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Old 03-21-2014, 10:48 AM   #41
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I think mid life crises is a nudge from your soul to do something that makes your heart happy .
I think for me it was waking up one morning and looking around then asking myself "How the hell did I get into this situation?"
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Old 03-21-2014, 05:01 PM   #42
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Do any of you feel you went thru a midlife crisis where you didnt know what you wanted to do, but you just wanted to do something different?
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I think mid life crises is a nudge from your soul to do something that makes your heart happy I cannot imagine doing the same things year after year....what a boring way to live...for me...
My midlife crisis when I was 40 caused me to leave a cushy job at a megacorp to found a couple of startups with friends of the same mind. The businesses later floundered despite our hard work. I have scars to show for it. I never went back to a megacorp, but by doing freelancing and contract work still managed to retire early. Whew... It could have been a lot worse.

No, never a desire for a fast car, or a mistress... My crisis then was more about the rest of my life, what else I could do outside of megacorps. After the humbling experience, I am now happy just counting my money with Quicken on a good market day. Yes, it could have been worse.
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Old 03-22-2014, 01:29 PM   #43
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Many of us have been in this situation with doubts about out marriage. I highly recommend getting in to see a marriage counselor before it is too late to save.

Best decision I ever made in my life and now we are in a very happy place years later.
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Old 03-31-2014, 09:17 AM   #44
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was my first thought.
I quit smoking yrs. ago and had a lot of the same symptoms.
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I had a midlife crisis 13 years ago at the age of 45. Just gave the result a spring cleaning.

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Nice looking car after 13 years. Either you have really pampered it, or used Photoshop.
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Nice looking car after 13 years. Either you have really pampered it, or used Photoshop.
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Nice looking car after 13 years. Either you have really pampered it, or used Photoshop.
Thanks - No photoshop. Just got lucky with the sunlight in the photo. Pampered, but not really pampered- it sits in the garage from November to April. But I have taken out a deer with it. Only has 79k miles

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I had a midlife crisis 13 years ago at the age of 45. Just gave the result a spring cleaning.

Nice! I always treated my "65 Vette better than most things. I should have never sold it.

I drove back from Oklahoma City today and followed a new 2014 Z06 Vette (pure white) for about 200 miles on I-45. Older fellow was driving it. All I can say is wow.
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One of my favorite blog posts from NYT.... great perspective on men, women, marriage and the mid life crises that we face...

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By LAURA A. MUNSON
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Sure, you have your marital issues, but on the whole you feel so self-satisfied about how things have worked out that you would never, in your wildest nightmares, think you would hear these words from your husband one fine summer day: I dont love you anymore. Im not sure I ever did. Im moving out. The kids will understand. Theyll want me to be happy.

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And I saw what had been missing: pride. Hed lost pride in himself. Maybe thats what happens when our egos take a hit in midlife and we realize were not as young and golden anymore.

My husband had become lost in the myth. But he found his way out. Weve since had the hard conversations. In fact, he encouraged me to write about our ordeal. To help other couples who arrive at this juncture in life. People who feel scared and stuck. Who believe their temporary feelings are permanent. Who see an easy out, and think they can escape.

My husband tried to strike a deal. Blame me for his pain. Unload his feelings of personal disgrace onto me.
But I ducked. And I waited. And it worked.
Mod edit; Indeed a wonderful post, but copyright rules protect the content (see Gumby's sticky here). The original post is here, behind a paywall that allows a few free views.
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Wow, that is a great post--thank you very much for sharing it. I really can appreciate it a lot, though thankfully not having experienced it entirely. But I do have one of those midlife husbands, who has been working very hard on that ego/happiness thing since leaving his job this past summer.
Really glad you dug that up, papa.
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Many thanks to both the OP (original poster, Brian) for starting this thread and for all those who have contributed to it. When this started, I never expected this to remain a civil discussion; I am both impressed and grateful.

Based on the views/replies ratio of this thread, I am assuming many others have found it useful in some way but have been following it quietly as I had been. Even though I do not have anything useful or insightful to contribute, I did want to publicly thank all who have done so and remind you that you are helping more than one person (OP), likely many more.
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That's a fantastic story papadad - thanks for posting it here.
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To the OP : I am 49 also and also going through a mid life crisis. Right now, in your shoes, I would stay put and seek medical advice. Psych consult might be indicated. Good luck and take care.
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To the OP : I am 49 also and also going through a mid life crisis. Right now, in your shoes, I would stay put and seek medical advice. Psych consult might be indicated. Good luck and take care.
Noone wants to know if you are taking your own advice and seeing a shrink.
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