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04-02-2019, 01:25 PM
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Wishing you both the best! Hugs!
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04-02-2019, 01:36 PM
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Hang in there. My sister was diagnosed a few months back and rocked the entire family tree. Something that helped me stay positive with the diagnosis was the notion that indeed medical trials are breaking through every week. There might be a new effective trial out next week that wasn't this week. Seek multiple opinions from multiple experts. Sorry to hear the unfortunate news.
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04-02-2019, 01:37 PM
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Full time employment: Posting here.
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We (she) may be one of the lucky ones; it is the most common type of breast cancer and treatable. As long as it has not spread to the lymph nodes, it may be surgery (lumpectomy) and hormone suppression. We meet with the surgeon tomorrow.
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04-02-2019, 02:34 PM
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Thanks for the update—sounds like a very hopeful case! Best to your DW and you.
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04-02-2019, 02:43 PM
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Recycles dryer sheets
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Quote:
Originally Posted by erkevin
We (she) may be one of the lucky ones; it is the most common type of breast cancer and treatable. As long as it has not spread to the lymph nodes, it may be surgery (lumpectomy) and hormone suppression. We meet with the surgeon tomorrow.
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Great! If she can skip chemo, that's wonderful. Thinking of you both - ask the surgeon LOTS of questions. <3
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04-02-2019, 11:07 PM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by kgtest
Something that helped me stay positive with the diagnosis was the notion that indeed medical trials are breaking through every week. There might be a new effective trial out next week that wasn't this week.
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It's good to be optimistic when fighting cancer. But be realistic about the trials. Most trials are experimental in nature (i.e, the outcome is not certain). Sometimes, trial development may take a long time before they are ready to start. And often, patients seek them out as the last resort (and won't qualify). Above was the case for my younger brother (RIP).
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04-03-2019, 03:39 AM
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Recycles dryer sheets
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Best wishes for a successful outcome. Lean on family and friends, including here. Medicine is making great strides, have wonderful people (my wife is a nurse) to help you. Keep fighting, stay vigilant. Garner support.
As a very fortunate survivor, there is a benefit to this mayhem. It opens your eyes to what's important, whose important. Enjoy everyday.
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04-03-2019, 05:07 AM
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Give me a museum and I'll fill it. (Picasso) Give me a forum ...
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My thoughts and prayers are with you.
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04-03-2019, 05:14 AM
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So glad to here it's treatable! Take care of yourselves, and do come here for whatever help and comfort we can give you - that's what communities are for, after all.
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04-03-2019, 08:23 AM
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Sending healing thoughts - my DW and I went through this back in 2006 and we can relate. Stay strong!
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04-03-2019, 03:16 PM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by mystang52
So sorry about that diagnosis. I strongly urge you to seek out a specialist for the particular cancer your wife has. Cause for hope is that a cancer diagnosis, while of course scary, is not an automatic death sentence. I should know - I'm a survivor of 2 different cancers.
I was an emotional wreck with my first (leukemia) diagnosis. It took a while but I learned how to emotionally deal with it. That diagnosis, by the way, was more than 12 years ago. Feel free to PM me if you wish.
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This. Don't assume your local cancer center has the best outcomes. Reach out to the people here who have offered to assist you, this is a time to engage people to seek the best treatment possible.
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04-03-2019, 03:38 PM
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All the best to you. As others have said this is the time to do all the homework you can. Ask questions and if you're not comfortable with the answers feel free to question. You are in charge. Keep a positive pragmatic approach. Also, the thoughts and prayers from others will help.
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04-03-2019, 06:57 PM
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Wishing you the best.
Recently read a book that made a claim that fasting before and to a day beyond chemo reduced the bad side effects while improving the results of the chemo.
Worth a shot if it comes to that. The book is called the longevity diet.
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04-04-2019, 07:56 AM
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OP, I re examined all my medical records from my (2) cancer DX this morning. The CT scans, bone scans, MRI, oncology reports, I saved them all. I had an Oncotype DX after surgery in 2011. This report tells you probabilities of recurrence after the pathology is examined. Check to see if insurance covers this. My sentinel lymph node biopsy was positive, with microscopic invasive cell(s). The rest of lymph nodes negative. My chance for recurrence was very low. From this report I decided to forgo chemo and radiation. This is a personal choice.
