I'm scheduled to visit a doctor for the first time in ~20 years.
What should I talk about?
I have some minor things to be taken care of; I need some long term pain-killers.
Is there something I should ask about (I'm 62).
My insurance will pay for "a physical", what should that entail?
Finding the right doctor (in this case, Primary Care Physician)
for you is important. You want someone who will listen, communicate well, answer all your questions, and whose skill & judgement you trust. A few articles that may help you in how to find the right doctor for you:
selecting a primary care physician - Google Search
selecting the best primary care physician for you - Google Search
Your first visit will likely be some sort of "get acquainted visit", which it should be. Some doctors charge for a "get acquainted" and some do not -- call and ask. If there is no charge for that visit, don't expect to discuss particulars; that will come next.
Hopefully, the first one you see will work out for you, but if not, don't be afraid to find another, even if it takes a few tries. This is important, and is
SO worth the effort! I'm sure there are many folks here who've "fired" doctors that weren't a good mix for them for myriad reasons. If specialists become necessary later on, it's your PCP who will act as coordinator (quarterback), so s/he's got to be someone you can work with.
Other posters have covered the medical history, notes, exam & tests, etc. Medicine has changed a bit in 20 years. Most doctors nowadays (IME) prefer to limit visits to one or two medical issues. You can bring a list, but don't be surprised if the doc asks you to prioritize and pick one or two issues to discuss at this visit and leave the rest for subsequent visits.
A note of caution you mention need for long term painkillers. Of course discuss your pain issues and how you have been trying to control it and that you need help dealing with it. Be careful though about requesting drugs. It is a sad fact that there are people who make the rounds of doctors under various guises seeking narcotics and many of us are very wary of new patients who are asking for drugs. I totally understand that you are not one of those people but I would bring it up gently and listen to your doctor's plans for pain management and work up and if necessary ask after that for medicine. This is a very tough issue because so many of us have been deceived too many times.
Congratulations on making the appointment and good luck!
I agree with most of this (from a pain patient's POV). A few articles that may help can be found here:
talk doctor pain - Google Search
Tyro