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Old 01-25-2010, 06:02 PM   #21
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At the age of 28, I figured out that I have no control over their behavior, but I do have control over my own reaction to it. This is very empowering.
Amen! You figured this out sooner than I did but I'm there now too.

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Originally Posted by freebird5825 View Post
I can relate to Khan's post on several levels. Some of us draw the "DNA from hell" card in life.
My one surviving parent is my biological father, estranged for several decades. My siblings are not much better. It's been that way for years. This is "normal" for me. At the age of 28, I figured out that I have no control over their behavior, but I do have control over my own reaction to it. This is very empowering.
Fast forward to the present...I became very popular with "the family" when I was suddenly widowed 5 years ago, but I smartly held it all at bay.
I choose to surround myself with positive people, hence my string of "adopted" relatives who are really close friends. Life is good.
I will clarify something.

Father was faithful and caring and took care of Mother as her condition kept deteriorating.

I just never got along with any of them but Mother.

Probably it's nobody's 'fault'.

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You are not alone Khan. No sense being around where you are not wanted. And you hit the nail on the head Freebird! For me, it had taken years to get over the hurt and realization and get on with life. Now life is great and I have surrounded myself with great friends.

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