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Old 09-28-2012, 03:33 AM   #21
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Good news - congratulations to you and to your parents.

I will face similar issues with my mom, 83 years and living alone in a much too big house + garden. She enjoys gardening and will stay there as long as she can. 150 miles away from us. We visit for one weekend /month.

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Old 09-28-2012, 05:03 AM   #22
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Thanks for the update. What a relief it must be for everyone they are in a place where they can get by on their own.

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Old 09-28-2012, 05:55 AM   #23
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Is this in a place that has assisted living available if they need it later?
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Old 09-28-2012, 10:24 PM   #24
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Thanks for all your concerns.

Yes....if needed they can transfer to 1 or 2 bedroom assisted living apartments from their independent living duplex and then if needed beyond to a full skilled care nursing facility. The good thing is they can participate in all the assisted living activites if they want at no charge other than meals...these they can order day by day on an al a carte basis and join in on group meals at $6/day per person. To date they are cooking on their own but I think will give perhaps 1 to 2 group meals a week a try. The best of both worlds right now....we hope they can manage on their own yet for some time. The only level of care not offerd is a specific dementia/Alzheimer's area.
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Old 09-28-2012, 10:47 PM   #25
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An old thread with a happy ending parents, now age 91 and 89 finally realized they could no longer manage alone in their home. Steps were a large factor. More worries and room than they needed. We began touring/searching alternatives in April 2012. Looked at independent living and assisted living. We found it interesing that some independendent living locations frowned on a couple that age giving it a try...worked to get us to assisted living right away or perahps a hybrid of partially assisted living. My parents made the decision on their own. Selected a wonderful 2 bedroom super nice independent living all on one floor duplex with their own front door and own garage (Dad still driving!), signed on, moved June 1, listed and sold home and closed September 7. Good neighbors, good activities, good and safe set up with all they need....very spacious. Wow...they now only think of this as "home"....looking to the future and not the did we finally get so lucky after so many years of wandering? My DW and I simply backed off and "helped" them survive in their home a little less....we did our thing, let them fend on their own a bit more,and stopped enabling them the ongoing ability to live alone in their own home with all the pitfalls they now avoid. What an improved situation for all!!
Wonderful outcome! So glad to read that everything worked out nicely after all.

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