Originally Posted by freebird5825
I can relate to Khan's post on several levels. Some of us draw the "DNA from hell" card in life.
My one surviving parent is my biological father, estranged for several decades. My siblings are not much better. It's been that way for years. This is "normal" for me. At the age of 28, I figured out that I have no control over their behavior, but I do have control over my own reaction to it. This is very empowering.
Fast forward to the present...I became very popular with "the family" when I was suddenly widowed 5 years ago, but I smartly held it all at bay.
I choose to surround myself with positive people, hence my string of "adopted" relatives who are really close friends. Life is good.
I will clarify something.
Father was faithful and caring and took care of Mother as her condition kept deteriorating.
I just never got along with any of them but Mother.
Probably it's nobody's 'fault'.