had to unstop a drain and fight an infestation of carpenter ants. First time I got off my butt and felt like doing anything.
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Old 08-07-2009, 09:46 AM   #165
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I have every hope that all this unpleasantness is soon over and that it leaves you in a better "place" than before it came. I feel rather funny praying for "Ratface" but I figure the Big Guy knows who you are!! LOL!!
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Old 08-07-2009, 09:52 AM   #166
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I sure that you should have no worries Rattie about talking about your experience. I trust that it will help not only you but others of us who will be in your shoes someday.
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Old 08-07-2009, 02:43 PM   #167
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Also have to contract with someone there to cut the grass the remainder of this year. Fellow will meet me there on Saturday. It seems that if you get cancer these things should stop. This week I had to unstop a drain and fight an infestation of carpenter ants. First time I got off my butt and felt like doing anything.
This is the stuff that can convince you that parts of your life are still normal!

Average, mundane, annoying aggravation can take your mind off the big, life-altering emergencies.

It's sad when drains and bugs are good for you, and restful in a perverse way, , but "been there, done that" for different kinds of problems.

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I am so glad that you got anti-depressants and that you can sleep!! Not only that, but you have made it through a full week of chemo and radiation, not a small accomplishment at all.

And yes, as Martha says your posts help not only you, but others who are reading your posts who either may be facing similar situations now, or may face them in the future.
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"a complete state of basket caseness. "
Thanks for that fine descriptive phrase - I plan to steal it for future use.

" It seems that if you get cancer these things should stop. This week I had to unstop a drain and fight an infestation of carpenter ants "

It does seem unfair. Those ants had some nerve.
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Since you can make other people laugh, you must be feeling a little better!
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This week I had to unstop a drain and fight an infestation of carpenter ants.
Man, I hope those were two separate and unrelated incidents...
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Hang in there, guy, you're doing everything right, and we're with you!
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Hope you had a good weekend and are feeling better. Wishing you all the best.
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Ratface,

Hope you had a nice weekend at the farmhouse and the grass didn't grow three feet this week just for kicks. It might be in cahoots with the plumbing and the carpenter ants...

Do keep posting. We want to keep telling you what a great job you're doing. Hang in there!
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Old 08-09-2009, 08:16 PM   #174
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The farmhouse lifts my spirits but it also diminshes them if you can understand the dichotemy of it all. This is where I planned to retire to a peaceful existence which is no longer possible for me. The man who will cut the grass showed up and did a wonderful job. I stood watching sort of depressed as I oddly enough really enjoyed taking care of my place. I contracted with him thru November to keep things tidy. Yet being there was good for me and the family. My daughter drove all the way, 2 1/2 hours and this is only her third time behind the wheel. She just got her permit and this was her mother's car. She did great on the interstate, thank god for the anti-depressents, every parent should be given a bottle of these with a new driving permit. I've been eating like a horse in anticipation of what is to come. The idea here is to put the calories on as much as possible. The right jaw bone is starting to hurt and I don't go very far now without a water bottle. Mouth is very dry. I was able to cut some brush with my tractor and do some general chores.
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The farmhouse lifts my spirits...This is where I planned to retire to a peaceful existence which is no longer possible for me.
And why is that? You think peace will elude you for the rest of your life?

I would seriously doubt that. Get back to me in 6 months. Your spirit will heal just as will your disease.
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And why is that? You think peace will elude you for the rest of your life?

I would seriously doubt that. Get back to me in 6 months. Your spirit will heal just as will your disease.
Yeah..........I second that. A short term derailment of your plans, that is all. Hope you have a good week Ratface.
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I'm fearing the sword of domecleus among other things. I do hear that this will diminsih with time. I'm also concerned with the level of medical availability if we were to move to a rural area. This had been the long term plan all along. I've also come to realize the huge amount of support that we have at our disposal and am beginning to re-evaluate if it will be prudent to leave it all behind. There are new financial issues to reconsider as my pension drops down to 1/2 for spouse upon my demise. My cancer is not as rosy as I had initially expected. My prognosis is probably around 60% given my personal attributes and staging. It also has a high reocurrance. I have to be realistic. This is a financial planning and retirement forumn. It's too early for these types of decisions to be made but they must be contemplated. The farmhouse might need to be sold at some future point. In six months if I can get a clear pet scan I think Rich is right, we re-evaluate from there.
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...It's too early for these types of decisions to be made but they must be contemplated. The farmhouse might need to be sold at some future point. In six months if I can get a clear pet scan I think Rich is right, we re-evaluate from there.
You're right Ratface (still have trouble calling you that...but anyway), don't make any rash moves. Hold on the best you can, try to keep the dream alive. If you have to sell it in a year, you have to sell it. But it will probably help you to have something to dream about and look forward to. Hang in there.

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PS: I wish I would have had the anti-depressants in the summer of last year, and again this summer, while DD is learning to drive.
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I think you're starting a movement for parents of teens...maybe i'll call the dr!
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