My advice, demand complete explanation of all the medical jargon that is thrown at you. There is so much information to digest. Keep asking questions, if you don't understand, ask again. Second and third opinions are to your benefit. Any Oncologist worth their weight will welcome 2nd and 3rd opinions.
Many healing thoughts sent your way, spiritual, physical and mental.
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04-04-2019, 08:14 AM
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no one wants to hear that they have cancer but it can be treatable and beatable. get the best care available and have a positive attitude. both dw and I are cancer survivors as are many others here.
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04-04-2019, 02:19 PM
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Try to stay strong and positive for each other, and prayers for a good outcome.
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04-04-2019, 06:35 PM
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Wish the best for you and your wife. DW had cancer 20 yrs back, I had stage 4 throat cancer 3 yrs back. Miserable. When you get past it life may change a little.Now if I miss an airline flight or get to deal with tax increases it 'hey, it does not involve radiation & chemo so its no big deal'.
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04-04-2019, 08:04 PM
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Wish you the best. From the description, it seems like it's in the very early stages and the prognosis is very good, which is fortunate. There is some amazing new technologies being developed as well.
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04-05-2019, 03:28 PM
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Sorry to hear about the diagnosis, but please take heart in all the stories here-it is very definitely beatable. My Dad had a 10% survival lung cancer diagnosis in 1984. He lived till 2005 normal (a bit slowed due to the lung operation of course but otherwise normal). He was basically cured because he caught it early and got help.
Have a good cry both of you, then get motivated--beat this thing! Don't be afraid to ask your loved ones for exactly what you do or do not want. Most will go out of their way to help.
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04-06-2019, 01:39 AM
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Sorry to hear erkevin It is a punch to the gut. I am going through this myself now with DW. I don't want to hijack the thread, but our experience so far has gone from terrified/death sentence to looking forward to our plans after treatment.
DW around her 54th bday in Jan of this year, noticed her nipple was inverting...weird huh, of course webmd says everything is cancer so I told her not to look it up online and lets get into the MD right away. Went to the after hours clinic the next day and a lump could be felt, mammogram scheduled and within a week we were doing a biopsy on the tumor. Found out it was a 5cm tumor and one of the most common types of breast cancer. Also found out one of the 'fingers' of the tumor was growing towards her nipple and that is what caused it to be inverted, because it was pulling it in from the inside
The thing that freaked DW was that her mother was diagnosed with BC and died about 2 years later That was about 27 years ago and all I can say is that medicine has come a long way baby!
So we went from thinking with the diagnosis that DW would be dead within two years to having a 90% cure rate with chemo and radiation.
DW had a double mastectomy mid February, they were able to get clear margins around the tumor and the first sentinel lymph node was packed full of cancer cells and were starting to burst through that one but the other 18 they took all tested negative. Resulting in a stage IIb classification. Grade 3 aggressively growing...
Started chemo just this past Wednesday taking two drugs that they call A/C Adriamycin/cyclophosphamide and as I type, has been laid up in bed nauseated and exhausted like no other for the past 56 hours. We're hoping tonight was the worst and she'll start climbing out of the hole tomorrow. Planning on losing her hair around day 17
She has 4 cycles of that, every other week then 4 cycles of taxol every other week after the A/C, then 28 cycles of radiation. Whoo, it seems like her full time job is now going to the myriad of Doctors.
DW was beating herself up for not getting her mammograms on a regular basis and luckily the surgeon let her know that even if she had this was still going to happen, they 'might' have caught it earlier but not necessarily so.
All I can say is be there for your DW and be her support, my wife found it difficult to lose her breasts and I am thinking the hair loss is going to be another biggie. I offered to shave my head to match her soon to be bald head, but she said no go, I guess she is afraid of my huge misshapen head
Hang in there and God bless.
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