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Old 06-22-2007, 08:47 AM   #21
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I was diagnosed with testicular cancer that had spread to my lymph nodes 25 years ago. The experience was terrifying but I also felt a sense of elation with a heightened awareness of the beauty of life and the love of my family and friends. Those who were closest to me lessened the fear by letting me share it with them and I was able to convey some of the wonder I was feeling so that they could share that as well. Unfortunately, when you survive, that feeling tends to fade.

Now, 25 years later, I can barely call up a glimmer of that feeling. I have had other serious health problems and have long since accepted my mortality. Now when friends of mine are sick, I just let them guide me as to what they need. Some want to hear about my experience, others don't. Most just want someone there to accept their feelings.

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Old 06-22-2007, 09:26 AM   #22
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2soon:

My best wishes are also with you, I hope you become one of those "good statistics" that I hear about.........

I lost my older sister last year to liver cancer.She had breast cancer in 93, and it came back as liver cancer in 2000. She was able to fight it for 6 and a half years, and was the longest term patient her oncologist had ever had.........

So, DW and I are trying hard to make sure we get checked out. My grandfather died of prostate cancer, DW's mom died of ovarian cancer, and my sister now of breast cancer that mesthatised to the liver.........

My prayers are with you........
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Old 06-22-2007, 10:26 AM   #23
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Ok, the forum is telling me to "Hello BigBob it appears that you have not posted on our forums in several weeks, why not take a few moments to ask a question, help provide a solution or just engage in a conversation with another member in any one of our forums? " so here's a brief observation from my perspective.
If you lost 13 people in 2 years, just think how many people that you are very close to! Pretty neat to know that many people.
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Old 06-23-2007, 07:07 PM   #24
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I think they are both strong motivators. Every day we choose from which standpoint we function. IMO, Love tends to take positive forward moving beneficial action, whereas Fear is reactionary and contracts or protects what one thinks they are losing.

They are completely different 'reasons' and distinctly separate perspectives. .. This topic could be a whole other thread!

I am verrry happy for your friend, Gem2007... good for the both of you!

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Old 06-23-2007, 07:14 PM   #25
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That is such a profound service. How many times a day are we 'not accepted' for how we feel? Acceptance of another for just who they are, or how they are feeling is so supportive. Good on you, Grumpy!

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DW lost her brother to Pancreatic cancer 5 years ago and my brother back in November had his prostate removed due to cancer fortunately for him it did not spread to the lymph nodes. He underwent 6 weeks of radiation and so far he is doing good.

It seems that every family is affected by this nasty disease in one way or another.
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Cancer is a mean bastard. Lost my brother to the disease 2 years ago. He was 56. I tried to talk to him about every thing but his problem. I hoped it might help get his mind off it, but I doubt it did much good. I regret now not telling him more how much he meant to me. Hard to know what to say to someone with the disease.

But to the ones here with cancer, it certainly can be beat. My mother had a breast removed when I was in elementary school and she is now 89 and going strong. I know of many successful cases. Good luck!
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I regret now not telling him more how much he meant to me. Hard to know what to say to someone with the disease.
Dawg, I really empathize. Once a loved one is gone, all we have is the hope they can hear us in our prayers. And some people don't believe in that, and it makes the loss of them even harder.

Each time I lose a person close to me, I learn something. There are so many things I wish I had said... I guess that is part of the lesson too. No matter how we look at it, it's still a pretty tender issue...

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Old 06-27-2007, 08:16 PM   #29
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Thanks to all for the kind words of encouragement. I sincerely believe that the strength of our character is formed from not how many times we get knocked down but how many times we get up. I may be a little wobbly but I'm still standing.

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I imagine you are a bit wobbly going through the chemo. Thanks for your posts.
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